I frequently have men come to me with major concerns about their penis size.
In spite of all the reassurance they have had from their wife and from other people about their penis size, they STILL have major concerns about it.
Why do they have this concern? Why do they have such a concern over this that they literally squelch all their wife’s attraction for them?
It’s because they have a major desire to give their wife the greatest sexual “pleasure” she has ever felt. They very much want to pleasure their wife to her maximum threshold. In and of its self, this desire and intention is a good thing — but the problem is that they have linked the size of their penis to how much pleasure their wife can feel sexually.
Moreover, they can look around and see 100 other guys with penises the same size or even smaller than their own but that doesn’t mean anything to them because they saw this one guy at a bar one time…or in a porn movie…who was way bigger than they are…which means in their mind…because of how they have linked penis size to female sexual pleasure…that they cannot possibly please their wife to her maximum sexual threshold…and that is a very “bitter pill” for them to try to swallow. Consequently, they continue to struggle with concern over the size of their penis.
So, allow me to address this concern from an angle you’ve never heard before…
Your mouth and tongue is designed by God to experience various sensations. If you want to experience a “sweet” sensation, all you have to do is put a piece of candy in your mouth and you WILL experience the taste sensation of sweetness.
Do you need a GIANT piece of candy in order to be able to experience “sweetness”?
Well, if you are a normal person, the answer is emphatically, “No!” There is no relation to the size of a piece of candy and its ability to generate a sensation of sweet taste.
If you take two pieces of the same kind of candy…one large and one small…the sweetness will be exactly the same. You cannot tell any difference as far as the taste sensation is concerned.
If anything, the “big” piece of candy is “uncomfortable” and LESS enjoyable.
This is EXACTLY how it is with the female vagina. The female vulva and vagina is designed to feel various sensations and particularly the sensation of sexual pleasure.
Let’s start with the clitoris. If you are pleasuring your wife orally, does the size of your tongue affect in any way the pleasure she feels?
Nope! Absolutely not.
Her clitoris is designed to feel pleasure sensations when physically stimulated IF HER MIND AND EMOTIONS ARE IN A CERTAIN STATE — and there is no relation to the size of your tongue and the sexual pleasure she can feel. Stated differently, she will feel the same level of sexual pleasure regardless of the size of your tongue.
It is EXACTLY the same with her vagina. The level of pleasure a woman can feel from a penis is exactly the same regardless of what the size of that penis is because the pleasure is NOT derived from the size of the penis.
“Expansion” is NOT what generates the feeling of pleasure within a woman’s vagina!
Rather, it is MOVEMENT on/within a woman’s vulva/vagina that causes her to feel sexual pleasure. And in particular, it is certain movements delivered in a way that matches the mental and emotional state of that woman that generates pleasure within her.
So, if your penis was to magically grow into the world’s largest penis ever, you could not possibly give your wife any greater sexual pleasure than you can right now with the penis you currently have.
“But wait!” you say. “I’ve heard a few women say that size does matter…which tells me that it matters to ALL women but most women just won’t be open and honest about it…so how can you say that it doesn’t matter?”
Well, it is true that the size of a penis does matter to a FEW women. However, IT IS NOT because they can feel any greater pleasure from a bigger penis. Rather, they have developed an erotic excitement over penis size which is a MENTAL thing — NOT a physical thing.
It’s sort of like a guy who is turned on by a blonde-haired woman…or a big-breasted woman. He MENTALLY finds the idea of having sex with a blonde…or with a big-breasted woman…to be erotic and exciting…but the color of her hair…or the size of her breasts has ZERO bearing on the level of pleasure that he physically experiences from a sexual encounter with such a woman.
It is the same with a woman. She may be turned on by the idea of having sex with a man who has an above-average penis size…but it is entirely a mental thing that has ZERO bearing on the level of physical pleasure that she experiences from a sexual encounter with such a man.
But, this is no reason for you to be concerned about the size of your penis because there are two things you need to know that are generally true about these FEW women who say they care about penis size:
1. They are generally women who are “bar-fly” types who have associated some/much of their self-worth with whether or not they are able to attract a man to themselves who has an above-average-size penis. If they can find and bed such a man, then they feel like they are something “extra” special…that they are somehow “better” and “superior” to other women…they get an emotional “hit” and “high”. Of course, the high doesn’t last because it is a foolish criteria upon which to base one’s self-esteem anyway…and so they are back to the bars and dives looking for another above-average-size penis.
I promise you, the normal wife…one with whom a man can enjoy a long, happy, healthy life with…DOES NOT base her sense of self esteem upon the size of her husband’s penis size. Consequently, ALL of those women who have told you that penis size does not matter were healthy, balanced, quality women who WERE TELLING YOU THE TRUTH!
2. Women who have encountered an above-average size penis readily admit that it was not a very satisfying sexual encounter for them. Why? It wasn’t exciting or satisfying because the guy was all about his penis size…he “knew” he was above average in the size department…and he had bought into the myth that size generates pleasure.
The truth is, in order for a woman to have a pleasurable sexual encounter, she needs a certain kind of mental and emotional connection with her man — and he cannot make such a connection with his penis. It’s his mind generating certain thoughts and feelings within her mind, followed by certain physical touches and movements by which MAXIMUM SEXUAL PLEASURE is generated.
I promise you, the normal wife…one with whom a man can enjoy a long, happy, healthy life with…wants a man who is more INTO HER than he is into his penis.
So, here is my advice to you: stop worrying about the size of your penis and start creating a mental, emotional, and physical connection with your wife. The more you worry about your penis size, the more you ARE turning off your wife towards you. The more you stew and fret over your penis size, the more your wife wants to avoid having sex with you. It is just WAY TOO exhausting to your wife to have to deal with your NONSENSICAL insecurity and concern over your penis size.
In your wife’s mind, the size of your penis is irrelevant…and she just wishes you would let it be that way in your mind too…so that the two of you can get on with enjoying a good sex life…instead of you bringing a big negative cloud with you to every sexual encounter.
And, in the event that your wife has indicated in some way that she wants a bigger penis, then you’ve got a woman in your life with serious self-esteem issues…which means her mental and emotional problems are a way bigger problem for you than is the size of your penis.
Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro
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