“What do you do for a living?” asked the man standing beside me as I waited for my lunch. “I help create happy, sex-filled marriages.” I replied.
“Really?” was his surprised response. “How do you that?” he asked as he stepped closer to me.
“Well, if you first consider that the idea of being attractive, loving, and sexual is normal and natural for both men and women, you’d think everything would work just fine, right?”
“Right!” he said.
I continued, “But, we all know things happen in marriages that shut these normal and natural functions down, agreed?”
“Absolutely.” he agreed.
“So, what I’ve done is create a formula that a man can use in his marriage to create a response in his wife where she once again wants to be attractive, loving, and sexual to, with, and for her husband.”
“Really?” was his even wider-eyed response. “Say, could we talk about this some more as we eat our lunch?” he asked.
I agreed and as we made our way to a table, he began unloading his story on me…
“My wife is way over-weight, which plain and simple is a sex killer for me! She let herself go after our two kids came along – she just gave up on herself – and now she refuses to do anything about it.
But, being overweight isn’t the only problem – she also has all kinds of medical problems. If she’s not sick with one thing, it’s two of something else.
Not only that, but I’ve had all I can stand of her saying “NO!” in the bedroom.
Between her weight problem, her health problems, and her “No’s”, I’m completely turned off by my wife.
I think I could get back to desiring sex again with her but NOT while she’s overweight and won’t do anything about it…about the only solutions I can see are to hope for a fatal heart attack, shoot myself in the head or just get a divorce and experience the bliss of bankruptcy.
I don’t know exactly what your formula is but can it inspire my wife lose weight and become attractive again? I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO GET MY WIFE TO BECOME MORE ATTRACTIVE AND SEXUAL – but I just don’t see how that’s possible.”
As the man finished and slumped over his lunch with a dejected and hopeless look of despair on his face, was reminded yet again of why I do what I do. I smiled at him as I responded…
“I can help you – if you’ll let me…
To do that, I need to tell you a few things that may at first seem a little harsh. But, if you’ll take them to your heart-of-hearts and consider them, you’ll find that I’m giving you the truth.
First, you need to understand that a woman reacts and responds to the man that’s in her life.
Now, I don’t mean that a woman is less than a man in any way because she’s not – I just mean that she is wired in such a way that she is reactionary to the man that’s in her life.
Based on the things a man does, the woman in his life reacts positively, negatively, sexually, non-sexually, etc.
Now, you’ve probably never heard anything like that before but that doesn’t take away its truth. If you think about it, even the most hard-core feminist is reacting to men.
Let me ask you this…what if a man who your wife easily recognized as a top music or movie star walked through the front door of your house right now.
Assuming your wife was at home, do you think she would react and respond in the same way she does when you walk through that same door?
Of course not, you and I both know her reaction and her response would be dramatically different.
The reason I’m saying all of this is to help you understand that YOU have created and are creating the marriage that you currently live in.
The things that you are doing right now (however conscious or unconscious they may be) are causing your wife to react as she is – gaining weight, saying no, etc.
The same thing applies to the health problems…your wife’s sickness is nothing more than a reaction to you manifested in her physical body.
The word “disease” means a “body not at ease”. So, in fact, your wife’s sickness is nothing more than “dis–ease” in her body that’s been triggered by the stress, unhappiness, and lack of fulfillment that she is experiencing – as she reacts to you.
I hope you’re starting to get really excited as you think about what I’m saying and recognize that if you have the power to create the kind of marriage that you DON’T want, then by the Laws of Nature, you also have the power to create the kind of marriage that you DO want.
A moment ago, you said you would do ANYTHING to have the kind of wife and marriage you want.
Would you really?
Are you really willing to learn how to do certain things in a certain way in order to create the kind of marriage you want?
I ask you that because most men don’t really want to do anything different. The only thing they want to do is point all the blame at their wife. They want their wife to do something to fix herself and all the problems.
The problem is, she can’t fix it.
It’s because she’s reacting to the man. She’s reacting and responding to what’s coming to her from the man. She’s have to fix her man in order to fix herself…and her man’s not interested in her fixing him.
You also said you desire an attractive and sexual wife.
That’s an excellent and noble desire, not only for your sake but for your wife and children’s sake as well – a happy home is a place where everyone wins.
The question is, are you willing to follow through and make that desire a reality?
You see, it’s YOU who FIRST needs to do “something” – not your wife. It’s you who needs to create a different reaction and response in your wife. That’s what my formula is all about.
And, after you’ve applied the formula for a time, don’t be surprised when your wife starts losing weight, starts becoming more sexual, and her sickness goes into remission or completely disappears.
This is a very powerful concept if you can accept it. Think of a light switch. One could argue for a long time about how and why the light bulb turns on. Or, you can just flip the switch on and enjoy the light.
In the same way, you can let this concept rub your ego in the wrong way and refuse to accept it. Or, you can just use the concept to benefit you, your wife, and your children.”
As I finished, I could tell that this man’s awareness had just went through a monumental expansion. Suddenly, his world was bright and alive with possibility and opportunity where before it was dark and hopeless.
“I’ve got to get back to work.” he said. “How do I get my hands on your formula?”
I pulled out a napkin, wrote my website address on it and handed it to him. As the man dashed out the door, I felt an overwhelming gratefulness for the opportunity to make a difference in yet another marriage.
Copyright 2007 by Calle Zorro