Every week, I have wives call me up because they want a happier, more affectionate, more intimate, more romantic, and more sexual marriage relationship with their husband.
These wives tell me that they can’t stand being in the sexless marriage that they are in. Some of these wives are in their 20’s…some are in their 60’s…but most are in the middle-aged group and they literally tell me that even though they are a middle-aged wife with several children, they STILL feel like that “teenaged sexual hotty” who “wants it” all the time. They literally tell me that they want to be a “whore” with their MAN.
These wives literally tell me that they crave sex.. and yet they reject their husband’s sexual advances. These wives tell me they want a “spicy” relationship so bad that they are ready to file for divorce (in fact, that’s how many of these wives find me…they are online searching for information about how to divorce their husband)…but they won’t have sex with their husband.
What’s going on here? What kind of madness is this?
Well, allow me to keep going so that you find out what else these wives tell me…
You devote significant time and attention to your work or business. In some ways, you’re quite successful. Moreover, you are a great dad…you are very good with the kids. By standard definitions, you would be judged a good husband and a good father by “society”.
But, there’s one area that the “standard definitions” don’t ever seem to include…the level of REAL closeness, affection, and intimacy between you and your wife.
Because it “seems” like your wife rarely ever wants to have sex with you…you have accused her multiple times of being a “cold fish” and other not-so-nice names that I won’t repeat here.
And all the while, YOUR wife is CRAVING an intimate relationship with a MAN!
And here’s the thing for you to know…she’d LIKE for YOU to be that man!
While you’re being unhappy about your nearly-sexless marriage…she’s SCREAMING on the inside for you to just give her ten or fifteen minutes of what she needs in order to be turned on by you. Of course, she’d rather have an hour or two of quality time with you…but she’d settle for just ten or fifteen minutes.
YOUR wife has tried and tried to tell you what she wants and needs from you…but she says you won’t listen to her.
For some reason that’s a total mystery to your wife…especially knowing how much you want sex…YOU ARE REFUSING to give your wife what she wants from you in order to be turned on.
Why?
Are negative emotions and foolish pride driving you? Is this what you want driving you? Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life?
If your answers to these questions are, “Yes”, and you have no interest in changing, then you will soon enough be divorced and then repeating everything again in the next round with the next woman…creating more misery to share with more people.
Or, is the problem that you just don’t know what to do?
Well, if that’s the case, my friend, ignorance is NOT bliss! As you can attest to, marriage relationship ignorance is PAINFUL!
And, there’s no need for you or your wife to suffer through that pain.
I PROMISE YOU…your wife WANTS you to “know her”! She WANTS to feel your “manly, masculine strength”.
All you need is a little education…and both YOU and your wife will get what you want.
Oh, that reminds me of another thing wives tell me…they are amazed at and blown away by the training books, audio programs, videos, and seminars you STUDY in relation to YOUR interests and hobbies…whether it’s golfing, boating, motorcycles, hunting, riding, or whatever…and yet you don’t seem to have any interest in learning how to “turn your wife on sexually”.
They have a point…don’t they?
Copyright 2018 by Calle Zorro
I hear what you are saying and have read some of the articles on this blog. I have tried many of the things over our 16 years of marriage, i regularly give massages without requiring anything else, I take care of the kids most evenings so that she can have a relaxing bath. I wash, shave, stay clean, snuggle with her and when we do make love rub her back afterwards until she is asleep, however, it is all one way in the bedroom, she won’t touch my parts unless she has too, but wants to lie there and let me do all the touching, feeling, sucking etc. She wants me to get on and get off, she doesn’t want to give oral, but likes to receive it and above all if I tell her what I like, she tells me not to tell her what to do. I feel I can’t win and that doesn’t include the fact that I like her to wear sexy underwear, but she refuses or makes a fuss when she does. I don’t want a divorce, I want to be with her, but it feels like I am here for all she can get and she gives nothing in return.
@ John: I hear you loud and clear John and it sounds all too familiar. If you have not already, you need to get Calle’s material. In the book “Marriage Turnaround Guidebook” Calle talks about our marriage “relationships” actually being processes and all of our processes end with a result, good, bad or indifferent. If we change the process, our part, her part or both, then we change the result or outcome. So over the 16 years you’ve been married (same as me btw) the two of you have engaged in processes that have resulted in an outcome that is unfulfilling to both you. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So get the material read it and find out how to understand the process and when you get that, then you’ll be able to change the process to get a fulfilling outcome for both of you. You want a responce that is sexual and intamate and exhibits desire from her to you…she wants a man that turns her on and she can admire, respect and release herself to. Not someone who obeys her every whim and wants sex as a reward, infact she is repulsed by that behavior. When I took my balls back…it was not easy, (after all, I had trained her for years that she had control of them), but it was worth it…to both of us.