Do you frequently find yourself frustrated because your wife rarely wants sex?

Is the best that you ever hear from your wife something like, “We can “be together” if that’s what you want…”?

When you do finally get around to making love, does it feel like your wife is mostly just doing you a favor…that she is giving you something that she doesn’t really want herself?

Is your wife “so close” and yet so far away…as in she will undress in front of you…or even walk around naked in front of you…or she will dress in attractive clothes…or sit in provocative ways around you…but yet she doesn’t want you touching her “in that way”?

Or perhaps, are you in a situation where you’ve given up on sex and you would just like to get back to the place where you could hold your wife’s hands, cuddle with her, and kiss her again?

Have you had conversation after conversation and fight after fight over the subject of sex…only to have your wife tell you something along the lines of, “It’s not you…it’s me. I just don’t need sex. That’s just not something I want…sex just doesn’t really do anything for me…it’s just not a big deal to me…”?

An importantly, DID YOU BELIEVE YOUR WIFE WHEN SHE SAID THIS?

Many husbands do believe their wife when she says this. It feels better to their ego to believe that their wife is just not very sexual than to believe that it has something to do with them personally. The idea that they somehow lack that special something that turns their wife on is not very appealing to them so they choose to believe that their wife is a non-sexual person.

Let me tell you straight up what 19+ years of experience in the field of marriage relationships has taught me: to believe that your wife is not very sexual is a HUGE mistake that WILL cost you dearly in the long run.

Now, to validate this statement, I want you to consider some things from your own experience…

How many men have you personally known…or known of…where their wife wasn’t a very sexual woman…until she ran off with another man?

A little closer to home…

What about those few times when you and your wife were out somewhere…and a certain man came around…and all of a sudden it was like your wife turned into a different person…her eyes lit up…her body language changed…her smile brightened up…AND YOU COULD TELL THAT SHE WAS FEELING ATTRACTION TOWARDS THE OTHER MAN?

Didn’t it especially hurt to know that was the kind of attraction you wish she would show towards you?

(I won’t even ask you about the jealousy, the big fight, and the fallout that probably happened afterwards.)

What about those sexually-charged books, TV shows, or movies that your wife gets into?

As you face up to the truth…as you get honest with yourself…as you look at what really is, do you feel that little tug of fear in your gut?

If you do, that is a good thing. That is inner wisdom letting you know that YOU need to take action and become the kind of man that your wife IS attracted to and that she CAN open up and share her sexuality with.

Nobody can make you become this kind of man. But, you will be the one who pays the price if you don’t.

Many guys procrastinate until it’s too late. It’s cheaper and easier for them to do nothing and continue being angry at their wife while blaming and criticizing her.

But, when their wife finally gives up and says she “just can’t do it anymore…” all of a sudden they want to spring into action. All of a sudden, they want to “work on their marriage”. All of a sudden, they really want to know how to become an attractive man. I urge you…be smarter than that…be smarter than to procrastinate until it’s too late.

Yes, it will cost you some money…but mentally put that money in one hand…and mentally put your wife and your marriage in your other hand…weigh the two…and ask yourself, “Which is more important: a few dollars or my wife?”

Copyright 2012 by Calle Zorro

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It’s a problem that most wives also have with their husband. As such, this article may very well help you improve your marriage.

The problem sounds something like this:

Girl: [calls boy on phone]

Boy: [answers with a slow, drab, deflated, non-energetic tone of voice] Hullo?

Girl: [with high energy and excitement] chatter…chatter…chatter…so what are you doing?

Boy: [same low-energy tone of voice] Nuthin!

Awkward silence ensues. So girl tries again.

Girl: chatter…chatter…chatter…so, what did you do today?

Boy: Not much!

Awkward silence ensues. So girl tries again.

Girl: chatter…chatter…chatter…tells funny story…delivers punch-line.

Boy: [with total lack of energy or excitement] That’s funny.

Awkward silence ensues…and you get the point.

It’s even worse when my daughter and her friends try to have a text message exchange with these boys. When text messaging, it’s like the ONLY thing the boys know how to say is LOL or some other 2-4 letter acronym…and that does NOT make for an interesting conversation.

Well, after a few months of trying to figure out how to have a conversation with guys, my daughter and her friends came to me with the announcement that guys do not know how to talk…and asking me how they were supposed to talk with boys when they won’t talk.

Now, just so it is clear, the boys I am describing here DESPERATELY want my daughter and her friends to like them. And yet, with each and every telephone conversation and text message exchange, these boys cause my daughter and her friends to be less and less “impressed” with them. With each “conversation” my daughter and her friends feel motivated to move on to “more interesting” boys.

Now, to make sure we are together…you might think I am just telling you a story about my daughter and her friends…but I am not…

I am talking about you and your wife!

Your wife WANTS to have interesting conversation with an interesting man!

But too often, a husband’s communication skills have never progressed much past the guttural grunts and sounds of the boys I used in the example “conversation” above.

When a husband “converses” with his wife in this short, abbreviated, conversation-killing, energy-draining way, it does NOT impress his wife or turn her on towards him.

In fact, it sometimes makes her wish she was with ANOTHER man who she could enjoy the pleasure of an intelligent, interesting, and inspiring conversation with…

ANOTHER man she could talk with…without having to carry the entire conversation…

ANOTHER man who had enough substance to him that she could share something more than a one-sided conversation with him.

Of course, she would probably never admit to thinking these kinds of thoughts but I promise you that she does.

So, how do you become a man who can carry on an interesting conversation with his wife?

1. Step out of the small, little world of your mind…that’s consumed with all your agendas, worries, fears, insecurities, and so on. Realize there is a whole big world that exists and it is filled with wonderful people to interact with…WHEN…you get out of the narrow confines and walls of your own mind.

2. Make the choice to be talkative. You CAN be talkative IF you want to be…so CHOOSE to be talkative with your wife.

The typical husband has a “mental guard” in place that causes him…usually for no real reason that he is conscious of…to shut down and not be very talkative when he is around his wife or other women that are attractive to him.

For many guys, this guard was installed somewhere between the ages of 10 – 13 and it has been firmly in place ever since.

In many cases, it is nothing more than a bad habit for a husband to not be talkative with his wife.

3. Take whatever your wife says and “recast” it with a new preface…something like:

* “Tell me about…”

* “I’m really curious about that. I would love to hear all about…”

* “That’s something I don’t know very much about. I would really like to hear all about that…how it works…why it works…what the factors are…so, explain to me…”

By recasting whatever your wife has said with a preface like one of these, you give yourself the directive to TRULY CONVERSE with your wife…to open up and expand upon what you say…and thereby give her the pleasure of REAL conversation.

