What do you think about this statement: When a husband does not know how to properly lead, manage, handle, and relate to his wife, they soon begin dividing as a couple, they soon begin losing all that is good between them, and soon, all that is left is either an unhappy marriage or worse, a failed marriage. Notably, this all happens because of what the husband does not know about his wife.
Well, if you like the normal husband, then your response to this statement is probably something along the lines of:
- That is a retarded statement.
- Sure…blame the man for everything that’s wrong and not working!
- No…it works both ways…and it takes two!
- I despise how society makes everything the man’s fault.
- That’s it…dump all of the responsibility on the man…and give the woman a free-pass.
- Yea I know…everybody likes to say that if there is a problem, then it was caused by the man.
- Calle, you are a moon-bat feminist and I am tired of hearing this kind of crap.
Well, IF you did in fact respond to my statement with one of these responses, then it is time for your awareness and understanding to be expanded so that you can avoid going through life in an unhappy marriage.
Now, I will first clarify this: despite what my unusual name might suggest, I am a man. And, I too get very tired of feminists and popular entertainment bashing and belittling males…I too get very tired of feminists and popular entertainment presenting and positioning males as inept, incompetent buffoons who constantly need to be dominated or rescued by a female.
So, I understand when you say you are tired of men being bashed by feminists…I understand when you say you are tired of men being the laughingstock in popular entertainment.
But, I am even more tired of men suffering in an unhappy marriage when they could in fact have a happy, loving, affectionate, intimate, and sexual marriage relationship with their wife.
The point is, my statement above is NOT about casting men in a negative light. I am NOT belittling or denigrating men. Rather, I am pointing out a very serious and unwavering TRUTH that every husband really must understand IF he wishes to have a happy, sexual, and enduring marriage relationship with his lady.
Let’s go deeper…
Like it or not…want it or not…the normal female is wired such that she will ALWAYS respond and react to the man in her life…whether positively or negatively…whether affectionately, intimately, and sexually…or not.
In other words, a normal female EXPECTS the male to be the leader who CAN take the two of them into a happy, satisfying, fulfilling, fun, intimate, and sexual relationship…and IF the male has the presence and the skills to take his woman into THAT kind of relationship, THEN all is well and they will have a great relationship that lasts.
But, IF the male does not have the attractive presence or the relationship skills to take his lady into this kind of relationship, then the female WILL INFALLIBLY shut-down, turn-off, and move away from him affectionately, intimately, and sexually. The result is that they will both suffer in an unhappy marriage that is miserable and frustrating for both of them.
In still other words, in a normal male/female relationship that is satisfyingly happy and sexual, the male IS in the driver’s seat of the relationship…the female is in the passenger seat…and the male IS taking he and his lady INTO the kind of relationship they BOTH want…namely, one that is happy, sexual, and enduring.
Conversely, IF the female is in the driver’s seat of the relationship…and the male is in the passenger seat…then that relationship IS going somewhere…it is going into a not-very-affectionate, not-very-intimate, not-very-sexual, highly-likely-to-end-in-divorce-or-cheating direction! But, before the end comes, the middle part is usually a long, unhappy marriage.
Going deeper, EVERY adult male has a certain presence that is either attractive, neutral, or repulsive…and, every adult male has a certain set of relationship / interaction skills that are either attractive, neutral, or repulsive…and EVERY woman WILL inevitably react and respond to a given male’s presence and skills in the SAME way…AFTER she really gets to know him.
Yes, the specifics and details will be different with different females…but the outcome…the ultimate-response…will be EXACTLY the same.
That is, if a male has the presence and skills to consistently and perpetually invoke a turned-on response in his current lady, he would typically be able to get that same outcome with ANY lady he entered into a relationship with.
Conversely, if a male has the presence and skills that consistently and perpetually invoke a turned-off response in his current lady, then he would typically get that same outcome with ANY lady he entered into a relationship with.
It is important to understand this because there are a lot of husbands who think they would be better off with a different wife…when in fact…based upon their current type of presence and level of relationship skills…THEY WOULD SOON CREATE THE SAME EXACT OUTCOME WITH ANY WOMAN THEY ENTERED INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH.
What I am talking about here is precisely why a wife can be nearly asexual with one husband…but after divorcing that husband, she can turn around and be a raging nymphomaniac with another husband.
SAME woman…but a VERY DIFFERENT response to the two husbands.
The first husband did NOT have the attractive presence or skills to invoke turn-on in her…the first husband lacked an attractive presence and attractive skills…and so the woman shut-down affectionately, intimately, and sexually TOWARDS HIM…she related, reacted, and responded to him as a sex-negative, sexually-repressed woman. The result for BOTH of them was an unhappy marriage.
In contrast, the second husband DID have the presence and skills to invoke turn-on in the woman…he had BOTH the attractive presence and the attractive skills…and so the woman opened up affectionately, intimately, and sexually TOWARDS HIM…she related, reacted, and responded to him as a sex-positive, sexually-expressive woman. The result for BOTH of them was a happy marriage.
Now, I will confirm the validity of my initial statement with this…
NOBODY has EVER seen a persistently happy and sexual marriage relationship where the male was the follower and the female was the leader.
NOBODY has EVER seen a persistently happy and sexual marriage relationship where the woman was relationally-skilled and the man was relationally-retarded.
