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<![CDATA[Married And Happy Discussion Forum - All Forums]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/ Fri, 18 May 2012 16:49:41 +0000 MyBB <![CDATA[WS9]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2090 Fri, 04 May 2012 07:19:14 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2090 <![CDATA[Hope.]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2075 Sun, 29 Apr 2012 17:04:47 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2075
Yes, that's right, YOU.

Lately you've been thinking,"I've been doing ALL the right things,
why can't she love me back?"

The answer to your thoughts is somewhat complicated.

But you need to understand something. That is that FEAR based
motivation won't get you to the place where you want to be.

In other words, telling her something like,"if you don't start giving me what I want (sex) then I'm going to divorce you."

You need to shift your thinking.

You need to inspire your woman through hope.

Hope is the substance of things not yet achieved but is within your reach if you are willing to do the work.

If this idea sparks your interest then you can learn more by joining us on Married and Happy.]]>
Yes, that's right, YOU.

Lately you've been thinking,"I've been doing ALL the right things,
why can't she love me back?"

The answer to your thoughts is somewhat complicated.

But you need to understand something. That is that FEAR based
motivation won't get you to the place where you want to be.

In other words, telling her something like,"if you don't start giving me what I want (sex) then I'm going to divorce you."

You need to shift your thinking.

You need to inspire your woman through hope.

Hope is the substance of things not yet achieved but is within your reach if you are willing to do the work.

If this idea sparks your interest then you can learn more by joining us on Married and Happy.]]> <![CDATA[this prgram is amazing!!!]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2060 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 15:56:24 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2060
Fast forward to today and I can not believe the change in my wife. I spoke with her on many occasions (all positive) about how we needed to move forward in our relationship or I could not see us with a future. I started to pay 100% attention to her. I would give her a kiss in the morning when we first got up, before I left for school, when I came back and before bed. I have complemented her on things that I felt would make her feel better ( I made sure that my complements were sincere and from my heart other wise she would see right through it) and helped her more around the house e.g. cleaning the dishes. I still continued to do my own improvements such as not being stubborn and being more loving. I also go to the gym 6 days a week.

I also started to date my wife again. We have gone to the movies (she said she really did not care for them) gee she keeps telling me how much fun they are now. I took her on a picnic and to several dinner and lunch dates. I make sure that we go on dates at least once per week. For the last few weeks, she has been the one to come up with ideas. The last one being a picnic on the beach and a 80's night out that was sponsored by a local church.

She has reacted in such a positive way that I honestly feel that I can not keep up with her. We are having sex almost three times a day along with foreplay through out the day. Even when things were great it was never this good. This coming from a woman that a few months ago told me that if she had sex once a month that that would be okay. Now, she initiates sex 3x more than I do. she surprises me in the shower, I wake up to her giving me a blowjob in the morning; I am simply at a lost for words. The crazy thing is that I have only implemented 1/8 of what is is in those Zorro reports. I really feel I am going to need Viagra to satisfy her if this keeps up. I am not complaining by no means but, weird things are happening to me that never happened before, such as, on two occasions I was not able to have an orgasm. I did maintain an erection through out, but I simply could not have an orgasm. Has anyone had this problem before? I am 43 years old if it helps. I would appreciate any advice not only on the orgasm part, but any ideas on some of the things I mentioned would be greatly appreciated.]]>
Fast forward to today and I can not believe the change in my wife. I spoke with her on many occasions (all positive) about how we needed to move forward in our relationship or I could not see us with a future. I started to pay 100% attention to her. I would give her a kiss in the morning when we first got up, before I left for school, when I came back and before bed. I have complemented her on things that I felt would make her feel better ( I made sure that my complements were sincere and from my heart other wise she would see right through it) and helped her more around the house e.g. cleaning the dishes. I still continued to do my own improvements such as not being stubborn and being more loving. I also go to the gym 6 days a week.

I also started to date my wife again. We have gone to the movies (she said she really did not care for them) gee she keeps telling me how much fun they are now. I took her on a picnic and to several dinner and lunch dates. I make sure that we go on dates at least once per week. For the last few weeks, she has been the one to come up with ideas. The last one being a picnic on the beach and a 80's night out that was sponsored by a local church.

She has reacted in such a positive way that I honestly feel that I can not keep up with her. We are having sex almost three times a day along with foreplay through out the day. Even when things were great it was never this good. This coming from a woman that a few months ago told me that if she had sex once a month that that would be okay. Now, she initiates sex 3x more than I do. she surprises me in the shower, I wake up to her giving me a blowjob in the morning; I am simply at a lost for words. The crazy thing is that I have only implemented 1/8 of what is is in those Zorro reports. I really feel I am going to need Viagra to satisfy her if this keeps up. I am not complaining by no means but, weird things are happening to me that never happened before, such as, on two occasions I was not able to have an orgasm. I did maintain an erection through out, but I simply could not have an orgasm. Has anyone had this problem before? I am 43 years old if it helps. I would appreciate any advice not only on the orgasm part, but any ideas on some of the things I mentioned would be greatly appreciated.]]> <![CDATA[Man to man.]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2052 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:16:09 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2052
Not long ago, perhaps five years prior, I was in my backyard working on my grill, when I heard this terrible argument going on in front of my house. It was between my neighbors 23 year old son and his girlfriend of the same age.

Since it seemed to me that they were about to come to blows and since the cussing was disturbing the peaceful morning, I went to talk to them.

Well, they parted ways that day very angry with each other.

Don't you know, they ended up having a beautiful daughter together several months later and shortly after that, split up.

I often see the neighbors son walking his daughter and recall the day he and his girlfriend fought in front of my house.

Recently, I was watching one of those cop shows that is on TV. The show where they show a day in the lives of local law enforcement.

On this particular episode, it seemed like several of the "perps" that were being brought in happened to be very good looking women. Arrested for a variety of offences, but mostly alcohol related.

My thoughts are that now more than ever we need men to be masculine leaders. This seems true more than any other time I can remember.

These are my thoughts, man to man.]]>
Not long ago, perhaps five years prior, I was in my backyard working on my grill, when I heard this terrible argument going on in front of my house. It was between my neighbors 23 year old son and his girlfriend of the same age.

Since it seemed to me that they were about to come to blows and since the cussing was disturbing the peaceful morning, I went to talk to them.

Well, they parted ways that day very angry with each other.

Don't you know, they ended up having a beautiful daughter together several months later and shortly after that, split up.

I often see the neighbors son walking his daughter and recall the day he and his girlfriend fought in front of my house.

Recently, I was watching one of those cop shows that is on TV. The show where they show a day in the lives of local law enforcement.

On this particular episode, it seemed like several of the "perps" that were being brought in happened to be very good looking women. Arrested for a variety of offences, but mostly alcohol related.

My thoughts are that now more than ever we need men to be masculine leaders. This seems true more than any other time I can remember.

These are my thoughts, man to man.]]> <![CDATA[The Test Of A Man]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2043 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:00:03 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2043
The grit that he daily shows;

The way he stands on his feet and takes

Fate's numerous bumps and blows.

A coward can smile when there's naught to fear,

When nothing his progress bars;

But it takes a man to stand up and cheer

While some other fellow stars.