4. Being interesting takes preparation. NOWHERE in life can you be a success if you are unprepared or ill-equipped and it’s no different in the area of your marriage relationship.

So, DO NOT come home from work unprepared or ill-equipped. Instead, before you leave your workplace, take 10-15 minutes to find 3 – 5 new and interesting subjects and/or stories to talk about when you get home.

With the information that’s available on the internet, there is no excuse for a man to not have something interesting to talk about with his wife and children during his evening at home with them.

Once a man has prepared himself, then it is easy for him to segue into one of his subjects or stories when the right time comes. The next thing he knows, he will have just given his wife the pleasure of 10 to 30 minutes of pleasurable conversation with him…multiple times throughout the evening.

Of course, a husband can ignore, deny, and reject what I am saying here. He can take the viewpoint that his lack of interest in talking with his wife is HER problem not his…and that’s fine…he can do that. But if he does, then he has no right to be upset when he discovers his wife is having long, ongoing conversations with another man on the phone, at the office, or online.

Copyright 2012 by Calle Zorro

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Now, I am not here to bash women … but I am here to articulate an important concept so that husbands can understand how to create the happy and sexual relationship with their wife that they want.

If you want to increase the amount of sex you and your wife have, then this is something you MUST understand.

Before I start though, I will emphasize the point that BOTH the husband and the wife DO want to be happy AND sexual TOGETHER.

Now, when it comes to YOUR wife, you may not believe this. But, it is true.

There has NEVER been a woman who dreamed of getting married and going through and her entire adult married life in a totally sterile, platonic, passionless, cohabitate-only, friends-only kind of marriage relationship. NEVER!

So, where do things go wrong?

What happened between your wife’s pre-marriage romantic visions of a love-filled, passion-filled marriage relationship and her non-romantic, non-affectionate, non-passionate, non-sexual behavior of today?

Well, the first thing is that MOST guys DO NOT know how to be the kind of husband who turns their wife on day after day. They don’t even have a clue about how to do that.

Most guys have NEVER been around a married couple who were truly happy and sexual with each other on an ongoing basis … which means they have never had a good marriage example they could learn from.

Most guys grew up in an environment where men constantly bashed women … and women constantly bashed men.

The result is that most men go into a marriage relationship making mistakes at every level … which results in them turning their wife off at every level.

And in my teachings, I reveal how to be the kind of man who instead turns his wife ON at every level … but for here, I want to talk about something the typical wife does that a husband needs to understand so that he can “handle” it in his wife.

Specifically, a man needs to understand that IN CONTINUED, ON-GOING INTERACTIONS WITH OTHER PEOPLE, the typical woman will almost always mentally sabotage herself and these other people.

In the realm of equipment, we understand the importance of having “fail-safe” devices so that if there is a failure … if something goes wrong … if something goes differently from plan … then the equipment defaults into safe-mode.

A woman’s mind is the exact opposite. If anything goes contrary to her wants, needs, or expectations, then her mind “device” WILL “fail-negative” … her mind will go to negative thought patterns that produce negative feelings, negative attitudes, negative behaviors, and negative actions.

Now, if a woman is single and unattached … and she is primarily around family members or friends who harmonize and sympathize with her … who are “yes-men and yes-women” to her … then she will generally get along just fine … she will generally be more or less positive, optimistic, and happy.

But, as soon as some new person comes into her life … male or female … she will almost always judge and evaluate that person based upon their looks, status, prestige, popularity, wealth, or other surface-level, materialistic criteria.

If she judges the person as not attractive or desirable … if she judges the person to be of no consequence or benefit to her … then she will mostly dismiss and disregard that person.

But, if she judges the person as attractive and desirable … as a person who can benefit or serve her in some way … then she will generally use her mind to FANTASIZE about a FABULOUS “relationship” between them … she will ignore what is and HALLUCINATE a perfect relationship with this person … she will ROMANTICIZE this person as a perfect person … and this is such a COMPELLING scenario to her that she usually becomes completely INFATUATED with the idea of having a closer relationship with this person … to the point she is typically CONSUMED with desire to HAVE her FANTASY.

But, once the FANTASY becomes a REALITY, she then goes into a totally different mental mode. Now, she goes into evaluation mode, comparative mode, and judgmental mode … and her FANTASY is violated on every hand … and now she moves into OFFENDED AT THE PERSON mode.

Now, let’s understand how this happens … in the mind of a woman, who is this perfect person she was “seeing” in her FANTASY?

Well, at its core and essence, it is another person who:

• Thinks EXACTLY like she thinks
• Wants EXACTLY what she wants
• Does things EXACTLY the way she does them
• Has the EXACT same timing of things that she has
• Values EXACTLY what she values
• Holds important EXACTLY what she holds important
• Wants to do for her EXACTLY what she wants them to do for her
• Wants to give to her EXACTLY what she wants given to her
• And so on…

Now, how many of these kind of people do you think there are running around across our globe?

ZERO, right?

Obviously, there is NO SUCH PERSON on the face of this earth. Everybody is such a unique person that NOBODY will EVER match her criteria of perfection.

If you reflect back on women you have ever interacted with or observed, you will undoubtedly find that most of them fall right into this pattern I’ve described: they get along well with “yes-men or yes-women” … “undesirable’s” get dismissed … and “desirable’s” (male or female) cause her to go through this sky-high enamored state to bottomed-out turned off state.

This pattern is definite, distinct, and pronounced in husband / wife relationships … but it is also found in business relationships and social relationships … and it is even there between women.

In fact, observe some women interacting with each other in a business or social setting. What you will usually find BEHIND their polite, smiling faces is “unspoken negativity” between them … the exception again being those who are “yes-women”.

But, bringing it back home … you HAVE EXPERIENCED this pattern in your wife first-hand, have you not?

You are painfully familiar with your wife “failing-negative” on you, right?

In fact, no matter how hard you try to keep things smooth, easy, and good for your wife, she STILL finds a way to “fail-negative” on you, doesn’t she?

Obviously, if you are to increase the amount of sexy you and your wife are having, then you must learn how to keep your wife from “failing-negative”.

Continuing on … there can be all kinds of permutations of this pattern that produce all kinds of unpleasant, unhappy marriage relationship problems.

For example, if a woman is never able to move a FANTASIZED “relationship” with a certain “desirable” guy past FANTASY and into REALITY … then she will tend to STAY STUCK in the FANTASY … and it turns into an UNRESOLVED DESIRE … sometimes a super-strong curiosity … sometimes a burning infatuation … that does not go away.

