Are you a man who wonders why women avoid intimacy?
More specifically, are you a husband who wonders why YOUR wife avoids intimacy with YOU?
If yes, then listen up…
A normal woman LOVES intimacy. It is what she daydreams about. It is what her fantasies are filled with. It is what she wants all the time.
Now if that is really true, then why do so many women avoid, withdraw from, and resist intimacy with their husband?
Actually, normal women…women who are emotionally, intellectually, physically, and spiritually healthy…do NOT avoid, withdraw from, or resist intimacy.
They do however, MOVE AWAY from the feeling of being USED.
Women DO withdraw from being an ACCESSORY that is “pulled out” and “used” on an “as-needed” basis.
Women DO resist a man who ignores her and pays no attention to her until he wants something from her.
Bluntly, women avoid being a meaningless, valueless “masturbation hole”.
Is it starting to register with you why women avoid intimacy with their man?
Imagine, if your wife completely ignored you EXCEPT for when she wanted you to pull out your wallet and give her money.
Imagine that your wife had no interest in you EXCEPT for when she wanted money from you.
Imagine that your wife had no time for you EXCEPT when she wanted money from you.
Imagine that your wife wouldn’t do anything with you EXCEPT when she wanted money from you.
Imagine that your wife mostly ignored you…and acted as if you did not even exist…EXCEPT for when she wanted money from you.
It would quickly become apparent…you would quickly understand the link…you would quickly get the connection…when she is nice to you, when she pays attention to you, and so on, she wants money from you.
You would soon realize that your wife did not actually like, love, respect, appreciate, or admire you…she merely had a need to get money from you from time to time.
Now, how would that make you feel?
Not very good, right?
Well, now you understand how many women feel. More specifically, you understand why women avoid intimacy with their man.
The typical wife long ago made the connection that when her husband pays attention to her and is nice to her, he wants sex.
She long ago realized that her husband was NOT coming on to her because he actually loved her, found her beautiful, cared about her, admired her, or cherished her.
Rather, he was responding and reacting to a physical, genetic urge…much like people are physically urged to seek out a drink of water when they get thirsty.
This is why so many men get a cold, “No thanks, not interested” response from their wife. After all, what woman wants to be the equivalent of a meaningless, generic commodity with no purpose or value other than to quench her husband’s physical urge?
So, what is the solution?
How do YOU get your wife to WANT intimacy with YOU?
Well, the solution is to LEARN how to give your wife the kind of intimacy that SHE wants…because that is what opens her up into giving YOU the kind of intimacy that YOU want.
To elaborate, you and your wife BOTH want the same END RESULT: amazing lovemaking.
However, YOUR wife needs YOU to be a developed man who can LEAD the way to that end result by understanding what she needs and wants from you as a man.
YOUR wife needs YOU to be a developed man who understands what she needs and wants from you as a man…so much so that you are able to JOIN her on HER level…and then LEAD her forward into the amazing lovemaking that you BOTH want.
The problem is…the typical husband is NOT a developed man…nor does he understand what his wife’s needs and wants are…and therefore, he has no ability to join his wife in intimacy…nor can he lead her into intimacy.
Even worse, the typical husband positions himself as repulsive because he WANTS his wife to join him on his level…and he WANTS HER to take the lead in taking them into amazing lovemaking.
In short, HE wants his wife to be the leader…and HE wants to be the follower…and NO normal woman is interested in being sexual with THAT kind of guy…because THAT kind of guy is completely unattractive and repulsive to her.
But, this is exactly how too many men think…and how they relate to their wife…which is why women avoid intimacy with their husband.
Now, to get you going in the right direction…
In a nutshell, the kind of intimacy that your wife wants is:
- Intimacy and flirting that is given to her by an attractively-operating man who carries and conducts himself in a way that is appealing, desirable, and sexy.
- Intimacy and flirting that starts in a non-sexual setting.
- Non-sexual intimacy that happens on a regular, on-going basis.
- Intimacy and flirting that causes her to feel meaningful, valuable, pretty, attractive, special, and wanted.
- Intimacy and flirting that leads to a deep connection.
- Intimacy that produces a valuable relationship of mutual worth.
- Intimacy and flirting that is fun, pleasant, enjoyable, and exciting.
- Intimacy and flirting that includes elements of surprise, anticipation, and build-up.
- Intimacy and flirting that concludes in amazing lovemaking.
This is the kind of intimacy that a normal woman IS very much interested in…and I am guessing YOUR wife completely falls into the range of “normal”.
So, now you understand why women avoid intimacy. Now, all you need to do is learn what your wife needs and wants from you as a man and how she needs you to lead her so that the two of you can enjoy the intimacy and lovemaking that you both want.
Copyright 2017 by Calle Zorro
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