I Wish I Had A Hot, Sexy Wife...

Men by the millions are right now thinking to themselves, "I wish I had a hot sexy wife" ... but they aren't willing to "pay the price" to have one.

They aren't willing to pay the price of learning what they need to learn. They aren't willing to pay the price of doing what they need to do. And so, because they aren't willing to pay the price, they get to do without...and they go home to a cold, unhappy wife who is eventually going to get fed up with their unwillingness to "pay the price" and leave for a man who HAS "paid the price".

And to me, the part that seems "not very smart" is that these men are going to pay through the nose when their wife leaves them.

Statistics reveals that the average "price" of a divorce is around $10,000 -- not to mention ongoing payment of alimony, child support and other losses suffered through the division and disposal of assets. That's why 1 in 5 men who go through a divorce end up bankrupt.

Further, when you consider that 1 out of every 2 men goes through a divorce at some point in his life, I'm wondering...isn't it better to be that one guy who willingly invests a few $20's in learning how to get his relationship working well for both he and his wife so that he can AVOID being the "other" guy who gets forced to pay thousands later on?

I'll give you this one for free...

The man who enjoys success isn't really concerned about the cost. He's only concerned about getting what he wants and the cost is incidental. He knows that whatever the cost is, he will have completely forgotten about it within a few weeks – if not days. But, he'll get to enjoy HAVING what he wanted for the rest of his life.

And so, his point of view is NOT "how much does this cost?" Rather, his point of view is, "What will this give me?"

Which point of view do you think is more useful? We all get to pay the "price" sooner or later. The question we must all ask of ourselves is this...

"Can I afford to foolishly wait until "later" when it's way more expensive...or should I just be smart and pay "sooner" when it's way cheaper?"

The smart guy will go here: www.MarriedAndHappy.com/Catalog and take the cheaper route.

Copyright 2009 by Calle Zorro, MarriedAndHappy.com

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Is Your Marriage In Trouble? Is Your Wife Saying, "It's Not You, It's Me"?

Frequently, husbands come to me AFTER their wife doesn't want to talk to them, rejects any form of touch or intimacy, and indicates that she feels a need to go "sort out her thoughts and find herself" in some place where her husband is NOT.

Typically, these husbands come to me in a state of "shock" because although they knew their marriage wasn't all that great, they thought it was ok enough to continue on.

But, not for their wife – for the wife, the marriage is no longer suitable enough to continue. The wife is no longer willing to continue on in the unhappy state and situation that she's in.

Usually, these husbands tell me that everything was fine in their marriage up until a few days, maybe a few weeks, sometimes a few months ago.

The thing is, men fail to understand how women generally handle problems and unhappiness differently than they do.

There are always exceptions, but most men will "externalize" a problem that's making them unhappy – they'll generally get it out in the open. And, by getting it out in the open, the problem usually somehow gets mitigated down to an acceptable level such that it's no longer considered a problem – it becomes "No big deal".

Conversely, most women will "internalize" a problem that's making them unhappy – they'll simply "stew and simmer" on the problem internally until it completely eats them up from the inside out. And, by the time the "problem" reaches the "outside world", it is a "HUGE problem" – sometimes it's so huge that it has become a "Deal breaker!"

And of course, as these "shocked" husbands get the "news" from their wife, they start asking her a myriad of questions like:

* What's wrong?
* What did I do?
* Did I do something to hurt you?
* What is it that you want?
* What do you want from me?
* What about us?
* Does our relationship and family mean nothing to you?
* What about our future?
* Etc.

And, as the husband peppers his wife with this barrage of questions, she finally responds with something that goes like this:

"I don't know...it's not you...it's me...I don't know what I want any more...I just need to get away so I can think!"

And, with that one response, the wife takes all the wind out of her husband's sails. The husband doesn't have a leg to stand on. There's nothing he can do.

At least, that's what it seems like to him.

Actually, there's a lot he can do...

First, he can realize that HE IS a big part of the problem. He can realize that his wife is reacting and responding to who and what he is...and it happens to be an unfavorable reaction and response. That's good news because it means there IS something HE CAN do...he can learn how to create a different reaction and response in his wife towards him.

Second, he can realize that his wife is NOT a "logical" person like he is. That means she cannot logically explain what's wrong or what she wants.