But of course, the necessities and flow of life REQUIRE a woman to move on with her life … so she will marry some other man … for the provision and security that he affords her … but her “passion” is still STUCK with the guy in her FANTASY.

And, this FANTASY is so REAL to her that YEARS LATER when the opportunity comes for her to reconnect with the guy in her FANTASY, she literally cannot “see” what the guy in her fantasy really is. Quite often, the guy is a total loser who has been divorced multiple times … he has been a failure in his career or business … sometimes, he is even living off of other people.

To any rational woman, this guy would be a completely unattractive “dud” that she had ZERO interest in. But for THIS woman, all she can “see” is the guy in her FANTASY that she has been holding all these years.

There are plenty of men who have ran into this problem with their wife … especially with the connectivity and accessibility that Facebook and smart-phones now provide.

So, what does this all mean?

It means that if you want a happy, affectionate, intimate, and sexual relationship with your wife … if you want to increase the amount of sex you and your wife are having … then you MUST become a MAN who is a master-handler of his own thoughts and feelings … and a MAN who is a master-handler of his wife’s thoughts and feelings towards herself and towards you.

You MUST become the caliber of MAN who has the understanding and capacity to HANDLE his wife in the ONLY way that works … so that she doesn’t “fail-negative” on you … and instead she responds with love, affection, and sexual desire towards you.

ONLY THEN, will you be able to have a marriage relationship with your wife that satisfies and fulfills you … and that satisfies and fulfills her … producing the happiness that you both want.

And if you choose not to become this kind of man … well, you will just continue to be another one of the millions of men who are running around buying their wife flowers and gifts, taking her to expensive dinners, trying to “communicate” with her, trying to be nice to her and do for her, and all the other common things men do to get their wife to be more sexual with them … that DO NOT work … that DO NOT produce the kind of marriage relationship that YOU WANT.

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

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Wife, This Is THE Solution If You Want An Affectionate, Sexual Marriage. Click here.

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How much unhappiness have you experienced … what lackluster results do you continue to experience … because you have not yet been able to say to your spouse what you really want to say about sex?

Or, how many times have you tried to talk about something sex-related with your partner only to have it turn into an unpleasant, unhappy situation?

Whether you need to talk about a fantasy or a desire that you have in the sex-department … or you need to discuss a sex-related problem that is robbing you of satisfaction … it is important that a person be able to openly talk about sex with their husband or wife in such a way that they can effect positive and permanent changes.

Based on this, consider the following tips on how to talk more openly about sex with your husband or wife … and how to do it in such a way that you get good results that improve your marriage relationship with your spouse … and create greater satisfaction for you personally:

1. Mitigate embarrassment on both your part and your spouse’s part.

   Understand that you have some amount of embarrassment and awkwardness in having sex-related discussions … and that your spouse also feels some amount of embarrassment and awkwardness … perhaps even more than you do … about sex-related discussions.

   So, to lessen the embarrassment and awkwardness that your spouse feels, you must FIRST lessen the embarrassment and awkwardness that YOU feel. The more relaxed, calm, and at-ease you are, the more relaxed, calm, and at-ease your spouse can be.

   This is super important because if you are nervous, uptight, and on edge while you are trying to have a sex-related discussion with your spouse, then more than anything else, your spouse is going to get the message and feeling that “something is wrong”. And when that happens, it doesn’t matter what you say, the REAL message that “something is wrong” is communicated and conveyed … which means your spouse is going to become negative and defensive … which means you will not get the positive changes and outcomes you want.

2. Mitigate insecurities on both your part and your spouse’s part.

   Another aspect of helping your spouse talk more openly about sex with you is by becoming aware of your own fears, concerns, insecurities, and inadequacies … from your young adult years all the way up to now … and then being strong enough to speak openly about those things so that your spouse can realize that while the details and particulars may be different, you are very much like them in that you just want to “be enough” for them, you very much want to please them, and that you want to be satisfied and fulfilled too.

   Therefore, the less focused you are on your own insecurities, the less your spouse must focus on their insecurities. Stated differently, the more you are focused on mutually-beneficial outcomes and results, and the less you are focused on perceived inadequacies (whether your own or your companion’s), the more likely you are to effect the positive changes you desire.

   Now, this can take significant resolve, control, and strength on YOUR part because more often than not, when it comes time to have a sex-related conversation, it is because one person feels cheated and the other feels criticized which means you must take the lead in pulling yourself out of your negative feelings so that you can help your spouse get above their negative feelings.

3. Mitigate the fear of loss on both your part and your spouse’s part.

   BEFORE you get into a discussion about a sex-related issue, state and affirm that from your perspective, you and your spouse are on the same team and that you want everything to be an absolute win for both members of the team. State and affirm your ongoing commitment to your spouse … and your firm belief in their commitment to you. State and affirm that you want the very best for your spouse … and your firm belief that they want the very best for you too. State and affirm your desire to share and enjoy a long, happy, satisfying, fulfilling life with your spouse … and your belief that they want the same thing with you.

   Moreover, be prepared so that you are able to speak about multiple things you really like about your spouse as he or she presently is. This is important because it is hard for a person to be positively motivated to make positive changes when what you are saying … and what they are thinking … is focusing them upon negatives.

   Also, in your own mind MAKE SURE that YOU make the SWITCH so that YOU are GENUINELY thinking about a better, happier FUTURE with your spouse instead of an unhappy, dissatisfying PAST … and that you speak from that better future perspective.

4. Express confidence in both yourself and your spouse.

   Assure your spouse that you are fully confident in their ability to be everything you want them to be for you … and in your ability to be everything they want you to be for them … and that goodwill, learning, practice, commitment, attention, focus, and effort WILL infallibly make all that is good and right even better … and fix anything that needs to be fixed.

   On a related note, do not go into a sex-related conversation thinking that you or your spouse is broken, messed up, or weird. Neither one of you is “broken” and to think so is position yourself in a not-very-useful place that will hinder you in effecting the changes you desire.

5. Pick the right time to have a sex-related discussion.

   This is completely obvious … and yet, people get something on their mind … and that something really starts “bugging” them … and before long, they are spewing, dumping, and unloading at the worst possible time and in the worst possible way.

   Do not let yourself fall into this snare as it will only make it more difficult for you to effect the changes you desire. Take control of your mind, your thoughts, and your emotions so that they serve you in a useful way instead of making your life harder.

6. Know what you DO want as well as what you do not want.

   Too many times, people know what they do not want … and that is all they know because that is what emotionally consumes them. So, make sure you devote time to understanding yourself what it is that you really want … and why you want it … and understand what you want well enough that you can clearly articulate it in a warm, loving way that is not critical or offensive.