It isn't the victory, after all

But the fight that a brother makes;

The man who, driven against the wall,

Still stands up erect and takes

The blows of fate with his head held high;

Bleeding, and bruised, and pale,

Is the man who'll win in the by and by,

For he isn't afraid to fail

It' the bumps you get, and the jolts you get,

And the shocks that your courage stands,

The hours of sorrow and vain regret,

The prize that escapes your hands,

That test your mettle and prove your worth;

It isn't the blows you deal,

But the blows you take on the good old earth,

That show if your stuff is real.

-- Author Unknown]]>
The grit that he daily shows;

The way he stands on his feet and takes

Fate's numerous bumps and blows.

A coward can smile when there's naught to fear,

When nothing his progress bars;

But it takes a man to stand up and cheer

While some other fellow stars.

It isn't the victory, after all

But the fight that a brother makes;

The man who, driven against the wall,

Still stands up erect and takes

The blows of fate with his head held high;

Bleeding, and bruised, and pale,

Is the man who'll win in the by and by,

For he isn't afraid to fail

It' the bumps you get, and the jolts you get,

And the shocks that your courage stands,

The hours of sorrow and vain regret,

The prize that escapes your hands,

That test your mettle and prove your worth;

It isn't the blows you deal,

But the blows you take on the good old earth,

That show if your stuff is real.

-- Author Unknown]]> <![CDATA[Shall we have another live event?]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2028 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 08:37:49 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2028
Here is what I propose:

* Sometime in the month of July, 2012...

* Go kayaking / rafting on Friday ... find somewhere with a class 2 - class 3 river ... something that's fun but not crazy or dangerous ... something that all men can do regardless of their age or level of fitness ... somewhere along the Rocky Mountain line perhaps (New Mexico, Colorado, Utah) ... and we spend a day kayaking or rafting as a group.

* Have the marriage seminar all day Saturday and 1/2 to 2/3 of Sunday ... with everybody returning home on Sunday evening.

* Group meals in between.

* The cost of the kayak / raft activity would be split equally amongst all participants.

* Each person would cover their own hotel and food costs. I would do my best to get a good group rate on the hotel.

* Make the seminar as affordable as possible...$50 for those who have purchased all of my products or who are senior-level contributors here in the forum...$150 for those who have the "Happy, Sexual Marriage Bundle" (Nymph Wife, Best Lover, Sexual Marriage, Letter of Secrets)...$250 for those who have purchased 2 or less of my individual eBooks.

What do you think?

What do you propose?

Any interest?]]>
Here is what I propose:

* Sometime in the month of July, 2012...

* Go kayaking / rafting on Friday ... find somewhere with a class 2 - class 3 river ... something that's fun but not crazy or dangerous ... something that all men can do regardless of their age or level of fitness ... somewhere along the Rocky Mountain line perhaps (New Mexico, Colorado, Utah) ... and we spend a day kayaking or rafting as a group.

* Have the marriage seminar all day Saturday and 1/2 to 2/3 of Sunday ... with everybody returning home on Sunday evening.

* Group meals in between.

* The cost of the kayak / raft activity would be split equally amongst all participants.

* Each person would cover their own hotel and food costs. I would do my best to get a good group rate on the hotel.

* Make the seminar as affordable as possible...$50 for those who have purchased all of my products or who are senior-level contributors here in the forum...$150 for those who have the "Happy, Sexual Marriage Bundle" (Nymph Wife, Best Lover, Sexual Marriage, Letter of Secrets)...$250 for those who have purchased 2 or less of my individual eBooks.

What do you think?

What do you propose?

Any interest?]]> <![CDATA[Is there a similar program for women?]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2020 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 05:02:08 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=2020
Any suggestions?]]>
Any suggestions?]]> <![CDATA[My daughter was raped...and now major family problems!]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1964 Sun, 18 Mar 2012 13:39:26 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1964 Quote:My daughter was raped. My wife and I found out about it a year after it happened. Since then, our marriage and life has steadily become worse. My wife is over-the-top controlling. Our daughter is a mess. My wife is trying to help our daughter...but our daughter doesn't want her help. My wife blames me for what happened to our daughter...and she refuses to talk with me. I bought your happy, sexual marriage bundle and realize that I have made some serious mistakes. I want happiness for me, my wife, and my daughter...and I need help getting there.
There is a lot I don't know about your situation, but consider the following:

1. On one hand, I am sorry this terrible thing has happened to your family. Such a thing is an assault and invasion upon a family in a most personal kind of way...and again, I am sorry this has happened. But on the other hand, one thing I have learned for sure from life experience and observation is that the worst thing that has ever happened to a person will eventually become the best thing that ever happened to them -- IF they will but respond in the right way. And right now from where you are at, that may not seem possible, but I assure you it is. Already, this event is motivating you to develop into a more powerful man who can guide his family to greater good...which means you ARE responding in the right way...which means good WILL come from all of this...no matter how unlikely and improbable that may seem right now.

2. Typically, one of the big issues in a situation like this is the constant LOOPING of what happened...the constant LOOPING of who was to blame and who was at fault...partially blaming your daughter for foolish choices and behavior combined with LOOPING bitterness and hatred against the perpetrators...and YOU must get out of this loop...so that YOU can lead your daughter and wife out of this loop. The more you and your wife try to "figure it out", the more you will stay stuck in the LOOP of unhappiness.

3. So, you are going to have to lead your daughter and wife OUT of the past. By LOOPING and RE-LIVING the past, we drag the past into the present...and do you and your family want to ruin the present AND the future by something that happened in the past?

4. Your wife is especially going to have the tendency to hold onto negative, bitter feelings...probably more so than your daughter. This is going to require that you be a strong, fearless, positive, optimistic, loving, caring, considerate man in the face of your wife's negativity. You must absolutely manage your own feelings and emotions...and DEFINITELY do not REACT negatively to your wife or daughter's negative emotions. Just respond with love...meet them where they are at emotionally...acknowledge their present state...and then begin to move them towards a better future.

5. Similarly, your wife will likely try to over-compensate and over-control so that something like this never happens again...which will only serve to emotionally push your daughter farther away...which will only serve to create resentment in your daughter...your wife's behavior will be interpreted by your daughter as an indictment and judgment upon her...keeping the "wound" raw and agitated. You MUST stand up strong against this.

6. Be clear on the fact that your daughter and your wife are two separate issues that must be dealt with separately and individually. In other words, don't lump your wife and daughter into the same problem that you are striving to solve. They ARE separate problems.

7. However, what your wife and daughter BOTH need from YOU are very similar. The things that I talk about in the Nymph Wife and Best Lover books are things that your wife AND daughter NEED from you in a SERIOUS way. Of course, the application of the principles to your daughter will be in a non-sexual way...but everything I describe in those books applies directly to your daughter...all the things I talk about are exactly what your daughter wants and needs from YOU as her father...and by giving these things to your daughter, you WILL be able to lead her into being the kind of young lady you and your wife want her to be.

8. Of course, there will be simultaneous / parallel handling of your wife and daughter...but it may be easier for you to focus primarily upon building and developing a positive relationship with your daughter first...leading your daughter to a happy place first...and once your wife sees you and your daughter having a positive relationship, THEN she will be more open to you leading her into a positive relationship with you too.

9. Your daughter needs you to build an environment of love, safety, security, acceptance, and approval. Your wife needs you to build an environment where she doesn't feel like a failure as a mom. Both your wife and your daughter must come to believe that "bad things" are to help us grow and develop into greater good.

