Men generally understand that women are attracted to a man who is strong, confident, and masculine. Knowing that this is true, men most definitely want to be such a man.
However, how to “be” such a man isn’t exactly the clearest thing in the world to many men.
In spite of the masculinity-bashing TV shows and the movies portraying men as emasculated men who are subservient to women that are so prevalent today, many men realize they can’t be a “sissy”, a “weenie”, or a “pussy” because that’s definitely not attractive to women. So that’s definitely out.
This leaves men struggling through this mental dilemma where they’re trying to figure out how to be strong, confident, and masculine without being a “Jackboot” – a rule-maker, rule-enforcer, judge, and executioner all in one person.
Now, some men might say, “Don’t worry about it. Just be a Jackboot.” But, at some level, many men realize that being a Jackboot is at best a zero-sum game and at worst, it’s a guaranteed negative game.
And they’re right.
Attempting to be a Jackboot is at best a zero-sum game.
Why?
First of all, it’s a game where all but one must lose.
Second, it’s because a thing obtained by force or superior power can only be retained by force or superior power. And, in the long run, NOBODY can sustain the required force and superior power against all comers. Sooner or later, someone bigger, faster, stronger, smarter, or whatever comes along who is able to overpower the original person.
In contrast, a person who obtains a thing through ATTRACTION, is able to keep it as long as they want because the thing is attracted to them. That’s why your sole job is to work on being the very best that you can be – both personally and professionally – and you are competing with NO ONE except YOURSELF.
And, as you continue to develop, expand, and enhance yourself through your competition with yourself, through your constant improvement of yourself, you become more and more attractive. Consequently, those things that you have attracted will be even more attracted to you because you are more than you were before.
So, you don’t want to be a “weenie” nor do you want to be a “Jackboot”. You want to be ATTRACTIVE.
And, when I say attractive, I’m not referring to how you look. Yes, you should take care of your body. Yes, you should be a clean, well-groomed person. But, what I’m really talking about is being a happy, positive, loving, accepting, approving, ever-improving person who knows who they are, where they’re at, and where they’re going while positively impacting as many people as possible on their way.
That’s what makes a person attractive.
And, as you’re on your journey of self-development, expansion, and enhancement, there will be those who are “ahead” of you. That’s ok. Bless them and wish them their very best. They’ve developed themselves and they deserve their good.
Someday soon enough, you’ll be at their level or even higher. Soon enough, your day will come.
Remember, at birth EVERYBODY is virtually the same in what they can do and EVERYBODY must develop themselves thereafter. The real difference is that some people are fortunate enough to have been born into an environment where their development was fostered and supported or maybe even demanded. Others were not so fortunate.
Either way, the fact remains that we must ALL develop ourselves. So, the sooner we get busy developing ourselves (and thus our attractiveness), the sooner we can reap the rewards that we desire.
Copyright 2018 by Calle Zorro