   Related to this, speak about what you want in positive terms. It is self-evident that a statement like, “I don’t like it when you don’t kiss me very often” will not be nearly as inspiring or motivating as something like, “I would like for both of us to find a way to enjoy kissing each other more often“.

7. Stay strong, firm, courageous, confident, and resolute.

   Any time there is something unpleasant to be handled or addressed, people have a major tendency to try to set it aside. You will likely encounter this tendency with your spouse. As you attempt to set up a sex-related conversation with your spouse, they will likely try to sidestep it, procrastinate on it, or push it off to some later time.

   Knowing that this is likely to happen, you must be emotionally prepared to be firm and determined about having this conversation. You must be ready so that you are not pushed away or brushed off.

   This is important because all too often, what happens is that a person initiates a conversation with their spouse, their spouse avoids or procrastinates, and then the person goes away thinking their spouse doesn’t care about them, doesn’t love them, and isn’t interested in them.

   The TRUTH is that the spouse would rather avoid facing their weaknesses because it is easier and less stressful than doing the work to make the improvements that are needed.

   Of course, you don’t want to position yourself in an adversarial way, so that is why you want to show strength and firmness … which will convey to your partner that you are serious and that this is a discussion that will be treated with the seriousness that is appropriate and necessary.

   There is another element that can come into play…

   Sometimes, when a spouse realizes that they cannot ignore or get out of a conversation, they may try to shut you down and stop you cold by counter-attacking you.

   If this happens, you simply acknowledge that you are completely open to discussing and resolving all issues in a manner that is satisfactory to both of you … but that you are not going to let other issues distract either one of you from addressing one thing at a time … starting with the issues you have already raised … and when those are resolved, THEN the two of you can move to the next set of issues to resolve.

Keep these 7 tips in mind for the next time you need to speak with your spouse about something of a sexual nature.

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

Husband, This Is THE Solution If You Want An Affectionate, Sexual Marriage. Click here.

Wife, This Is THE Solution If You Want An Affectionate, Sexual Marriage. Click here.

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The answer is, “Yes!”

There ARE men who create the marriage they want with a wife who was previously blocked, locked, and shut-down.

But, they did NOT create the marriage they wanted by just WANTING their wife to be different.  They did NOT create the marriage they wanted by being frustrated all the time because their wife was not what they wanted her to be.  They did not create the marriage they wanted by trying something for a few weeks and then giving up and going back to their previous mode of operation.

These men created the marriage they wanted by becoming the kind of man who their wife could be attracted to and turned on by.

Imagine for a moment that your wife was a 450 pound woman with nasty and missing teeth, foul breath, lots of facial hair, matted, dandruff-filled hair, arm-pit odor that you could smell across the room, and so on — a woman who just totally grossed you out.

If your wife really was like this, in terms of you wanting her sexually, would it matter how nice she was to you?

The obvious answer is no.  If she’s nice to you, that might make it easier to get along with her but you will NOT want to partake of her sexually.

Well, hopefully you are not physically gross to your wife…but if she is not turned on by you, then that means the emotional connection you have with her AND your mode of operation around her IS gross to her and that is why she isn’t interested in sharing her affection or sex with you.  So, that is why a man must learn how to become an attractive, appealing, desirable, sexy man — so that he doesn’t “gross” his wife out when it comes to affection and sex.

How EXACTLY to become this kind of man IS explained in my digital books and in my private forum.  But, it DOES takes work, effort, diligence, and discipline to become this kind of man.  But then again, these ARE some of the very traits that make a man attractive — so these are traits a man SHOULD WANT.  No, it is NOT easy.  But, it is FOR SURE that a woman is NOT going to be attracted to a man who is physically, emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually lazy.

And, getting another woman DOES NOT fix a man’s problems.  If a man were to get another woman, it would be just a matter of time until he was in the exact same situation.  It would be just a matter of time until the new woman started reacting towards him just like his current wife does.  This is true because a woman is always reacting to the man…so without any changes on the man’s part, the specific details would be different but the outcome and results would be exactly the same because the character and nature of a relationship stems from the man’s way of thinking and the man’s mode of operation.

Here’s a way to think about things that can get a man going in a good direction: if I wanted my wife to be just like your wife, how would I get her to be that way?  What would I have to do so that my wife would be like yours?  What would I not do?  How would I have to think?  What would my mindset have to be? How would I have to interact with her.  What kind of person would I have to be?  What would I have to make my life like?  How confused and unclear would I have to be about my wife’s wants and needs?

Think about your relationship with your wife from all of these different levels because there IS a MENTALITY and PROCESS to creating the outcomes that you are currently experiencing.  And, as you become more aware of the mentality and process that creates what you currently have, THEN you will become more aware of how to shift your mentality and process to one that works better for you and that creates the outcomes that you desire.

Here’s another way to think about things that can get a man going in a good direction: if a certain kind of man was to walk into your wife’s life, she WOULD have a positive, affectionate, and sexual reaction and response to that man.  What kind of man would such a man be?  What would he be like?  What would he do?  What would he NOT do?  What would his mentality be?  What would his life be like, etc.

Again, all the solutions and answers are IN my digital books and in my forum.  But, the common problem for many guys is that they have such STRONG MENTAL PROGRAMS running in their own head that they can read the books and do a few EASY things different … but the SAME strong mental programs are still firmly running in their head which means their wife is STILL going to have the SAME exact response to her husband — except she will perhaps be a little nicer towards him.

Stated differently, it is EASY to see what another guy is doing wrong in his relationship … while it is HARD for a guy to see what HE is doing wrong in his relationship.  And THAT is why a man must become able to SEE HIMSELF in the way that his wife sees him.  And WHEN he begins to see himself accurately, THEN he can make the appropriate shifts and changes…THEN he can change his habitual way of thinking and operating…so that he can get a different and better response out of his wife towards him…one that he enjoys way more than his current results.

So, if what I have said here resonates truth to you, then I encourage you to do yourself the favor of going here: www.NymphomaniacWife.com

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

Do you in fact feel hopeless or depressed about your relationship with your wife?

If so, here is what you need to know…

A key reason you feel that way is because you are not aware of any viable, workable, solution-oriented options. You don’t know what to do. You don’t know where to go from here. You don’t know how to fix your marriage … you don’t know how to make your situation better.

Perhaps you have browsed through a few books looking for ideas … and all you saw was elementary information that you have already tried that did not work for you.

Perhaps you have considered marriage counseling but you’ve seen the poor results others have gotten when they pursued that option … or perhaps you just really don’t want to go air you and your wife’s dirty laundry to a stranger … or perhaps your wife simply is not willing to go to counseling.