All she knows is that she doesn't "FEEL" happy...and she wants to move AWAY from the "thing" that's she FEELS is making her unhappy...her husband!

Third, he can realize that his wife is having this response towards him because she has unmet needs – and he can quickly get to work learning what her needs are and just as quickly get to work meeting those needs.

Fourth, he can realize that his wife is having this response towards him because HE has NOT behaved and operated in such a way that his wife finds him attractive and appealing – and he can quickly get to work learning how it is that he needs to behave and operate such that his wife begins to "FEEL" differently towards him.

Let me give you an example of that last item...

Just the fact that the husband asked his wife all of the questions I listed out above, TELLS the wife...it makes it clear to her...that her husband DOES NOT know how to lead him and her to the happy, loving, and intimate "place" that she wants to be in. In her mind, she KNOWS that she wants a MAN who CAN take her to the "FEELINGS" that she wants...and if her husband is asking her how to take her to that place, then that means he isn't the MAN who can take her there. By asking these questions, a husband "operates" in a way that is unattractive and unappealing to his wife.

If you can relate to any of this, that means it's time for you to "get with it"!

You've got a short opportunity to learn what you need to learn. Your wife's clock is "ticking" and she's not interested in living "without" the feelings she wants much longer...

Go here: www.MarriedAndHappy.com/Catalog and make the most of your short "opportunity".

Copyright 2009 by Calle Zorro, MarriedAndHappy.com

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Thoughts of Wife's Previous Lovers Bothering You?

There are men who sometimes think about their wife being with previous lovers and it generates strong, unpleasant, unhappy feelings within them. For some men, it's so strong that it "hurts" or even makes them "sick".

The word we use for these feelings is "jealous".

However, here's what a man needs to know...he must first "do" something in order to "feel" jealous. Specifically, HE MUST USE HIS MIND AGAINST HIMSELF! He must use his mind in a non-useful way.

In other words, he must use his mind to imagine scenarios where in comparison to himself, those previous lovers:

1. Were better lovers
2. Had a larger penis
3. Generated greater pleasure in his wife

Or, he must use his mind to imagine "sickening", "revolting" scenarios that have to do with other men's:

1. "Dirty" hands on his wife
2. Semen on or in his wife's body
3. "Slobbering" lips on his wife

There are other non-useful scenarios a man can imagine about his wife in relation to her previous lovers but the result is the same: the man FEELS unhappy and he REPELS his wife.

Knowing that what's important to a woman is how the man in her life makes her feel about herself and him, there's no way a man dwelling on these non-useful scenarios can make his wife feel good about herself or him.

And so, she will eventually leave. That's why she left all those previous lovers too.

A woman wants a man who has it together in his own head so that he can take both of them to happiness now and in the future.

What she doesn't want is some guy who's stuck in the past and dwelling upon the other men that she's been with. What she doesn't want is some guy who is a "project" that she has to try to "hold together" so he doesn't "fall apart". What she doesn't want is a guy who's constantly drowning in self-pity that she constantly has to "rescue".

She wants a man with love in his heart – not jealousy – because she wants to be loved. She wants a man who desires her – not who's thinking about her and men she's been with before – because she wants a lover. She wants a strong, secure man – not some mental and emotional weakling – because she needs a man whose strength can counter-balance her weakness.

A woman knows for sure that a man who is jealous-turned can never be a source of love and happiness for her.

If you tend to be one of those who feels jealousy over your wife's previous lovers, here's a viewpoint for you to consider...

All those previous lovers made her what she is now...a woman who can REALLY appreciate a good MAN. That's why she's with YOU. She had HIGH HOPES that you were going to be that man!

Are you going to disappoint her? Are you going to let her down and "show" her that she hasn't found the "man" yet and that she needs to continue looking?

Or, are you going to BECOME A MAN QUICK BEFORE YOU LOSE HER?

Will you become the ATTRACTIVE MAN who is a source of love and strength for her so the two of you can enjoy a happy life?

Really, how long do you expect you can continue to be the weakling who's too weak to even control his mind and direct it to be positive and useful before you lose your wife?

If these questions get your attention, then I advise you to get "How To Seduce Your Wife: A Husband's Guide" at www.MarriedAndHappy.com/Catalog right away.

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