What is going on when a wife will open up to sex only on rare occasions…and immediately after having sex, she goes back to a policy of no sex for a long time?
It is an all too common scenario where a wife mostly avoids affection, intimacy, and sex with her husband…
But, about once a month…maybe once every other month…perhaps every 3-4 months…or whatever the extended interval is…
She will be sexual with her husband…
And it is obvious that she had a great orgasm…
It is obvious that she had a good time sexually…
It is obvious that she enjoyed herself…
It is obvious that she received significant sexual pleasure…
But in spite of all that, she goes right back to her model and policy of no sex for a long time.
What is up with that?
Why would a wife go right back to avoiding sex for an extended period of time when it is obvious she received substantial sexual pleasure from having sex?
Well, I will tell you exactly what is going on…
Just because a wife holds to a policy of no sex for a long time does not mean that she has no sexual desire or interest in sex.
Just because a wife avoids sex with her husband for a long time does NOT mean that she does not want or need sex during that time.
Her sex avoidance simply means that the repulsion she feels towards her husband is GREATER than her desire for sex.
Now, in some marriages, the repulsion that a wife FEELS towards her husband is so high that her desire for sex will rarely to never rise above the repulsion she feels towards her husband.
These are the marriages where sex might happen once a year at best…and it is frequently the case that several years pass between sexual encounters.
But in far more marriages, the repulsion that a wife FEELS towards her husband is just slightly higher than her desire for sex…such that she AVOIDS sex for weeks or months at a time.
But eventually, her innate need and desire for sex will overpower her repulsion…and she will instigate a sexual encounter.
In other words, she eventually gets horny enough that her desire for sex becomes greater than the repulsion she FEELS towards her husband. And so, she will instigate a sexual encounter and satiate her sexual desire…often in a fairly passionate maybe even aggressive way.
But once she is sexually satiated, then the repulsion she FEELS towards her husband once again becomes her dominating, superseding FEELING…and she goes right back to her model and policy of no sex for a long time.
And of course, the husband is left scratching his head…wondering how his wife can go from what he believes was a great sexual encounter…back to avoiding affection and intimacy with him…and no sex for a long time.
In the husband’s mind, he cannot understand why his wife doesn’t want to have great sex far more frequently…especially given the pleasure she receives when they do have sex.
In the husband’s mind, it seems far more logical for his wife to wants sex frequently so that she could enjoy sexual pleasure frequently.
But no matter what the logic in the husband’s mind says, the fact remains that his wife inevitably goes back to no sex for a long time right after they have sex…no matter how good it was.
Well, what the husband doesn’t understand is that it takes an extended period of time for his wife’s urge for sexual release…and therefore her WILLINGNESS to be sexual with him…to once again rise above the repulsion she FEELS towards him.
In other words, it takes a significant amount of time for his wife’s sexual desire to become greater than the anti-respect, anti-appreciation, anti-admiration, anti-attraction, and anti-desire that she FEELS towards him.
Now, here is some great news for you:
There is no need for you to suffer in a marriage where there is no sex for a long time.
All you have to do is develop yourself into the kind of man that your wife respects, appreciates, admires, and values…such that she feels attraction and desire towards you…and you will find that she is interested in sexual pleasure and release…WITH YOU…far more frequently.
In other words, WHEN there is nothing in YOU that is hindering, squelching, or blocking your wife’s innate and natural sexual desire, THEN you will get to enjoy sex with her far more frequently.
Copyright 2017 by Calle Zorro
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