Perhaps you have sought advice from friends and acquaintances only to find out that their marriage relationship is as bad or worse than yours … either that, or they don’t know how to help you because their spouse has just always been a good, cooperative, compliant spouse.

Maybe you have even explored and pursued some other options only to find that they too were a dead end.

And now, you feel stuck and frustrated. You don’t want to end your marriage because that is such a drastic thing … because you made your vows … and you would really prefer to keep them if at all possible. And besides, you really do love your wife because WHEN SHE WANTS TO BE, she really can be an amazing person, right?

Even worse, your marriage as it exists right now is draining the life out of you. It is robbing you of your confidence and manhood. It is sucking all joy and motivation right out of you. It is emasculating you on every level. Am I right?

Well fellow husband, there IS one last option for you … and the good news is that his option is the one that WILL take you to the happier, more loving, more affectionate, more intimate, and more sexual marriage relationship that you want.

What is this option?

This option is one where you get to learn from men who HAVE ALREADY CREATED their OWN happy, affectionate, sexual marriage relationship and they SHARE WITH YOU exactly HOW they did it. And just so it is clear, these men had difficult, complex marriage relationships with a difficult, complex wife that they had previously been unable to turn around until they found this option.

Moreover, this option is one where you get to interact with men who are IN THE PROCESS of creating their own fulfilling, satisfying marriage relationship … so that you have men who understand what you are going through and dealing with to help you, support you, and encourage you … even as you help, support, and encourage them.

What is this option?

It is the Married And Happy system where you get information that tells you what to do, why to do it, and how to do it. And, you get access to a private forum where you get to learn from the men who have already implemented the system to create the results they want AND you get to interact with the men who are in the process of creating their own happy and sexual marriage.

And, you are going to be amazed at how wonderful it feels to actually be able to do something good about your relationship with your wife … to know that you finally have REAL help, REAL information, and REAL solutions so that you can DO SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE THAT WORKS!

I encourage you to learn more about this option by going here: www.NymphomaniacWife.com

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

What would your wife say?

Well, the odds are VERY high that she would give you a response that is some variation of the following actual response I received from a wife:

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“Intimacy can be a hard concept for a husband to understand sometimes. They frequently get intimacy confused with romance or even physical relations.

Many people might not realize this, but while men and women essentially want the same things out of their romantic relationships, their priorities are different when one considers the order that they want these things to take place.

For example, a man craves physical relationships as a priority over intimacy. On the other hand, women crave intimacy as a precursor to physical relationships. It’s for this reason that if a man wants to have an increase in his physical relations with his wife, he has to learn how to reach her with intimacy.

So how is it possible for a man to create more intimacy in his relationship in order to keep the romantic fires burning in his marriage?

There’s a variety of things that he can do to keep things refreshed and romantic.

One thing that he can do is constantly let his wife know how much she means to him. For example, a little note before he leaves the house can do a lot to put a smile on her face, and to create intimacy in her spirit.

It never hurts for a husband to say that he loves his wife, or that she’s been looking good lately, or to even let her know that he has plans for her when he gets home from work.

Romantic notes were things that were exchanged when we were younger and romance was fresh and new. Some people might think that when they get older they are too old for romantic notes, but notes can help revive the spirit of playfulness and romance in marriage. This is certainly something that can help to create intimacy.

It never hurts to give your wife an unexpected gift, or a token of appreciation. While a large scale gift such as a piece of jewelry is always appreciated, the small gifts are just as appreciated, and they also could help to create intimacy in the marriage.

For example, it doesn’t hurt to bring home some flowers, or maybe buy your wife a piece of candy.

A husband can even be a little bit untraditional, and he can go to store pick up his wife’s favorite treat, or he can call her while he’s running around to ask if she’d like something from the store that she needs to clean up around the house.

Buying cleaning supplies and everyday items might not seem very romantic to the man, but for women it creates intimacy, because the husband was thoughtful enough to ask her what her needs were.

On that note, some wives have said that romantic intimacy can include anything as small as a husband washing the dishes and taking on some of the housekeeping duties around the house. Women already have so much to do and when some of her daily responsibilities have been taken off of her hands, it will certainly soften her heart, and work to create intimacy in the marriage.

Creating intimacy doesn’t have to cost a lot of money, and a lot of cases it can be free. For example, a husband can consider when was the last time he took a nice walk with his wife around the block. They can both either take a nice leisurely stroll at the end of the day, or they can both put on their walking shoes and get a little bit of exercise in.

The point is for a husband to take some concentrated time, and do nothing but give that time and attention to his wife. This will certainly go a long way to create intimacy and warm feelings within his wife.

Women are a lot more prone to give a man what he desires physically when a man is going out of his way to create intimacy and emotion inside of her.

Besides going for nice walks, the husband can plan something that is fun and unexpected. For example, an interesting and fun thing to do that doesn’t require the two of you to go anywhere, is to plan an indoor picnic.

Picnics in of themselves are romantic, and they create intimacy. Many people don’t like picnics, because they don’t want to deal with the environment, or with bugs and the weather.

On the other hand, indoor picnics lend themselves to intimacy, because the atmosphere can be exactly as they wish it to be. Not only this, but they don’t have to worry about bugs, and they can play whatever music they like to create a romantic atmosphere.

Part of the picnic is laying down a blanket. With an intimate indoor picnic, they can lie down and enjoy each other up close and personal, while reminiscing, or while playing games.

The point is to create a feeling and space that makes the couple feel like they had fun, and that they shared intimacy together.

One more thing that a husband can do to create intimacy with his wife is to simply listen to her. For example, at the end of the day, a husband can allow for time to allow his wife to vent.

He shouldn’t try to problem solve, he should primarily just listen to her. Women are very emotional and they need to communicate. It goes a long way to create intimacy in a woman when she feels that she is understood, and that she is heard.

She needs to know that someone in the world hears and respects what she has to say, and what is on her heart. When she feels this from her husband, then very little will be able to break the intimate bond that will be created.

When a wife is made to feel that her husband wants to foster emotional intimacy with her, she will want to foster physical intimacy with him.”

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So, what do you think about this woman’s advice? Does it sound similar to what your own wife has told you in times past? Does it sound like familiar advice you have heard from women throughout the course of your life?

And another question … have you ever noticed … have you ever caught on to the fact … have you ever made the connection … that this common female “advice” just doesn’t ever seem to produce very good results when it comes to your sex life?

Well, I’m going to reveal something to you that nobody has ever told you before…

You cannot ask a woman how you can be more sexual with her because she WILL NOT tell you!