10. You MUST stand strong against anything that would cause your daughter to despise and distrust ALL men. All men are NOT like the perpetrators she has encountered...only a tiny percentage of men are like the perpetrators. MOST men are NOT like that...and MOST men absolutely, firmly believe that men like the perpetrators ought to be hung, shot, castrated, or something equally bad. But again, we do not want to ruin the future with the past. And probably, your wife will be the person you have handle the most firmly about NOT ruining your daughter's future.

11. In other words, if left unchecked, your wife's bitterness over this incident will POISON your daughter's mind about men...and her future with a man. At some point, your daughter will want to be married to a man and have her own family...and her mother's poisoning will come out in full-force AFTER she's married and has a kid or two...and then she's left with a life of unhappiness and misery...as she avoids sexual relations with her husband...and he gets fed up with it and cheats on her...or divorces her...etc. etc. ALL as a result of your wife poisoning your daughter with bitterness NOW. I hope I am saying this in a way that makes sense to you because you CANNOT allow this to happen.

12. Stated differently, there is ZERO benefit and LOTS of harm for you, your wife, and/or your daughter to HATE. And, it is understandable for a person to feel hatred for the perpetrators...but there is a HUGE price to pay if that hatred is allowed to grow and GENERALIZE itself out to ALL men.

13. If you have not been able to exact judgment upon the perpetrators legally, due to a lack of evidence, then turn it over to God and RELEASE it. God will infallibly serve justice upon the perpetrators. Of course, it is appropriate to precaution any other parents with daughters who are in the vicinity of the perpetrators.

14. Most important of all for your situation is this: walk close to God in prayer and Bible reading. There IS a God and as you draw close to Him, He will draw close to you. As you develop a relationship with God through Christ, God will do the parts of healing that you cannot do...He will give you the strength and grace you need to forgive and to be the example of forgiveness to your wife and daughter...and, He will bring you, your wife, and your daughter to the greater good for which all of this was intended. Remember, God is able to work everything around for good if we will but give Him the opportunity to do that in our lives.

15. You need to get my DIY Marriage Counseling system (http://www.HusbandWifeHelp.com). It will be a huge help to you in managing yourself, your daughter, and your wife. But until you have it, one of the points I make in this product is that THOUGHTS ALWAYS PRECEDE FEELINGS. It is impossible for a person to have feelings without first having the thoughts that create those feelings. As I stated previously, the looping of the story...the pictures and dialogue that is going through your mind, your wife's mind, and your daughter's mind are all creating feelings. This is what you have to learn how to change.

16. Similarly, Wife-Seducer Segment 8 (http://www.WifeSeducer.com) has powerful techniques and strategies that would be valuable to you in your situation ... concepts that you can use and/or adapt ... giving you more tools by which you can handle the job in front of you. As I say, you can build a house with a hand-saw and a hammer...but that's kind of the hard way to do it, right? It's better to have more tools so that the job can be done faster and easier.

17. If you need help with the strength, courage, confidence, etc. part...especially when it comes to handling your wife, then I suggest my Wife Seducer segments 1-5 and segment 7 (http://www.WifeSeducer.com).

18. I and all the men here on the Married And Happy forum are here to support you, help you, encourage you, and pray for you. Don't be bashful about reaching out any time you need a boost and a charge for yourself.

If anybody else has helpful input, please share it.]]> Quote:My daughter was raped. My wife and I found out about it a year after it happened. Since then, our marriage and life has steadily become worse. My wife is over-the-top controlling. Our daughter is a mess. My wife is trying to help our daughter...but our daughter doesn't want her help. My wife blames me for what happened to our daughter...and she refuses to talk with me. I bought your happy, sexual marriage bundle and realize that I have made some serious mistakes. I want happiness for me, my wife, and my daughter...and I need help getting there.
There is a lot I don't know about your situation, but consider the following:

1. On one hand, I am sorry this terrible thing has happened to your family. Such a thing is an assault and invasion upon a family in a most personal kind of way...and again, I am sorry this has happened. But on the other hand, one thing I have learned for sure from life experience and observation is that the worst thing that has ever happened to a person will eventually become the best thing that ever happened to them -- IF they will but respond in the right way. And right now from where you are at, that may not seem possible, but I assure you it is. Already, this event is motivating you to develop into a more powerful man who can guide his family to greater good...which means you ARE responding in the right way...which means good WILL come from all of this...no matter how unlikely and improbable that may seem right now.

2. Typically, one of the big issues in a situation like this is the constant LOOPING of what happened...the constant LOOPING of who was to blame and who was at fault...partially blaming your daughter for foolish choices and behavior combined with LOOPING bitterness and hatred against the perpetrators...and YOU must get out of this loop...so that YOU can lead your daughter and wife out of this loop. The more you and your wife try to "figure it out", the more you will stay stuck in the LOOP of unhappiness.

3. So, you are going to have to lead your daughter and wife OUT of the past. By LOOPING and RE-LIVING the past, we drag the past into the present...and do you and your family want to ruin the present AND the future by something that happened in the past?

4. Your wife is especially going to have the tendency to hold onto negative, bitter feelings...probably more so than your daughter. This is going to require that you be a strong, fearless, positive, optimistic, loving, caring, considerate man in the face of your wife's negativity. You must absolutely manage your own feelings and emotions...and DEFINITELY do not REACT negatively to your wife or daughter's negative emotions. Just respond with love...meet them where they are at emotionally...acknowledge their present state...and then begin to move them towards a better future.

5. Similarly, your wife will likely try to over-compensate and over-control so that something like this never happens again...which will only serve to emotionally push your daughter farther away...which will only serve to create resentment in your daughter...your wife's behavior will be interpreted by your daughter as an indictment and judgment upon her...keeping the "wound" raw and agitated. You MUST stand up strong against this.

6. Be clear on the fact that your daughter and your wife are two separate issues that must be dealt with separately and individually. In other words, don't lump your wife and daughter into the same problem that you are striving to solve. They ARE separate problems.

7. However, what your wife and daughter BOTH need from YOU are very similar. The things that I talk about in the Nymph Wife and Best Lover books are things that your wife AND daughter NEED from you in a SERIOUS way. Of course, the application of the principles to your daughter will be in a non-sexual way...but everything I describe in those books applies directly to your daughter...all the things I talk about are exactly what your daughter wants and needs from YOU as her father...and by giving these things to your daughter, you WILL be able to lead her into being the kind of young lady you and your wife want her to be.

8. Of course, there will be simultaneous / parallel handling of your wife and daughter...but it may be easier for you to focus primarily upon building and developing a positive relationship with your daughter first...leading your daughter to a happy place first...and once your wife sees you and your daughter having a positive relationship, THEN she will be more open to you leading her into a positive relationship with you too.

9. Your daughter needs you to build an environment of love, safety, security, acceptance, and approval. Your wife needs you to build an environment where she doesn't feel like a failure as a mom. Both your wife and your daughter must come to believe that "bad things" are to help us grow and develop into greater good.

10. You MUST stand strong against anything that would cause your daughter to despise and distrust ALL men. All men are NOT like the perpetrators she has encountered...only a tiny percentage of men are like the perpetrators. MOST men are NOT like that...and MOST men absolutely, firmly believe that men like the perpetrators ought to be hung, shot, castrated, or something equally bad. But again, we do not want to ruin the future with the past. And probably, your wife will be the person you have handle the most firmly about NOT ruining your daughter's future.

