Want A More Harmonious Marriage? Then Read This…

Far too many marriages have become complex, emotionally-driven interactions of disharmony and discord.

And there is such a simple, easy way to make all of that disharmony and discord go away…

But, it does require that one set aside all false pride, selfishness, and spitefulness.

For every given circumstance, situation and condition, there’s a certain way you want to be interacted with, dealt with, or treated like.

And, for that same circumstance, situation and condition, your spouse likewise has a certain way – and possibly a quite different way – that they want to be interacted with, dealt with, or treated like.

Therein is the secret to creating and enjoying greater harmony in your marriage…

For each and every circumstance, situation or condition that your spouse finds themselves in, have the respect for them to put forth the effort to interact with them, deal with them, or treat them in the way THEY want and like.

In simple terms, treat your spouse the way they want to be treated – not the way you want to be treated and definitely NOT the way you THINK they ought to want to be treated.

Likewise, take the time to lovingly EDUCATE your spouse on how to interact with you the way you want when you’re in that same circumstance, situation, or condition.

Here’s an example… How do you like to be dealt with when you’re not feeling well – say with a cold or a bad headache?

It may be that you’re like a grumpy old bear who doesn’t want to be touched, talked to, or messed with – you just want to be left alone.

And, just because that’s what you want and like when you’re sick, IN NO WAY does that mean that’s what your spouse wants and likes when they’re sick.

When they’re sick, they may very well want you to pay close attention to them, stay by their side, baby them, and or pamper them.

Again, just because you want things a certain way in a given situation doesn’t mean that your spouse wants them that way when they are in that same situation.

And when you recognize this, and begin to interact with your spouse in the way they want and your spouse begins to interact with you in the way you want, all that disharmony and discord will just melt away – leaving peacefulness, respect, appreciation, and lovingness in its place.

And ultimately, that’s a big part of what you want out of your marriage, is it not?

The truth is, creating and enjoying a beautiful, harmonious marriage really is as simple as both marriage partners choosing to treat their spouse the way they want to be treated.

Copyright 2008, Article by Calle Zorro. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if a resource box pointing to http://www.marriedandhappy.com/ is included with it.

Your Wife’s Secret Desire…

It’s a desire that she has been forced to squelch for years and years…

It just wouldn’t be proper for her to express her heart’s secret desire.

You should know that this desire is at the core of ALL her fantasies…

Whether she ever tells you about them or not, these fantasies are waltzing across the dance floor of her mind constantly.

She’s had this desire for a really, really long time…

In fact, if you were to go back in time, all the way back to when she was a little girl out on the playground…

There were two team captains…they were picking players for their respective team…and there she was…a little girl, her pony-tails bouncing, jumping up and down, waving her arms in the air, and shouting:

“Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!”

And now, she doesn’t jump up and down. Now, she doesn’t wave her arms around in the air. Now, she doesn’t say a word…

But inside of her, there’s a voice that’s every bit as urgent as when she was a little girl that’s crying out:

“Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!”

The only difference is that instead of wanting some team captain to pick her for a mere game, she now wants a strong, masculine MAN to “pick” her.

To her, being “picked” out of a crowd of available females by a MAN is the ultimate romantic concept.

To her, there’s nothing else that excites and satisfies her like being singled out and picked by a MAN does.

Her heart yearns to be that girl who gets chosen by a MAN. This is your wife’s secret desire.

Few men seem to realize or grasp this notion – which is fortunate for you – because if your wife ever did encounter such a man who knew how to play to her secret desire – you’d get to watch and see for yourself just how much of a sexual livewire your wife really is – while you sat out in the cold sidelines.

Unfortunately, some men will find this article AFTER their wife has met up with such a man. Hopefully, you’ve found this article BEFORE your wife meets up with such a man.

Either way, if you wish to win and keep your wife, you must NOW become the man who knows how to fulfill her secret desire – you must NOW become the man who knows how to fulfill her fantasies where in one way or another, you’re her MAN who “picks” her over all the other females around her.

And in doing so, you’ll touch an emotional nerve that runs so deep and so powerful through your wife that you’ll be amazed by her response.