You either just “know” how to get her to be sexually expressive with you … you either just have that “something” that causes her to want to be sexual with you … or she won’t be very sexual with you at all. (Most guys noticed this phenomenon in High School … and married or not, the phenomenon is still just as true in their life today.)

So, when you ask a woman what needs to happen so that she will be more sexual with you, she will “sound” like she is answering your question … but the actual truth is that she is just telling you how to be a platonic, non-physical, friend with her.

It has happened millions and millions of times … the typical husband tries to find out from his wife what to do so that she will be more sexual with them … and his wife serves up some things he can do … and like a small boy thinking he is going to get some candy, he runs to “jump the hurdles” his wife has served up … and his wife may get a little friendlier with him … but she does NOT get any more sexual with him. In fact, she usually becomes even less sexual with him.

Again, a woman will NOT tell you how to be more sexual with her. Either you “know” how to bring her sexuality out of her … or in her mind, you do not deserve to get her sexuality … and this TRUTH has played out in untold millions of marriages … including YOURS, right?

So, let’s explore what commonly happens when a husband tries to apply “advice” to his marriage like the woman in the above letter gave:

1. “One thing that he can do is constantly let his wife know how much she means to him.”

Like MOST female advice, this “sounds” true and good … so you start saying nice things to your wife multiple times every day … you start telling her how important she is to you … how she is your “life” and so on … and if anything, your wife seems to disrespect and disregard you even more than she did before … and she definitely does NOT become more sexual.

2. “It never hurts to give your wife an unexpected gift, or a token of appreciation. … For example, it doesn’t hurt to bring home some flowers, or maybe buy your wife a piece of candy.”

Have you already realized that this “strategy” is not very reliable or enduring? The truth is that your wife will not respond sexually to you giving her gifts for very long. When you were first married, your wife MIGHT have “rewarded” a gift with sex … but now, it’s perceived negatively … as a bribe from you to get her to give you sex … because in her mind, that’s all you ever want is sex … in her mind, everything you do has the motive of you wanting sex behind it … which means she resists everything you do.

So now what are you supposed to do? How are you supposed to get sexual results in your marriage if your gifts … and your dinner / flowers / movie dates … and everything else you try … doesn’t work any more … or even worse, works against you?

And what about this one…

Have you ever brought home some kind of sweet treat for your wife, only to have her get mad at you for being an “inconsiderate pig” because you didn’t think of her and her diet? So, from that “harsh” experience, you “learned” not to do that … and then your wife turns around and tells you that you are an “inconsiderate pig” because you never think of her or do anything for her.

What do you do with that?

3. “Buying cleaning supplies and everyday items might not seem very romantic to the man, but for women it creates intimacy, because the husband was thoughtful enough to ask her what her needs were.”

More common female “advice” that in practice does NOTHING for your sex life. A husband tries to be “thoughtful” towards his wife … but then, she soon comes to expect him to be doing nothing except thinking about what she wants … she turns him into an “errand boy” … and more often than not, she’s not happy with what he is trying to do for her … he somehow fails to “be considerate” in a way that’s up to her “specifications” … all of which causes her to be turned off towards him.

And, the net result is that you can’t win for all the losing, right?

4. “…a nice walk with his wife around the block. They can both either take a nice leisurely stroll at the end of the day, or they can both put on their walking shoes and get a little bit of exercise in.”

Ok … sounds good … and what is a husband supposed to do when his wife isn’t interested in walking with him … what’s he supposed to do when she won’t take a stroll because something else is “more important” than being with him? Or, what is he supposed to do when his wife would rather walk with her girlfriends than him?

5. “One more thing that a husband can do to create intimacy with his wife is to simply listen to her. For example, at the end of the day, a husband can allow for time to allow his wife to vent.”

Oh yea … this is a fantastic piece of female advice … maybe you have tried it … and by the time you got through “listening” to your wife, she was in such a negative vibration that sex didn’t happen for at least two weeks!!!

Here is the point…

Female advice can be a good thing in terms of creating a friendlier relationship but RARELY will it do anything to spice up your love life.

You cannot ask a woman how to be more sexual with you because she will not tell you … even if she is that rare one in a thousand who understands what it is that really turns her on.

If you want to find out how to get your wife to be more sexual with you, then come ask questions and hang out virtually with a guy like me who “knows” how to get a woman to be sexual with him and learn from what I am doing that works so well.

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

Husband, This Is THE Solution If You Want An Affectionate, Sexual Marriage. Click here.

Wife, This Is THE Solution If You Want An Affectionate, Sexual Marriage. Click here.

Husband And Wife, This Is THE Solution If You Want A Happy Marriage That Works For BOTH Of You. Click here.

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Are you in a sexless marriage if you and your partner have sex once a month? Once every two months? Twice a year? What determines if a marriage is a “sexless” marriage?

Well, I hear other people waffling around this question without really answering it…so I’m going to step out and tell you the answer plainly…

If you and your spouse do not purposely find a way to express yourselves sexually WITH each other at LEAST once a week…once every 7 days, THEN YOU ARE IN A SEXLESS MARRIAGE.

Now, I can hear the gasps and whistles and see the eyebrows rising…but here’s the truth…married couples who are in a TRULY happy marriage…one where BOTH the husband AND the wife are genuinely happy…join together in sexual expression AT LEAST 2 – 3 times a week.

Even when happily married couples are separated…perhaps by business travel…or away caring for a family member in need of assistance…they STILL express their sexuality together over the phone or by video.

(Note: Typically, in a sexless marriage, there is one person who wants sex and one person who does not. I’m going to speak towards the person who does not want sex in the remainder of this article. If you are the person who DOES want sex more often, then jump down to the resources listed at the bottom and check out those options.)

So, continuing on…you might say that you are truly happily married and you don’t have sex 2 – 3 times a week…well, I promise you, if your spouse was to expose the truth, THEY ARE NOT HAPPY with YOU!!!

But, in all honesty, if you aren’t having sex 2 – 3 times a week…if you aren’t sexually expressing yourself with someone who wants you to express yourself with them and vice versa, then YOU AREN’T HAPPY ABOUT IT EITHER!

You might say you are…but that’s an excuse…it’s a cover up…you are lying to yourself and to others.

I don’t care what you “claim”, nobody in their right mind starts into life with dreams of living a platonic, passionless, straight-laced, boring-but-safe-and-secure life. Nobody dreams of living their life with a friendly “roommate”. Nobody…and that includes you!

Nobody is interested in watching a movie about two adult people living a nice, quiet, safe, secure, passionless, sexless life that’s void of all excitement. Nobody wants to watch a movie about two dull, dreary people who get up in the morning…all civil and courteous and friendly in their short, shallow, information-only conversations…and then go to their jobs…only to come home and continue in the same monotonous pattern.