11. In other words, if left unchecked, your wife's bitterness over this incident will POISON your daughter's mind about men...and her future with a man. At some point, your daughter will want to be married to a man and have her own family...and her mother's poisoning will come out in full-force AFTER she's married and has a kid or two...and then she's left with a life of unhappiness and misery...as she avoids sexual relations with her husband...and he gets fed up with it and cheats on her...or divorces her...etc. etc. ALL as a result of your wife poisoning your daughter with bitterness NOW. I hope I am saying this in a way that makes sense to you because you CANNOT allow this to happen.

12. Stated differently, there is ZERO benefit and LOTS of harm for you, your wife, and/or your daughter to HATE. And, it is understandable for a person to feel hatred for the perpetrators...but there is a HUGE price to pay if that hatred is allowed to grow and GENERALIZE itself out to ALL men.

13. If you have not been able to exact judgment upon the perpetrators legally, due to a lack of evidence, then turn it over to God and RELEASE it. God will infallibly serve justice upon the perpetrators. Of course, it is appropriate to precaution any other parents with daughters who are in the vicinity of the perpetrators.

14. Most important of all for your situation is this: walk close to God in prayer and Bible reading. There IS a God and as you draw close to Him, He will draw close to you. As you develop a relationship with God through Christ, God will do the parts of healing that you cannot do...He will give you the strength and grace you need to forgive and to be the example of forgiveness to your wife and daughter...and, He will bring you, your wife, and your daughter to the greater good for which all of this was intended. Remember, God is able to work everything around for good if we will but give Him the opportunity to do that in our lives.

15. You need to get my DIY Marriage Counseling system (http://www.HusbandWifeHelp.com). It will be a huge help to you in managing yourself, your daughter, and your wife. But until you have it, one of the points I make in this product is that THOUGHTS ALWAYS PRECEDE FEELINGS. It is impossible for a person to have feelings without first having the thoughts that create those feelings. As I stated previously, the looping of the story...the pictures and dialogue that is going through your mind, your wife's mind, and your daughter's mind are all creating feelings. This is what you have to learn how to change.

16. Similarly, Wife-Seducer Segment 8 (http://www.WifeSeducer.com) has powerful techniques and strategies that would be valuable to you in your situation ... concepts that you can use and/or adapt ... giving you more tools by which you can handle the job in front of you. As I say, you can build a house with a hand-saw and a hammer...but that's kind of the hard way to do it, right? It's better to have more tools so that the job can be done faster and easier.

17. If you need help with the strength, courage, confidence, etc. part...especially when it comes to handling your wife, then I suggest my Wife Seducer segments 1-5 and segment 7 (http://www.WifeSeducer.com).

18. I and all the men here on the Married And Happy forum are here to support you, help you, encourage you, and pray for you. Don't be bashful about reaching out any time you need a boost and a charge for yourself.

If anybody else has helpful input, please share it.]]> <![CDATA[PhD. in Love]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1889 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 09:29:01 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1889
Longed for knowledge that few others have but would give
anything to learn that which sets you above the crowd?

Perhaps you long for a loving relationship with a certain woman?

Maybe your wife?!?

Your future wife?!?

Personally, I have been a member of this forum for long enough to see changes in the way that I behave toward my wife.

Changes in my behavior toward other woman also...

All of the woman that I have come into contact have noticed something.

What could that be?!?

My thoughts are that my higher learning in Calle Zorro's "master's"
program (my wording) have helped to continue my degree in learning
how to love.

I encourage all men to earn their PhD in love here.

Become a doctor of love in your womans life... Smile

]]>
Longed for knowledge that few others have but would give
anything to learn that which sets you above the crowd?

Perhaps you long for a loving relationship with a certain woman?

Maybe your wife?!?

Your future wife?!?

Personally, I have been a member of this forum for long enough to see changes in the way that I behave toward my wife.

Changes in my behavior toward other woman also...

All of the woman that I have come into contact have noticed something.

What could that be?!?

My thoughts are that my higher learning in Calle Zorro's "master's"
program (my wording) have helped to continue my degree in learning
how to love.

I encourage all men to earn their PhD in love here.

Become a doctor of love in your womans life... Smile

]]> <![CDATA[New member..same story]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1873 Thu, 16 Feb 2012 21:37:02 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1873
i am a man of 46 years old. i am on my second marriage and this time around i really wanted to romance and evaluate and make sure i would not duplicate the mistakes of the first marriage. i found the perfect woman. i was 30 at the time and she was 25. we dted for a few years and have been married for 13. we hve 3 children..1 from the previous marriage. for 12 years everything has been effortless. we got along great, had lots of sex, lots of passion and were just the right fit for each other. we built up a nice home and have plenty of security. 2 years ago my wife was always insecure about her body after going through childbirth. she ended up getting a tummy tuct and breast augmentation. i had no problem with this because it made her happy and very thankful. everything was great. fast forward a year and everything came to a screaming halt. she started to become quiet and distant. she turned 40 and the wheels fell off the marriage. her depression and failure to communicate turned more and more bitter and anger ensued. all of a suddon over the course of the next 6 months..a comedy of errors happened. everything became my fault. she wanted out of the marriage, said she didn't love me..etc. of course i went into shock at first wondering where all of this was coming from. evrything was just fine just 6 months ago. what could trigger such a change. of course i started to think affair and started to do some digging. she found some of my digging through my computer history and got twice as mad. i was just stepping in one pile of crap after another. we proceeded to live in a very uncomfortable situation where there was nothing but silence and anger. i was an avid runner who loved to run marathons. she thought that was getting out of hand and said i was physically not attractive. and it took away time from everyone. i decided to give everything up in an effort to fix the marriage. lost in the shuffle was my kids who knew we were all walking on egg shells. according to her nothing was wrong with her and she needed no counseling and she reiterates to this day that she doesn't love me like she should. i have been patient and have made strides changing myself but she just won't give in and be a part of the family again. i have made my way back to the bedroom but she continues to take stabs at me saying that i keep her up all night with my breathing and or snoring. she acts like the bed is hers. she acts like everything is hers. she only cares about one thing right now...HERSELF. her hair , her nails, her clothes and her weight. could it be that this operation to her body has triggered something. i did it out of love but did she have a different agenda? believe it or not we are still together, that is only because i have been the bigger person and she is too stubborn to leave. at one point she told me she talked to a lawyer. she knows if we get divorced, the house and all our assets will be gone and she will be stuck struggling on her own. i'm not a big fan of living as roommates and have told her this. we have had moments of reconciliation but she always reverts back to her spoiled, distant self. we at least communicate with each other but she is not loving and never makes a point to innitiate anything with me. i noticed she has been starting to drink a little more in the last few months but when i said something she flew off the handle. my problem is i'm trying too hard and i want to stop. she has her own agenda right now and the more i try, the more i don't like it. now she is starting to go out with friends a little more often. i think she feels she has been missing out things in life. she has also taken to a new best friend who is a bit younger but is married with two children. they text often to each other to a point where it is very annoying. she has almost become obssessed with this new friend. i don't get it it. i am new to this program and will try some of the techniques but what causes a woman to change in an instant. she has denied affairs. i also have found a sex device in her underwear drawer which is news to me. we do have sex at least once or twice a month now but its not like it used to be. she used to jump me and inniate often. now i don't know if she's doing it to obligate me. it would be too easy to walk away but i want to see this through. as you can see, i will try anything. i want to take a nice family vacation this summer but she won't. she doesn't want to do anything if it involves me. she just makes excuses. she won't go on any dates or spend any time. whenever we are at home, she disappears into the bedroom. any tips to get a positive reaction out of her would be appreciated. if i compliment her or say nice things to her, she will just come back and say stuff like you never said things like that before so why start now. she just wants to be bitter and spoiled for now. her emotional swings are so up and down, i'm exhausted at the end of the week. help me!!! Huh

