In my business of helping men create a happier, more sexual, more intimate marriage relationship, I sometimes have to tell men things they don’t really want to hear…
But, they’re things that will make a positive difference in their sex-life!
One of the things that women frequently tell me is, “I wish he would understand that spending 12 hours a day at work isn’t the sum total of his life.”
Right on the heels of that, women frequently tell me, “The only thing worse than him working all the time is him coming home and whining and complaining about things at work – especially griping about his boss.”
It’s these two statements that I want to discuss in this article – and thereby help men create a happier, more sexual marriage relationship.
With regard to the first statement, it’s as simple as this…
What you give positive energy to grows and what you deprive of positive energy dies.
When you give positive energy to your marriage relationship, it can grow. To give positive energy to your marriage means that you give it time, attention, and care.
For your marriage to be successful, you must nurture it.
But, you already knew this…
Now, it’s time for you to START DOING what you know you should do…if you want to improve your sex-life that is.
Ok, let’s go to the next statement… What I’m about to say will probably be a revelation to you…an insight into a woman’s mind that’s never occurred to you…along with the high cost you’re paying for your ignorance.
First, never, ever, ever whine, complain, or gripe about how “oppressed” you are at work.
It’s because a MAN doesn’t complain or whine. Little boys complain and whine. MEN don’t!
A mature woman is not attracted to little boys…she’s attracted to a MAN!
In the context of a marriage, there’s absolutely nothing about complaining and whining that endears a woman to her husband.
In a woman’s mind, if things are really that bad at work, then BE A MAN AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Otherwise, stop crying about it like a little boy.
Second, never, ever, ever whine, complain, or gripe about your boss.
In a woman’s mind, to do so merely makes you look weak and your boss strong.
In other words, to complain and gripe about your boss makes HIM more ATTRACTIVE to your wife and YOU LESS attractive.
There are men everywhere who come home every day of the week complaining about their boss – wanting boyish sympathy from their wife – and they don’t even realize that all they’re doing is CAUSING THEIR WIFE TO HAVE SEXUAL FANTASIES about another man – their boss.
So, if you’re doing it, the price you’re paying to come home complaining about work and your boss is to turn your wife off towards you and on towards another man.
Granted, it may not be your boss but I can assure you that negativity on your part will ultimately REDIRECT your wife’s attraction onto some other man besides you.
That’s so important, let me say it again…
Negativity on your part will ultimately REDIRECT your wife’s attraction onto some other man besides you.
Now that you understand how your wife views negativity – especially work-related negativity…
…do you need to make some changes?
Copyright 2008 by Calle Zorro