Have you ever wished there was a way you could get your wife to improve herself for you?
Do you sometimes wish there was a way you could get your wife to be a better wife for you?
Are you a husband who loves your wife…but you just wish there was something you could do to make her be more like what you want her to be towards you?
Let’s have a look at what one man emailed me that goes straight to the point…a man who clearly wanted his wife to improve herself for him…
Calle, can you write a book that a married man can buy for his wife, where the book shows a wife how to better understand her man, how to improve herself as a woman, how to become a great quality wife, how to give great blowjobs, and how to improve her sexual skills, etc.?
On one hand, what this man is requesting is the book that men everywhere are wanting. On the other hand, this request is typical of how misguided the average husband is when it comes to his marriage relationship with his wife.
To explain what I mean…
The typical husband is relationally-lazy. Now granted, the typical husband will do certain things that suit him in an effort to get his wife to be more loving, affectionate, intimate, amorous, or sexual with him.
But outside of what suits him, he simply does not want to have to do much of anything relative to his wife.
At the same time, he wants his wife focused on him…he wants her coming on to him hot and wet with desire at least once a day…if not several times a day…and he wants her to have the skills to give him crazy-good pleasure.
So, if we were to strip the varnish off of the quoted request above, it would sound like this:
Calle, can you write a book…that I can buy and give to my wife…that will cause her to be a better wife…that will cause her to focus more on me, my interests, and my desires…that will cause her to be hot and wet with desire for me on a daily basis…and that will teach her how to be expert at giving me the pleasures I want from her…that doesn’t require anything from me except what I am already choosing to do?
Well, this sums up the “product” that the typical husband wants relative to his wife. You would probably like to have such a book yourself, right?
But here is the reality…the typical wife does not need a book to be and do all of these things. The typical wife does not need a book to help her be a better wife…or to help her focus on her husband…or to help her feel desire for her husband…or to help her to want to give her husband maximum pleasure. She does not need such a book because she is ALREADY HIGHLY MOTIVATED to be and do all of these things.
Now, you are probably thinking something like, “Whoa Calle, I don’t know what rainbow world you are living in…but in my world, I can tell you that my wife is definitely not highly motivated to be and do all of these things with me. And from where I stand, I am absolutely convinced that my marriage relationship would be way better if I could just get my wife to improve herself for me.”
Well, believe it or not…while the typical husband is wanting his wife to improve herself for him…he does not realize that his wife ALREADY knows how to be everything he wants in a woman…but she is choosing to NOT be that kind of woman with him.
That of course raises the question: IF a woman already knows how to be the kind of woman that her husband is wanting her to be for him, then WHY won’t she be this kind of woman for him?
The catch is that a normal woman will NOT be a devoted, doting, affectionate, intimate, amorous, and sexual wife for her husband UNLESS she is sufficiently attracted to him.
When a wife is with a husband who takes care of himself…
And, when a wife is with a husband who thinks, processes, operates, interacts, and relates in an attractive, appealing, desirable, and sexy way…
And, when a wife is with a husband who is relationally-savvy…such that he knows how to lead her, handle her, manage her, and deal with her…
…then she eagerly focuses on him…she eagerly wants to support and fulfill his interests and desires…she is frequently hot and wet with desire for him…she diligently seeks to improve her ability to give him maximum pleasure…and so on.
But again, the typical wife is not very attracted to her husband! Yes, she “loves” her husband…but she is not very attracted to him.
In fact, in many cases…the situation is worse than the wife just not being attracted to her husband. It is worse in that the wife is actually repulsed by her husband.
Now, the wife is not-attracted to her husband…or repulsed by her husband…because he is physically ugly or gross. How her husband physically looks is not the problem.
No…the problem is that her husband is relationally-lazy…and he is relationally-undeveloped…which means he is relationally-inept.
So, as the typical wife goes through day after day…week after week…month after month…and year after year…with her relationally-lazy and relationally-inept husband…well, whatever attraction and desire she felt for him when they dated and when they were first married is at this point LONG gone!
Now, here is the good news…
There is no need for you to try to figure out how to get your wife to improve herself for you. There is no need for you to try to figure out how to motivate your wife to improve herself so she can be the kind of woman you want her to be for you. There is no need to try to figure out how to control or coerce your wife into doing what you want her to do.
Instead, you can do something much, much easier…something that is completely under your control and power…that will bring back your wife’s attraction and desire for YOU!
That’s right…you really can bring back your wife’s attraction and desire for YOU!
There IS a way that you can CAUSE your wife to regain her focus on you, your interests, and your desires.
There IS a way that you can CAUSE your wife to again be hot and wet with desire for you.
There IS a way that you can CAUSE your wife to be motivated to be expert at giving you pleasure.
What is this way?
It is YOU purposely and proactively developing yourself into a certain kind of man…who understands your wife better than she understands herself…so that you can interact with her and relate to her in a certain kind of way…and all of these things that YOU want relative to your wife WILL become true.
To emphasize the truth of what I am saying…
You KNOW your own self…because you have seen it…and hopefully, you have experienced it at some point in your life…a female is “wired” in such a way…she is “genetically-programmed” in such a way…that IF/WHEN she is with a male that SHE feels attraction for…THEN she directs her interest, her affection, and her desire towards him…because she wants to give herself to him…and she wants to please him.
And, this response in your wife towards you is yours for the having and the enjoying…IF you will but make the decision to proactively develop yourself into the kind of man who knows how to interact with her in the right kind of way.
Really get this…
The approach of trying to get your wife to improve herself for you is an impossible approach. You have probably just about figured that out, right? Conversely, the approach that works crazy-well is the one where you develop yourself into the kind of man that your wife naturally responds to in a loving, affectionate, intimate, amorous, and sexual way. In other words, your wife is naturally wired to have the kind of response to you that you want her to have towards you WHEN she views you as an attractive, desirable, appealing, and sexy man. Become this man and you WILL get what you want from your wife.
Copyright 2018 by Calle Zorro