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i am a man of 46 years old. i am on my second marriage and this time around i really wanted to romance and evaluate and make sure i would not duplicate the mistakes of the first marriage. i found the perfect woman. i was 30 at the time and she was 25. we dted for a few years and have been married for 13. we hve 3 children..1 from the previous marriage. for 12 years everything has been effortless. we got along great, had lots of sex, lots of passion and were just the right fit for each other. we built up a nice home and have plenty of security. 2 years ago my wife was always insecure about her body after going through childbirth. she ended up getting a tummy tuct and breast augmentation. i had no problem with this because it made her happy and very thankful. everything was great. fast forward a year and everything came to a screaming halt. she started to become quiet and distant. she turned 40 and the wheels fell off the marriage. her depression and failure to communicate turned more and more bitter and anger ensued. all of a suddon over the course of the next 6 months..a comedy of errors happened. everything became my fault. she wanted out of the marriage, said she didn't love me..etc. of course i went into shock at first wondering where all of this was coming from. evrything was just fine just 6 months ago. what could trigger such a change. of course i started to think affair and started to do some digging. she found some of my digging through my computer history and got twice as mad. i was just stepping in one pile of crap after another. we proceeded to live in a very uncomfortable situation where there was nothing but silence and anger. i was an avid runner who loved to run marathons. she thought that was getting out of hand and said i was physically not attractive. and it took away time from everyone. i decided to give everything up in an effort to fix the marriage. lost in the shuffle was my kids who knew we were all walking on egg shells. according to her nothing was wrong with her and she needed no counseling and she reiterates to this day that she doesn't love me like she should. i have been patient and have made strides changing myself but she just won't give in and be a part of the family again. i have made my way back to the bedroom but she continues to take stabs at me saying that i keep her up all night with my breathing and or snoring. she acts like the bed is hers. she acts like everything is hers. she only cares about one thing right now...HERSELF. her hair , her nails, her clothes and her weight. could it be that this operation to her body has triggered something. i did it out of love but did she have a different agenda? believe it or not we are still together, that is only because i have been the bigger person and she is too stubborn to leave. at one point she told me she talked to a lawyer. she knows if we get divorced, the house and all our assets will be gone and she will be stuck struggling on her own. i'm not a big fan of living as roommates and have told her this. we have had moments of reconciliation but she always reverts back to her spoiled, distant self. we at least communicate with each other but she is not loving and never makes a point to innitiate anything with me. i noticed she has been starting to drink a little more in the last few months but when i said something she flew off the handle. my problem is i'm trying too hard and i want to stop. she has her own agenda right now and the more i try, the more i don't like it. now she is starting to go out with friends a little more often. i think she feels she has been missing out things in life. she has also taken to a new best friend who is a bit younger but is married with two children. they text often to each other to a point where it is very annoying. she has almost become obssessed with this new friend. i don't get it it. i am new to this program and will try some of the techniques but what causes a woman to change in an instant. she has denied affairs. i also have found a sex device in her underwear drawer which is news to me. we do have sex at least once or twice a month now but its not like it used to be. she used to jump me and inniate often. now i don't know if she's doing it to obligate me. it would be too easy to walk away but i want to see this through. as you can see, i will try anything. i want to take a nice family vacation this summer but she won't. she doesn't want to do anything if it involves me. she just makes excuses. she won't go on any dates or spend any time. whenever we are at home, she disappears into the bedroom. any tips to get a positive reaction out of her would be appreciated. if i compliment her or say nice things to her, she will just come back and say stuff like you never said things like that before so why start now. she just wants to be bitter and spoiled for now. her emotional swings are so up and down, i'm exhausted at the end of the week. help me!!! Huh

]]> <![CDATA[Sexually speaking, my wife has always been passive...]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1839 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 12:57:06 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1839 Quote:All of the very sparse sex I’ve had with my wife over the roughly the past decade has been with me trying to get my wife to relax and let go in the area of sex. I try to build up slowly for her, get her to enjoy and relax, and ensure that she orgasms and that there is no focus on me or my needs until after she orgasms. And then, I take care of my own with little help from her.

The problem is that I have always done all the ‘work’ in sex. She lays there pretty passively from foreplay, through her orgasm, and then through mine. I get some feedback when she’s close to orgasming, but outside of that she’s quiet and just lays there.

I know you insist that “your wife is a sexual, sensual being” and I’m part of my brain is trying to accept that this is true. But a large part of my brain looks at 20+ years of facts and says, “You are crazy”.

From dating through marriage through children to now, my wife has never been sensual or sexual. All the “drive” in our marriage has come from me and my efforts. All the “hot horny” teenage making out and fiddling around? Me. Sex since then. Me. My wife is always just the passive participant.

So, I’m just feeling really frustrated today and needed to vent. I feel that whatever my wife needs to “awaken” her is beyond my reach….I have no clue how to awaken her. And I’m really doubting that there is anything to awaken.

Let me take a time out from my venting, just to go all technical here:

Every person is going to be at a different “place” on a spectrum of sensuality and sexuality. Some of this is behavioral, but a big part is also biological. Some people are going to be at the low end of this spectrum (say, a zero or one) and some people are going to be at the high end (nine or ten). I think it’s very unrealistic to say that everybody can be moved to the far high end. Maybe you can shift each individual towards the higher end, but somebody that’s a one or two may only be able to move to the middle of the spectrum in a lifetime.

There is a limit to the “potential” each person has and how far that individual can climb to. It varies with each person, but to deny that that limit is there is to ask for self-induced-defeat. NOTE: Just because there is a limit to that potential does not mean that each person shouldn’t try to improve himself or herself. There’s always room for improvement. But you have to allow that those gains have to be realistic.

For example, I’ll never be particularly good at music. I’ve tried playing several instruments and can become “technically proficient”, but I’ll never be a master musician….that’s just reality and I’m fine with accepting that.

Similarly, you are not going to take a 250 pound football player and turn that individual into a olympic gymnast. That potential just isn’t there. There are REAL biological differences that limit that potential.
And that’s where I struggle with my wife. The more I learn from my in-depth reading first kicked off by finding Revive Her Drive, the more of a stark landscape I see.

Ok, Rant turned off now. (But I have to say, I don’t feel any better).
First, EVERYBODY has passion within them.

Second, everybody wishes they were living a life where they were sharing their passion with somebody special...and yet almost everybody will find one way or another to squelch, bury, and block their passion...which creates much unhappiness within them. (The few who develop themselves past this...along with the few who were fortunate enough to grow up under parents who modeled and taught them not to block themselves...are the few who enjoy the good life.)

Third, there IS a way to bring the passion out of every person. The passion is there and it is just a matter of finding the right and safe way to bring it out of them.

The caveat is that there are RARE cases where a woman refuses to let her husband bring that passion out of her. She has the passion inside of her...but even after her husband has transformed himself from an undeveloped, unattractive, and offensive husband into a highly desirable and attractive husband...she still refuses to let go of her bitterness and hurt over his past offenses...she refuses to let him lead her out of that negative state of mind and into a relationship where they can both enjoy the kind of marriage that everybody wants but so few people have.

In other words, in a few rare cases, a woman will determine that she is NEVER going to let her husband open her up to sharing her passion with him...no matter how perfectly he does things in relation to her.

