For most women, the whole time they are growing up, they are preached at by everyone in their experience to abstain from all things sexual. Usually, the message – whether spoken or unspoken – is that sex is taboo, dirty, nasty, sinful, evil, wrong, bad, or harmful.
Eventually of course, a young woman’s body and mind begins to tell her differently. Eventually, her mind and body begin to suggest to her that sex is a wonderful thing to be shared and experienced with the right person.
However, for most women…
Until the right man comes along and helps her get past her conditioning and programming…
Until the right man comes along and helps her find out that it’s safe, fun, and wonderful to really “let her hair down”…
Both she and the man in her life will be unhappy – they will both be sexually unfulfilled.
Do not underestimate the power of a woman’s conditioning. The net result of most women’s conditioning is that they end up with an “I’m not supposed to like sex” notion installed in their mind and even after they’re married, they continue to live in that mental world – and therefore that IS their physical reality – and the man’s that she happens to be married to.
Now, it may be true that a woman was sexually rebellious and promiscuous during her teenage years. It may be true that a woman is now married. It may be true that a woman has children. It may be true that she talks a lot about sex with her girlfriends. She may even read magazine articles related to sexual topics or watch all the steamy sex scenes in her favorite soap opera. And, none of these mean her sexuality has been developed and blossomed into what it can be and what it should be.
Granted, there’s the rare woman who does not allow past conditioning and societal norms to rule and control her mind or body and thus she’s able to blossom her sexuality of her own accord. But, most can’t.
Let’s take this deeper…
A look at the relationships section of a bookstore or an online scan on relationships can easily lead you to believe that the only thing that’s missing is for you – the man – to learn a certain set of sexual techniques.
In our society, there seems to be a pervading belief accepted among men – and bizarrely, among women too – that women are just waiting for “Mr. Sexual Expert” – the guy who knows all the “super ancient Oriental sex secrets” – the guy with paranormal sex skills – to come along and take her to heights of ecstasy that’s beyond anything she’s ever imagined before – all without any initiative or effort on her part.
This is the stuff that fantasies are made out of – both for men and women.
Here’s the truth that you need to know…such a concept is UTTER NONSENSE!
Now, having said this, if you’re anything like the normal guy, you’ve already dug into the details of some of these “super-secret sex skills”…
You then tried them on your wife…
And it was a total flop! Not only did it not work for her, she didn’t like it at all.
And you, along with all the other guys, were left scratching your head, wondering if the problem was with you or with her or both – and then you’re off looking for the real “super-sex secret” that you haven’t yet found…
The fact is, the normal woman can quickly and easily have an orgasm every time she engages in sex – IF SHE HAS EXPLORED, DISCOVERED, AND LEARNED WHAT IT IS THAT WORKS FOR HER!
But, ONLY she can do that. No man alive – no matter what he does or does not know – can do that for her.
Granted, a sexually experienced and knowledgeable man can “guide” her – based on generalities and similarities that he’s learned from other women – and take her to sexual heights that may be beyond what she’s experienced before. But, NO MAN can take her to her highest heights until she FIRST explores, discovers, and learns for herself what it is that works best for her mind and her body.
And, that’s where you the man come in. Because of their past conditioning and because of the constant negative insinuations related to sex, most women need a man that they love and trust to help them explore, discover, and learn what it is that works for them sexually.
Here’s the thing, just as every person is uniquely different from every other person in the world, each man and woman’s sexual expression IS unique and different from every other person’s sexual expression.
Yes, there are always generalities and similarities but each person is still a unique package when it comes to sexual expression – and that “package” can only be found, articulated, demonstrated, and shared through SELF-DISCOVERY.
Lucky for us guys, the irony is that for most women, they need a man they love and trust to help guide them into this self-discovery. It’s how a woman thinks about sex that blocks her from exploring and developing. A woman has to first realize and accept that it’s her womanly right to learn about and enjoy the wonderful pleasures of sex. And again, she needs you to help her with that.
And, it’s by helping and encouraging your wife to take this journey of self-discovery – and making it ABSOLUTELY SAFE for her to do so – that you help your wife blossom her sexuality.
And once she’s taken that self-discovering journey, she’ll forevermore be a woman who expresses herself sexually.
And, why shouldn’t she?
She’s now has the key to quick and easy orgasmic ecstasy whereas before she had nothing but laborious, difficult, disappointing, frustrating, and unfulfilling intercourse. Before, she had an orgasm “once in a blue moon”. Now, she’s fully assured of wonderful pleasure every time intimacy is initiated.
So, really bring this home to yourself…
Being a man of superior sexual prowess is utter nonsense – a totally bogus concept.
Conversely, being a man who KNOWS how to please his wife sexually – because you’ve helped her take the journey of sexual self-discovery and learned from her what it is that works for her – that’s where it’s at.
That’s when you become the man that your wife sexually dreams about – except it won’t be a dream – it will be a reality.
While your guy-friends complain that their wife would rather clean house than have sex, your wife will be destroying the house with you – as you engage in passionate, fulfilling sex.
Copyright 2008 by Calle Zorro