And, if you aren’t interested in watching a movie of your life, then you are NOT truly happy about your life…no matter what you say and no matter how much you try to deny it or deceive yourself.

If you are a female, you have NEVER ONCE wanted to read a “romance” novel or watch a soap opera about some man and woman living a platonic, amiable, cordial, friendly, but non-intimate, sexless life together. Not once!

But, people always have their excuses…

They say, “Well, we would do more fun and exciting things if we had more money.” Baloney! You want to see some BORED people? Go to Las Vegas…Sin City…Fun Capital of the World…and walk into any Casino, and look at the faces of people playing the games and gambling with their money…and MOST of them will be the face of boredom.

How can that be? It’s because excitement doesn’t come from money. It doesn’t come from a game. It doesn’t come from being in a certain place. It doesn’t come from being with a certain person. Excitement comes from YOU being EAGER to open up your heart, mind, and body…and EAGERLY sharing it with somebody else who is also EAGER to lay out their heart, mind, and body to be shared with you.

And, when you do this within the God-approved, God-ordained structure of a private marriage relationship, that is when real excitement happens!

And, what better way to lay out hearts, minds, and bodies than to be intimate and sexual with your partner…and them with you? The answer is that there is no better way. That’s why God created sex for married people. If yadi-yadi-blah-blah was a better way, God would have created yadi-yadi-blah-blah — but He didn’t! He created SEX!

The problem is though, people let the fears, insecurities, and offenses they feel in relation to their spouse BLOCK them from laying out their heart, mind, and body…or they use their heart, mind, and body as a bargaining chip for usurping and retaining control over their spouse…and NEITHER of these will make you happy if you engage in them.

I promise you, if you are a husband or wife who habitually withholds sex from your spouse for weeks or months, YOU are NOT a happy person.

So why would you do this?

Why would you even play a game where YOU lose twice? And you DO lose twice…you lose out on the joy and excitement of intimacy now…and you lose out when your spouse finally gets fed up with your game playing and divorces you or cheats on you.

Why would you short-change yourself of satisfaction, fulfillment, enjoyment, and excitement? It’s for sure you wouldn’t let somebody else try to shortchange you of these things…so why would you do it to yourself?

And really, being a non-sexual person is an acute case of dishonesty. You are dishonestly cheating yourself and you are dishonestly defrauding your spouse.

Another excuse…

“It’s my spouse’s fault! He/She….”

I’m sure your spouse has their faults and wrong-doings…just as you do…but while you are condemning and judging your spouse…instead of opening your heart, mind, and body to them…while you are trying to “get back at them” in whatever you are trying to do that, you are once again short-changing your own happiness.

The fact is, if you are not CONTRIBUTING to your and your spouse’s “environment”…if you are not being CONDUCIVE to an exciting relationship, then YOU are the block and the hindrance. If you aren’t ACTIVELY HELPING, SUPPORTING, AND ENCOURAGING your spouse to be successful with you…then YOU are the roadblock to YOUR happiness in life.

And, you ARE hurting yourself more than you are hurting your spouse. Yes it hurts your spouse when you won’t participate and cooperate and have a fun, exciting relationship with them…but they will EVENTUALLY get all of that with or without you.

Wouldn’t it just be easier to decide that they CAN HAVE that fun, exciting, and sexual relationship WITH YOU instead of WITHOUT you?

Now, I have no doubt that I’ve stirred your thoughts and feelings.  So, share them with me…take that first step towards opening your heart, mind, and body: Leave a Response

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

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Now normally, my blog posts speak to men as I try to “wake them up” to being the kind of man who knows how to lead he and his wife into a happy, sexual relationship before his wife runs off with another man and then divorces him.

But today, I must speak to wives…

I have no doubt that this will raise some hackles…but I’m just saying…if you care about your marriage, then now is a good time for you to revisit some basics before it’s too late.

“Calle, my husband just told me that he is through with being unhappy with me, that he is in love with some other woman, that he is leaving me, and I will be receiving divorce papers in the next day or two.

I was so surprised and shocked that I literally could not say anything. I’m still trying to grasp and comprehend that this is really happening. I can’t believe after all these years of marriage and our children that he is just going to walk out on us and walk away from everything.

I thought our marriage was great and I thought he was happy being married to me.

Why would he do this to me and our children?

And what kind of slut / whore / tramp would break up our home? What kind of woman would take my husband away from me and our children’s father away from them?

I can’t say I am a super-model but I am considered an attractive woman. Is this other woman prettier than me? Is her figure nicer than mine? Does she have a lot of money? What is it that she has that has drawn my husband to her and away from me?

I don’t understand. I’ve put my entire adult life…I’ve invested my everything into this marriage. What just happened to me?

– Broken-Hearted Wife”

Well, there ARE always exceptions…but after having dealt with women in this situation way too many times, here are seven “common, normal reasons” why a husband will do this to his wife and children:

1. Not enough sexual desire, passion, or interest from his wife. Her attitude is that if she’s not in the mood, then he shouldn’t be either. Her attitude is that if she’s not in the mood, then he is a sex-addict and pervert for even being in the mood. And of course, with this kind of attitude, she’s rarely in the mood because she isn’t the least bit interested in LETTING herself get in the mood…especially since she knows her husband is frequently in the mood. Consequently, she has decided her sexuality isn’t important to her at this time in her life so she just subverts it…and expects her husband to subvert his needs like she does.
2. His wife prioritizes him as LAST and LEAST in her life. She puts the kids as first and foremost. Her mother and sisters are second-most. Her friends and coworkers are third-most…and after all of that, she is just “too tired” to have any time, interest, or energy for her husband.
3. Similarly, it’s common for his wife’s attitude to be that her Dad or some other man is the world’s smartest, wisest man…and he is the world’s stupidest, most foolish man. If he says something, it’s stupid. If her Dad or some other man says the same thing, it’s smart.
4. His wife thinks the kids are her “property”…”property” that she gets to call all the shots on. Typically, this means the kids pretty much run wild doing whatever they want whenever they want. Typically, this means the kids are pushed into all kinds of activities and engagements that his wife thinks they should be involved in…to the point that the family’s entire life revolves around the kids. And, if the husband says something about the “overbooking”, he gets accused of being a selfish pig. Or, if he tries to correct or punish the kids for misbehavior, the wife intervenes and interjects…even going so far as to insinuate or threaten him with divorce or DHS if he doesn’t back off and leave the kids alone.
5. His wife wants a lot from him and gives back as little as possible to him as she can…and complains about what little she does give him. His wife fully expects him to meet her every material need…but his needs just aren’t important or necessary.
6. His wife says she needs all the money they have now…but complains that there is nothing being set aside for the future…and insinuates he is a loser for not having more.
7. His wife doesn’t value him, respect him, or appreciate him.