Copyright 2008, Article by Calle Zorro. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if a resource box pointing to http://www.marriedandhappy.com/ is included with it.

How The Power of Your Mind Affects Your Marriage…

It’s inevitable; your spouse does something that irritates you. And then, in the UNHEARD space of your mind you gripe and vent to yourself about how much your spouse irritates you or how mad they make you. You may even go so far as to dwell upon thoughts of how much you don’t like them, how much you wish they were just gone.

But, those thoughts are just the start… Now, you really get going… In the UNSEEN recesses of your mind, you start imagining all kinds of sordid ways to “cure” your spouse, to “correct” them, to “fix” them, and especially, to get back at them, to get even with them, to punish them. Before long, if you don’t curb it, you can have a scene going on in your head that far exceeds anything ever seen in a horror movie.

The problem is, your unheard thoughts and unseen imaginations have a very real, very tangible power to them that over time has a major negative impact upon your marriage.

With the thoughts and imaginations of your mind, you are literally cursing your marriage relationship. You’re mentally PROJECTING ill-will, hatred, resentment, bitterness, and strife into your marriage – and every time you do this, it widens the gap between you and your spouse.

And, as you get more and more experienced at having these negative thoughts and imaginations about your spouse, they become more and more powerful – and this stronger energy separates you even further from them.

Now, let me ask you, how much sense does it make to think and imagine even more trouble, distance, and division into your marriage relationship? I think you’ll agree with me that it really doesn’t make much sense at all.

But, if you have the power to do it “wrong”, then you must necessarily also have the power to do it “right”.

The “right” way is to use your mind to think, to imagine, to project goodwill, lovingness, supportiveness, and appreciation for your spouse.

ESPECIALLY, when you’re mad at your spouse…that’s when above all times you want to DEMAND of yourself that you channel and control your thoughts and imaginations in the positive direction.

This can be a real test of one’s will-power. For most people, it really “rubs against their grain” to even consider the notion of not giving into negative thoughts, imaginations and emotions when their spouse does something that displeases them.

But when you do, you unleash one of the most powerful forces available to you…the power of NON-RESISTANCE.

Water serves as a wonderful example. You can “hit” water as hard as you want – and you can’t hurt it. You can put water into any shape or form and it molds itself to the form unharmed. It’s non-resistant. And yet, if you “resist” that water in certain ways, it’s powerful enough to cut you into pieces, to crush you, to totally destroy you.

It’s the same in your marriage, when you let those irritating things that inevitably crop up in a marriage “flow on by like water” without any resistance, they have no energy with which they can harm you. Conversely, the more you resist them, the more powerful they become – even to the point of destroying your marriage.

And, you let them “flow on by” by focusing your mind upon the outcome and the results that you want in your marriage. If your spouse has done something hurtful, focus your mind upon thoughts and imaginations of them being a loving, caring, non-hurtful person. Create a scene in your mind of them being a person that really meets your needs and pleases you in every way.

In doing so, you mentally project blessings into your marriage. And as before, those unseen, unheard thoughts and imaginations have a very real, a very tangible power that will soon enough be seen and heard in the physical realm of your marriage.

Give this a try for yourself. Try it out the next time you’re offended at your spouse and prove to yourself that your persistently loving and non-resistant mind directed at your spouse will smooth out whatever the trouble is in a way faster, more peaceful, more harmonious way than the negative, resistance approach ever has.

Copyright 2008, Article by Calle Zorro. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if a resource box pointing to http://www.marriedandhappy.com/ is included with it.

How To Flirt With Your Wife…

Let’s suppose for a moment that you learned the art of being a man who consistently flirted with his wife in a way that she found very enjoyable and fulfilling…

Just how much do you imagine that would impact your marriage relationship for the good?

Well, let me tell you one way it would impact your relationship; your lady would be “turned on” towards you far more than she is now – and that’s something you could handle, couldn’t you?

If so, grab hold of these three elements of flirting:

1. Your wife wants you to show love towards her in HER way – not yours.

What’s “her” way?

Her way is the same way a mother loves a child – lots of warm hugs and pats, lots of interest in what the child is doing, thinking, etc. And of course, this loving is never done in a belittling way – as a superior looking down on an inferior – because that isn’t love – that’s condescension. Rather, it’s a coming together – an interaction based on acceptance and appreciation for each other – exactly as each one is.