But, from the way you describe your situation, I do not believe this caveat applies to you. There may come a time when it does apply to you...but it does not apply to you at this time.

Here is a question for you...

In one place in your story, you mentioned a decade of missing passion...and then in another place you mentioned 20+ years of missing passion.

In some cases, the difference in time is due to a wife trying to share her passion with a husband for some period of time...but not very successfully because of his unattractive mode of operation...before she shuts down on him and really becomes non-passionate in relation to him.

In other cases, the difference in time means the man has created the same response in two different women.

In some cases, the difference in time means a man dated a non-passionate woman for a long period of time and then he married her.

Whatever your answer is in your specific case, it will reveal some important characteristics about yourself to you if you will step back and notice them.

Let's go deeper...

In order to transform your marriage relationship into what you (and your wife) want it to be, there are three areas of focus:

1. What you are already doing that is good. These are the things you want to keep doing on purpose...with more understanding of how and why they work...so that you can do them with more confidence so they can work even better for you.

2. What you are doing that is NOT good. These are the things you are doing that cause your wife to resist sharing her passion with you. These are the things you habitually do that turn your wife off...and you do not realize you are doing them...you are unaware of the effect they have upon your wife.

3. What you are NOT doing that you should be doing.

ALL THREE OF THESE ARE YOUR OPPORTUNITY AREAS FOR TRANSFORMING YOUR MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP INTO WHAT YOU WANT IT TO BE. Area #1 represents plenty of opportunity for you...area #2 represents even more opportunity...area #3 represents your greatest opportunity.

But, there is a problem. Whatever your age is, that is how many years you have had to develop a certain mode of operation that creates the kinds of results you are experiencing in your life. The problem is, your mode of operation is such an engrained part of who you are that it seems good and right to you...and you do it without thinking about it...without awareness of how it REALLY works...or how it REALLY affects other people.

This is why area #3 is your greatest opportunity area...and it is the area that you will most resist...it is the area that you will have the hardest time opening yourself up to...because it is NOT a part of your existing mode of operation.

Let's keep going...

In general, husbands fall into one of two categories:

1. The GUY -- these husbands are not very masculine in relation to their wife but they are nice, loyal, supportive, considerate, caring, devoted, doting, wife-focused husbands.

2. The GORILLA -- these husbands are very masculine in relation to their wife but they are selfish husbands who are not very nice, supportive, considerate, and so on.

And, the dichotomy between these two is that a woman can live with the GUY but she can't be sexual with him...and she can be sexual with the GORILLA but she can't live with him. So obviously, any man who wants to be successful with his woman must learn how to become a balanced blend of masculinity and manliness...or what I simply refer to as a MAN.

Now, from the way you described your situation...from multiple things that you said...I am quite certain that you are the "GUY" kind of husband...which means you are going to have to ramp up your masculinity side of things...you are going to have to transition into a more MANLY kind of husband...you are going to have to develop into the parts that you are not doing (area #3)...before you are ever going to get a sexual response out of your wife towards you.

Why do I say this? Why do I think you are a "GUY" kind of husband?

Well, extracting from your story, here is just one of several examples that I could give:

"I have always done all the ‘work’ in sex. She lays there pretty passively from foreplay, through her orgasm, and then through mine"

A masculine, manly kind of husband is simply NOT going to let something like this happen. I won't go into what he would do here...but I will tell you that he will NOT set there grinding away on a passive woman as he mechanically works his way through a process.

Now, I don't say these things to be mean or critical. I say these things so that you can recognize your opportunities.

Moreover, I am not saying you lack masculinity in all areas of your life. Some husbands are plenty masculine...UNTIL...they walk through the front door of their house.

Remember, there are three areas of opportunity for you. There is a LOT that you can do about your marriage relationship. I hope you can let yourself feel the hope, encouragement, and excitement about all the possibilities that exist that you have not even tapped into yet.

Everything I have talked about here is what men learn in my program. Now here, because this is a public setting, I am speaking a bit abstractly...but I assure you, there is nothing abstract about my program. Inside my program, you will discover multiple mistakes that you are making...that you have described in your "story"...that you are not even aware that you are making.

So, don't waste any more time...there is no need to live a dissatisfying life when education and implementation can give you what you want.

For the eBook version: http://www.GetMoreIntimacy.com

For the audio version: http://www.TheHusbandBook.com]]> Quote:All of the very sparse sex I’ve had with my wife over the roughly the past decade has been with me trying to get my wife to relax and let go in the area of sex. I try to build up slowly for her, get her to enjoy and relax, and ensure that she orgasms and that there is no focus on me or my needs until after she orgasms. And then, I take care of my own with little help from her.

The problem is that I have always done all the ‘work’ in sex. She lays there pretty passively from foreplay, through her orgasm, and then through mine. I get some feedback when she’s close to orgasming, but outside of that she’s quiet and just lays there.

I know you insist that “your wife is a sexual, sensual being” and I’m part of my brain is trying to accept that this is true. But a large part of my brain looks at 20+ years of facts and says, “You are crazy”.

From dating through marriage through children to now, my wife has never been sensual or sexual. All the “drive” in our marriage has come from me and my efforts. All the “hot horny” teenage making out and fiddling around? Me. Sex since then. Me. My wife is always just the passive participant.

So, I’m just feeling really frustrated today and needed to vent. I feel that whatever my wife needs to “awaken” her is beyond my reach….I have no clue how to awaken her. And I’m really doubting that there is anything to awaken.

Let me take a time out from my venting, just to go all technical here:

Every person is going to be at a different “place” on a spectrum of sensuality and sexuality. Some of this is behavioral, but a big part is also biological. Some people are going to be at the low end of this spectrum (say, a zero or one) and some people are going to be at the high end (nine or ten). I think it’s very unrealistic to say that everybody can be moved to the far high end. Maybe you can shift each individual towards the higher end, but somebody that’s a one or two may only be able to move to the middle of the spectrum in a lifetime.

There is a limit to the “potential” each person has and how far that individual can climb to. It varies with each person, but to deny that that limit is there is to ask for self-induced-defeat. NOTE: Just because there is a limit to that potential does not mean that each person shouldn’t try to improve himself or herself. There’s always room for improvement. But you have to allow that those gains have to be realistic.

For example, I’ll never be particularly good at music. I’ve tried playing several instruments and can become “technically proficient”, but I’ll never be a master musician….that’s just reality and I’m fine with accepting that.

Similarly, you are not going to take a 250 pound football player and turn that individual into a olympic gymnast. That potential just isn’t there. There are REAL biological differences that limit that potential.
And that’s where I struggle with my wife. The more I learn from my in-depth reading first kicked off by finding Revive Her Drive, the more of a stark landscape I see.

Ok, Rant turned off now. (But I have to say, I don’t feel any better).
First, EVERYBODY has passion within them.

Second, everybody wishes they were living a life where they were sharing their passion with somebody special...and yet almost everybody will find one way or another to squelch, bury, and block their passion...which creates much unhappiness within them. (The few who develop themselves past this...along with the few who were fortunate enough to grow up under parents who modeled and taught them not to block themselves...are the few who enjoy the good life.)

Third, there IS a way to bring the passion out of every person. The passion is there and it is just a matter of finding the right and safe way to bring it out of them.