And all of this…plus plenty of other attitudes and behaviors…ranging from disrespectful to devaluing to irritating to downright nasty…add up to an EXHAUSTING DRAIN on a husband that EVENTUALLY he decides is just NOT worth putting up with any more.

A husband tires quickly of being with a woman who does not want to be his wife or lover…he get gets so tired of being with a woman who from all outward appearances doesn’t like him, want him, or appreciate him…that he finally becomes open to some OTHER lady being the woman in his life…and when he finally opens that door in his mind, he finds out that there are a LOT of AVAILABLE ladies out there who WANT to put him first in their life…there are a LOT of ladies out there who WANT to be his lover and sexual partner…there are a LOT of women out there who WANT to value and appreciate him.

Now, you should understand that your husband probably has a hard time being direct, open, and honest with you…just like you have a hard time being that way with him about things that are REAL to you. Most couple’s talk at a surface level and completely hide, avoid, and deny the deeper core issues that really matter. So, IF you were to go ask your husband right now if he’s happy being married to you…he would undoubtedly tell you he is.

But, if the two of you are not sharing exciting sexual encounters 2 – 5 times a week…encounters that you have prepared yourself for and look forward to…

If, you rarely tell or show your husband how much you value and appreciate him…

If you rarely have time or energy for connecting with your husband on an intimate level…

If you think intimacy isn’t all that important…especially to you…

If your husband is the low man on your totem pole…

If your husband’s needs are an irritant and a nuisance to you…and you meet his need just to pacify him…

If you have time and energy for your children, your work, and your family/friends…but not your husband…

If you rarely build up your husband…and frequently condemn, criticize, and tear him down…

Then I promise you, your husband is NOT happy with you…and don’t be surprised when the news of another woman in his life makes its way back to you.

One thing to elaborate on…wives often argue that their kids have to be the most important thing in their life. My response to that is this: you CAN put your kids to the top of your priority list…but what are you going to do when your kids are gone…AND your husband is gone too?

Now, no normal husband expects his wife to ignore the children and focus 100% of her time, interest, and attention upon him…but that’s not likely to be a problem any time soon because the average wife gives her husband less than 5% of her time, interest, and attention…70% to the children…and the rest to her Mom, sisters, and/or girlfriends.

And, a husband who is getting 5% or less of his wife’s attention and affection is LOW-HANGING FRUIT for the hordes of women who WANT to give 70% of their attention and interest to a man who reciprocates their attention and interest.

The good news is that as your husband’s wife, YOU have a lot of control over your husband’s loyalty and faithfulness to you. YOU have the ability to determine what priority he is in your life…and the level of priority you determine he has in your life also determines whether he is “easy pickings” for another woman or not.  You can be the lover who values your husband or some other woman will be soon enough.

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Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

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Are you a husband who is tired of plain, boring, uninspiring, unenthusiastic sex with your wife?

Do you wish there was more real enthusiasm, feeling, passion, excitement, and closeness when you and your wife make love?

As you think about wanting a better kind of marriage relationship with your wife, consider the following…

As a wife observes and interacts with her husband, she is ALWAYS asking herself two questions:

1. Can I trust him?
2. Is he attractive?

Of course, these questions are mostly at a subconscious level…but the answers are readily manifested in a woman by the feelings she has towards her husband. And more specifically, by the degree of closeness, affection, intimacy, and passion she exhibits towards her husband.

As a wife watches the way her husband operates…as she watches how he interacts with her…as she watches how he interacts with any children they have…as she listens to what he says…or doesn’t say…as she watches the choices and decisions he makes…as she watches the directions in life that he takes…as she watches the people in his life and gauges their quality and caliber…and particularly who is coming in and who is going out of his life and their life…as she watches dozens of patterns, attitudes, and behaviors that all reveal what kind of man she is with, she develops a FEELING of whether she can trust her husband.

As a wife looks at her husband’s level of manliness and masculinity…as she looks at his level of strength and courage…as she looks at his level of lovingness, consideration, and empathy…as she looks at his achievements and accomplishments…as she looks at his abilities…as she looks at his growth and development…as she looks at his abilities and results in the areas of their relationship, their children and family, money, health, and spirituality…as she looks at dozens of features and characteristics in her husband that are manifested in all kinds of ways on a daily basis, she develops a FEELING of whether her husband is attractive and sexually desirable or not.

And, LOGIC will not ever change how a wife feels in relation to her husband. The only thing that will change her is when the husband learns how to change the FEELINGS that he is generating within her towards himself and towards herself.

As a husband, have you ever told your wife your wife in some way that things need to step up in the sex department?

Most husbands have…and NONE of them got any results that lasted…and in most cases, the situation got even worse.

Why is this?

It’s because the husband is interacting with his wife on a logical level.

Everyday this plays out…a husband wants more sex…and the real kicker is that HIS WIFE WANTS MORE SEX TOO…but he is on a logical level and his wife is on an emotional level…and neither of them know how to come together onto the same level.

And, the problem is that the wife simply cannot get to the sexual place her husband wants her to be at…and that she WANTS to be at…because her passion, her desire, and her body respond to the feelings she has about her husband. She goes by her feelings…no matter how right or wrong…no matter how correct or incorrect…no matter how accurate or misguided they are.

A wife is like a deer…a deer pays very little attention to what it sees…it goes by what it smells. A deer doesn’t trust its eyesight but it implicitly trusts its sense of smell. It’s the same with a woman. She doesn’t trust logic, explanation, analysis, or argument — ALL OF WHICH IS WHAT THE TYPICAL HUSBAND IS SPEWING AT HIS WIFE ON AN ONGOING BASIS — all of which only makes the woman FEEL even worse in relation to her husband.

And to her husband’s sexual detriment, she trusts, responds to, and goes by her feelings…even if they aren’t the feelings that she wants.

The point is, unless and until a husband learns how to generate good feelings within his wife towards him and towards herself, he will continue to experience lovemaking sessions that are dispiriting…he will continue to have a wife who has low sexual desire FOR HIM…and that is evidenced by his wife’s lack of interest, passion, and desire before, during, and after sex.

Perhaps you know how unsatisfying, ungratifying, and disheartening this kind of sex is. If so, you should know that you CAN learn how to create the kind of sexual encounters that you DO want to have with your wife. Those men who enjoy a high-quality, high-frequency sex-life learned how to do it and so can you.

Copyright 2011 by Calle Zorro

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