After she gets to really know him, a woman will NEVER respond affectionately and sexually to a male who follows her lead in the relationship and who lacks the presence and skills to invoke a turned-on, opened-up, affectionate, intimate, and sexual response in her towards him.
A woman will ONLY be sexual with a male who has the attractive presence and the attractive skills to both LEAD HER in the relationship and to invoke a turned-on, opened-up, affectionate, intimate, and sexual response in her towards him.
So like it or not…it is indeed a fact that IF a husband does not know how to properly lead, manage, handle, and relate to his wife…then the two of them WILL soon enough begin dividing…all of the connection, joy, fulfillment, affection, intimacy, and sex will begin fading out of their marriage…until all that is left is a couple of people who mostly cohabitate platonically…unless and until one of them finally gives up on the relationship and moves on to try again with someone else.
This is indeed a fact because turn-off, avoidance, and withdrawal is the response a wife WILL have towards her husband IF he does not have the attractive presence and skills to properly lead, manage, handle, and relate to her.
So again, when a husband lacks an attractive presence and developed relationship skills, the outcome is an unhappy marriage. Conversely, when a husband possesses an attractive presence and he has developed relationship skills, then a happy marriage is the result.
The man leads…and the woman follows. The man leads with who he is (presence) and what he does (skills)…and the woman reacts and responds to that. Like it or not…want it or not…agree with it or not…angry about it or not…this IS how it is!
Happy marriage? Unhappy marriage? Well, which one depends upon the husband.
Now, the BAD NEWS is that MOST husbands are in a marriage relationship where their wife is not-very-sexual with them…where their wife mostly avoids affection, intimacy, and sex with them…where their wife is emotionally and relationally withdrawn more often than not. In short, most husbands are in an unhappy marriage…or at least one that is frequently miserable, frustrating, and dissatisfying.
Why is this?
It is because these husbands did NOT grow up under a dad who knew how to properly lead, manage, handle, and relate to his wife…
Moreover, they have never been around a husband who showed them how to properly lead, manage, handle, and relate to his wife…
And so, these husbands have never had the opportunity to observe and learn from another man who DID know how to do it right with a woman.
Plus, these husbands have never taken the initiative to develop themselves into the kind of husband who knows how to invoke turn-on and attraction in their wife…which is incredibly bizarre given how much men WANT to have an affectionate, intimate, sexual relationship with their wife.
So relative to their wife, these husbands WANT…but they DON’T GET what they want. That is, they go through most of their adult life in a relationship where their wife is having a turned-off, shut-down reaction and response to them most of the time. They go through life in what is mostly an unhappy marriage.
Now, YOU as a husband CAN go through YOUR life in an unhappy marriage IF you want to. But, you do NOT have to go through life in a miserable, dissatisfying, unhappy marriage relationship with your wife.
YOU can in fact LEARN what you need to learn in relation to your wife so that you can consistently and perpetually invoke a turned-on, affectionate, intimate, and sexual response in your wife towards you…and enjoy THAT kind of life…a life marked by a happy marriage.
But, it is YOUR life. It is YOUR choice. YOU get to decide what kind of marriage relationship you are going to go through life with…a happy marriage…or an unhappy marriage.
Just be warned of this one thing:
IF you decide that you are not interested in developing yourself into a man with an attractive presence and attractive relationship skills…
IF you decide you are not interested in becoming the kind of man who can invoke a turned-on, affectionate, intimate, and sexual response in your wife towards you…
…then do not be surprised when she either divorces you…or she has an affair with some other man.
Men joke about not knowing what women want…but I will tell you EXACTLY what EVERY normal woman wants MORE than anything else in her life:
She wants a MAN who has the attractive presence and developed relationship skills to take her into a happy, satisfying, fun, affectionate, intimate, and sexual relationship.
And if a wife does not have a husband who knows how to take her into this kind of relationship, then that dissatisfaction…that unhappiness…the pressure of not having what she wants more than anything else in life…is highly likely to drive her into either a divorce or an affair.
This is why MOST divorces are filed my middle-aged wives. This is why there are so many middle-aged wives who “suddenly go crazy” and do things that destroy their marriage and their family.
Well, these wives did not really go “crazy”. They just had a major realization and then made a corresponding decision to act. Specifically, such a wife realizes that:
- Her life is at least half-way over with.
- She has been with her husband for years or decades…and he has NOT yet figured out how to take her into the kind of relationship that she wants to have with a man…and therefore, he probably never will figure it out.
- Even worse, her husband has never had any interest in learning how to create a satisfying relationship with her…which means he is unlikely to ever have any interest in learning how to invoke turn-on in her towards him.
- She is getting older…she is sagging more and more…she is getting more wrinkly…and therefore, IF she is ever going to have the kind of relationship that she wants…then she better go pursue it NOW before it is too late!
And so, these wives go do “crazy” things that often are quite destructive and that do have a majorly-negative impact on lots of people.
Which brings me to this: IF you do not know how to take your wife into the satisfying kind of relationship that you BOTH want…then no matter what you think…and regardless of what your wife has told you in the past…you have NO guarantee that YOUR wife won’t someday reach that threshold where she just gives up on you and moves on.
There is only one way to secure your marriage relationship and that is by YOU developing yourself into a man who possesses an attractive presence and who has attractive relationship skills.
How your wife responds to you dictates whether you will enjoy a happy marriage or suffer in an unhappy marriage…and how your wife responds to you is within your power to change!
Copyright 2018 by Calle Zorro