The caveat is that there are RARE cases where a woman refuses to let her husband bring that passion out of her. She has the passion inside of her...but even after her husband has transformed himself from an undeveloped, unattractive, and offensive husband into a highly desirable and attractive husband...she still refuses to let go of her bitterness and hurt over his past offenses...she refuses to let him lead her out of that negative state of mind and into a relationship where they can both enjoy the kind of marriage that everybody wants but so few people have.

In other words, in a few rare cases, a woman will determine that she is NEVER going to let her husband open her up to sharing her passion with him...no matter how perfectly he does things in relation to her.

But, from the way you describe your situation, I do not believe this caveat applies to you. There may come a time when it does apply to you...but it does not apply to you at this time.

Here is a question for you...

In one place in your story, you mentioned a decade of missing passion...and then in another place you mentioned 20+ years of missing passion.

In some cases, the difference in time is due to a wife trying to share her passion with a husband for some period of time...but not very successfully because of his unattractive mode of operation...before she shuts down on him and really becomes non-passionate in relation to him.

In other cases, the difference in time means the man has created the same response in two different women.

In some cases, the difference in time means a man dated a non-passionate woman for a long period of time and then he married her.

Whatever your answer is in your specific case, it will reveal some important characteristics about yourself to you if you will step back and notice them.

Let's go deeper...

In order to transform your marriage relationship into what you (and your wife) want it to be, there are three areas of focus:

1. What you are already doing that is good. These are the things you want to keep doing on purpose...with more understanding of how and why they work...so that you can do them with more confidence so they can work even better for you.

2. What you are doing that is NOT good. These are the things you are doing that cause your wife to resist sharing her passion with you. These are the things you habitually do that turn your wife off...and you do not realize you are doing them...you are unaware of the effect they have upon your wife.

3. What you are NOT doing that you should be doing.

ALL THREE OF THESE ARE YOUR OPPORTUNITY AREAS FOR TRANSFORMING YOUR MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP INTO WHAT YOU WANT IT TO BE. Area #1 represents plenty of opportunity for you...area #2 represents even more opportunity...area #3 represents your greatest opportunity.

But, there is a problem. Whatever your age is, that is how many years you have had to develop a certain mode of operation that creates the kinds of results you are experiencing in your life. The problem is, your mode of operation is such an engrained part of who you are that it seems good and right to you...and you do it without thinking about it...without awareness of how it REALLY works...or how it REALLY affects other people.

This is why area #3 is your greatest opportunity area...and it is the area that you will most resist...it is the area that you will have the hardest time opening yourself up to...because it is NOT a part of your existing mode of operation.

Let's keep going...

In general, husbands fall into one of two categories:

1. The GUY -- these husbands are not very masculine in relation to their wife but they are nice, loyal, supportive, considerate, caring, devoted, doting, wife-focused husbands.

2. The GORILLA -- these husbands are very masculine in relation to their wife but they are selfish husbands who are not very nice, supportive, considerate, and so on.

And, the dichotomy between these two is that a woman can live with the GUY but she can't be sexual with him...and she can be sexual with the GORILLA but she can't live with him. So obviously, any man who wants to be successful with his woman must learn how to become a balanced blend of masculinity and manliness...or what I simply refer to as a MAN.

Now, from the way you described your situation...from multiple things that you said...I am quite certain that you are the "GUY" kind of husband...which means you are going to have to ramp up your masculinity side of things...you are going to have to transition into a more MANLY kind of husband...you are going to have to develop into the parts that you are not doing (area #3)...before you are ever going to get a sexual response out of your wife towards you.

Why do I say this? Why do I think you are a "GUY" kind of husband?

Well, extracting from your story, here is just one of several examples that I could give:

"I have always done all the ‘work’ in sex. She lays there pretty passively from foreplay, through her orgasm, and then through mine"

A masculine, manly kind of husband is simply NOT going to let something like this happen. I won't go into what he would do here...but I will tell you that he will NOT set there grinding away on a passive woman as he mechanically works his way through a process.

Now, I don't say these things to be mean or critical. I say these things so that you can recognize your opportunities.

Moreover, I am not saying you lack masculinity in all areas of your life. Some husbands are plenty masculine...UNTIL...they walk through the front door of their house.

Remember, there are three areas of opportunity for you. There is a LOT that you can do about your marriage relationship. I hope you can let yourself feel the hope, encouragement, and excitement about all the possibilities that exist that you have not even tapped into yet.

Everything I have talked about here is what men learn in my program. Now here, because this is a public setting, I am speaking a bit abstractly...but I assure you, there is nothing abstract about my program. Inside my program, you will discover multiple mistakes that you are making...that you have described in your "story"...that you are not even aware that you are making.

So, don't waste any more time...there is no need to live a dissatisfying life when education and implementation can give you what you want.

For the eBook version: http://www.GetMoreIntimacy.com

For the audio version: http://www.TheHusbandBook.com]]> <![CDATA[Code of Ethics by Napoleon Hill]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1835 Sun, 05 Feb 2012 15:46:39 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1835
I will be honest, even to the slightest detail, in all my transactions with others, not only because of my desire to be fair with them, but because of my desire to impress the idea of honesty on my own subconscious mind, thereby weaving this essential quality into my own character.

I will forgive those who are unjust toward me, with no thought as to whether they deserve it or not, because I understand the law through which forgiveness of others strengthens my own character and wipes out the effects of my own transgressions in my subconscious mind.

I will be just, generous, and fair with others always-even though I know that these acts will go unnoticed and unrewarded in the ordinary terms of reward-because I understand that one’s own character is but the sum total of his own acts and deeds.

Whatever time I may have to devote to the discovery and exposure of the weaknesses and faults of others I will devote, more profitably, to the discovery and correction of my own.

I will slander no person — no matter how much I may believe another person may deserve it — because I wish to plant no destructive suggestions in my own mind.

I recognize the power of thought as being an inlet leading into my brain from the universal ocean of life; therefore, I will set no destructive thoughts afloat upon that ocean lest they pollute the minds of others.

I will conquer the common human tendency toward hatred, envy, selfishness, jealousy, malice, pessimism, doubt, and fear — for I believe these to be the seeds from which the world harvests most of its trouble..

When my mind is not occupied with thoughts that tend toward the attainment of my definite goal in life, I will voluntarily keep it filled with thoughts of courage, self-confidence, goodwill toward others, faith, kindness, loyalty, love for truth, and justice-for I believe these to be the seeds from which the world reaps its harvest of progressive growth.

Because I know that my character is developed from my own acts and thoughts, I will guard with care all that goes into its development.

Because I realize that enduring happiness comes only through helping others find it, and that no act of kindness is without its reward, even though it may never be directly repaid, I will do my best to assist others when and where the opportunity appears.

Source: http://www.naphill.org/get-involved/star...of-ethics/]]>
I will be honest, even to the slightest detail, in all my transactions with others, not only because of my desire to be fair with them, but because of my desire to impress the idea of honesty on my own subconscious mind, thereby weaving this essential quality into my own character.

I will forgive those who are unjust toward me, with no thought as to whether they deserve it or not, because I understand the law through which forgiveness of others strengthens my own character and wipes out the effects of my own transgressions in my subconscious mind.

I will be just, generous, and fair with others always-even though I know that these acts will go unnoticed and unrewarded in the ordinary terms of reward-because I understand that one’s own character is but the sum total of his own acts and deeds.

Whatever time I may have to devote to the discovery and exposure of the weaknesses and faults of others I will devote, more profitably, to the discovery and correction of my own.

I will slander no person — no matter how much I may believe another person may deserve it — because I wish to plant no destructive suggestions in my own mind.