That’s something you could do for your wife, could you not? If you really chose to, you know you could just take some time every so often and SET ASIDE everything you want, SET ASIDE everything you’re unhappy about, SET ASIDE all judgment and criticism, SET ASIDE everything except an unvarnished, pure interaction of acceptance, appreciation, and genuine interest.

And, don’t be fooled – you’re not giving up anything nor are you losing out on anything. Here’s the thing, while this is certainly about her, IT’S MORE ABOUT YOU! Fellow, this is self-interest and self-preservation and the more you show the right kind of interest in your wife, the more of the right kind of interest she’ll show in you.

Now, from a man’s perspective, this may not seem all that “sexy” and may not at all seem related to flirting. But, in a woman’s mind it is and it’s vitally important because it opens the door – it opens her mind – it warms her body – it enables her to escalate to the next level of sexual desire…

2. Your wife wants to feel like she belongs to and thereby augments and compliments her husband.

Obviously, your wife doesn’t want to feel like a demeaned, belittled, invaluable, throw-away possession. Nor does she want to feel like she’s obsessively controlled and dictated to like some weak-minded imbecile. But, she very much wants to feel like a prized, valuable, meaningful, sought-after lady – one who is CLAIMED by her husband! She wants her husband to think of her as his chosen one, his first-pick, his one and only lady.

From your own life-experiences, you no doubt realize that far too many men DO NOT generate this feeling in their wife. In fact, they generate quite the opposite…by the way they look at other women, by the way the use their time, by the way they direct their attention, by the way they interact with their wife, by all the little things they do, they leave their wife feeling like she’s in a massive competition, a massive struggle to even stay on her husband’s radar screen.

And, as you might expect, the result is a very non-sexual wife.

Obviously, that’s not what you want. So, ask yourself, “How can I give my wife this feeling of “meaningful belonging” that she so strongly craves?”

Could you tell her just before you leave for the office, in your strongest, most masculine way and with just a hint of a smile, “You’re MY lady and don’t you ever forget it!”

If your wife is in the yard when you drive up, could you cat-call or whistle at her from your car window then hang your head out and say something like, “Hey good looking…I saw you from the road and I just had to pull in and tell you that I want you to be my girl…but, only if you come kiss me on the lips!”

You know within yourself that you could do all this. And, you can do more…you can take these two examples I’ve just given you and extend them in ways that not only show your wife she’s “yours” but also shows her that she’s your prize and that she augments, complements, enhances, and fulfills you.

Also, keep in mind, the way you TOUCH your lady can generate this feeling within her every bit as much and even more so than the things you say. Your big, strong hand in the lower curve of her back is one such touch.

3. Your wife wants to be touched in soft-sexual ways

Given the proper environment and stimulus, a woman is a very sexual being. And, a woman likes it best when her man helps her bring out her sexual side by HINTING at it by words and especially by touch.

A direct breast-pinch or vulva-area grope is NOT a soft-sexual touch!

A soft-sexual touch is gently “combing” your fingers through her fingers and softly grazing your finger-tips across her wrists, the top of her hand, her palms, down her fingers, and matching your finger-tips to her finger-tips.

A soft-sexual touch is light finger-drawing anywhere on her body that she likes except her most intimate areas (that comes later).

A soft-sexual touch is one that lets her know you find her appealing, attractive, and enjoyable.

A soft-sexual touch is one that directs her attention to her own body and its desire for physical expression.

And, with a little self-control, you can give your wife these kinds of touches that she enjoys so much, can’t you?

In conclusion, if you were a husband who understood the art of flirting with your wife in a way that she found satisfying, you’d consistently do these three things:

1. You’d frequently give your wife her kind of love.
2. You’d often demonstrate to your wife that you claim her as your most cherished, sought-after prize.
3. You’d regularly touch her in soft-sexual ways.

And you’d consistently enjoy an affectionate, warm, highly-intimate relationship.

Copyright 2008, Article by Calle Zorro. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if a resource box pointing to http://www.marriedandhappy.com/ is included with it.