I recognize the power of thought as being an inlet leading into my brain from the universal ocean of life; therefore, I will set no destructive thoughts afloat upon that ocean lest they pollute the minds of others.

I will conquer the common human tendency toward hatred, envy, selfishness, jealousy, malice, pessimism, doubt, and fear — for I believe these to be the seeds from which the world harvests most of its trouble..

When my mind is not occupied with thoughts that tend toward the attainment of my definite goal in life, I will voluntarily keep it filled with thoughts of courage, self-confidence, goodwill toward others, faith, kindness, loyalty, love for truth, and justice-for I believe these to be the seeds from which the world reaps its harvest of progressive growth.

Because I know that my character is developed from my own acts and thoughts, I will guard with care all that goes into its development.

Because I realize that enduring happiness comes only through helping others find it, and that no act of kindness is without its reward, even though it may never be directly repaid, I will do my best to assist others when and where the opportunity appears.

Source: http://www.naphill.org/get-involved/star...of-ethics/]]> <![CDATA[A Brief Essay About Life by Napoleon Hill]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1834 Sun, 05 Feb 2012 15:36:52 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1834
“Temporary defeat does not make me sad. I simply set music to the words of defeat and turn it into a song. Your tears are not for me, for I like laughter much better, and because I like it, I use it as a substitute for grief and sorrow and pain and disappointment.

“Life, you are a fickle trickster — don’t deny it. You slipped the emotion of love into my heart so that you might use it as a thorn with which to prick my soul — but I learned to dodge your trap with laughter. You tried to lure me with the desire for gold, but I have fooled you by following the trail which leads to knowledge instead. You induced me to build beautiful friendships — then converted my friends to enemies so you may harden my heart, but I sidestepped your figure on this by laughing off your attempts and selecting new friends in my own way.

“You caused men to cheat me at trade so I will become distrustful, but I won again because I possess one precious asset which no man can steal — it is the power to think my own thoughts and to be myself. You threaten me with death, but to me death is nothing worse than a long peaceful sleep, and sleep is the sweetest of human experiences — excepting laughter. You build a fire of hope in my heart, then sprinkle water on the flames, but I can go you one better by rekindling the fire — and I laugh at you once more.

“You have nothing that can lure me away from laughter, and you are powerless to scare me into submission. To a life of laughter, then, I raise my cup of cheer!”

Source: http://www.naphill.org/get-involved/essay-on-life/]]>
“Temporary defeat does not make me sad. I simply set music to the words of defeat and turn it into a song. Your tears are not for me, for I like laughter much better, and because I like it, I use it as a substitute for grief and sorrow and pain and disappointment.

“Life, you are a fickle trickster — don’t deny it. You slipped the emotion of love into my heart so that you might use it as a thorn with which to prick my soul — but I learned to dodge your trap with laughter. You tried to lure me with the desire for gold, but I have fooled you by following the trail which leads to knowledge instead. You induced me to build beautiful friendships — then converted my friends to enemies so you may harden my heart, but I sidestepped your figure on this by laughing off your attempts and selecting new friends in my own way.

“You caused men to cheat me at trade so I will become distrustful, but I won again because I possess one precious asset which no man can steal — it is the power to think my own thoughts and to be myself. You threaten me with death, but to me death is nothing worse than a long peaceful sleep, and sleep is the sweetest of human experiences — excepting laughter. You build a fire of hope in my heart, then sprinkle water on the flames, but I can go you one better by rekindling the fire — and I laugh at you once more.

“You have nothing that can lure me away from laughter, and you are powerless to scare me into submission. To a life of laughter, then, I raise my cup of cheer!”

Source: http://www.naphill.org/get-involved/essay-on-life/]]> <![CDATA[Any interest in something like this?]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1827 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 05:41:26 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1827 (02-01-2012 05:40 PM)CalleZorro Wrote: In my view of the world, the solution is for a man to have MALE CONFIDANTES that he is close to and that he can trust.

(02-02-2012 01:22 PM)come2pappy Wrote: I use this forum as one of my "male confidants"

Some men are in an environment and circumstances where they have no male friends they can trust enough to confide in. For some men, this forum is their only place where they can open up and talk about sensitive matters. In other cases, men have friends they believe they could trust...but still, they just do not want to open up about sensitive matters to those who know them well...and so this forum is their only "outlet" as well.

To this end, here are some questions for you:

1. Are there in fact enough men here in this forum who would like and enjoy being a part of a more formalized, higher contact, "confidante group"...where time is regularly set aside and devoted to the "confidante group"...where men have the opportunity to talk about whatever is on their mind with other members of their "confidante group"?

2. If yes, (whether high-tech or low-tech,) how could we better serve this need?

3. Or, is the informal approach of private PM's and messages and the occasional phone call between "buddies" already serving the need well enough?

What do you think? What do you want? How can we make this a more valuable place for you? What are your ideas?]]> <![CDATA[My son is learning the differences between a man and a woman]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1820 Mon, 30 Jan 2012 13:26:51 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1820 <![CDATA[What "label" do you give yourself?]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1816 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:08:13 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1816 "sometimes I like to observe people."

As a matter of fact, I find human behavior fascinating. Although,
scary at times.

Recently, I was out to dinner with my wife and oldest son.

It was a cozy atmosphere and the dining tables were somewhat
close together but not too close that it was uncomfortable.

Well, as our waiter was taking our order, three young woman
were seated at a table just across from me, behind where my
son was sitting. I would guess there age around mid-to-late
twenties.

They were quickly engaged in lively conversation.

During the lull in the talk at our table between my son and wife,
snippets of conversation would drift over to my ear.

I clearly heard one of the girls say,"I'm not the affectionate type!"

Well, it got me thinking about what happened in that young women's life
for her to say;

"I'm not the affectionate type."

My point is that we each have to be careful of what label we give
to ourselves.

If you consider yourself as someone who can't give affection,
you may draw the same type of person to YOU!

My thoughts are that we learn how to love when we are children.
But as we grow older, through the pain inflicted by others, we
draw back on giving affection.

The beautiful thing about Calle Zorro's program of Married and Happy is that real men learn to stop hurting the woman they love so that their
women can open up and be affectionate again.

I am not paid to say these things but I do emphatically endorse
Married and Happy.]]> "sometimes I like to observe people."

As a matter of fact, I find human behavior fascinating. Although,
scary at times.

Recently, I was out to dinner with my wife and oldest son.

It was a cozy atmosphere and the dining tables were somewhat
close together but not too close that it was uncomfortable.

Well, as our waiter was taking our order, three young woman
were seated at a table just across from me, behind where my
son was sitting. I would guess there age around mid-to-late
twenties.

They were quickly engaged in lively conversation.

During the lull in the talk at our table between my son and wife,
snippets of conversation would drift over to my ear.

I clearly heard one of the girls say,"I'm not the affectionate type!"

Well, it got me thinking about what happened in that young women's life
for her to say;

"I'm not the affectionate type."

My point is that we each have to be careful of what label we give
to ourselves.

If you consider yourself as someone who can't give affection,
you may draw the same type of person to YOU!

My thoughts are that we learn how to love when we are children.
But as we grow older, through the pain inflicted by others, we
draw back on giving affection.

The beautiful thing about Calle Zorro's program of Married and Happy is that real men learn to stop hurting the woman they love so that their
women can open up and be affectionate again.

I am not paid to say these things but I do emphatically endorse
Married and Happy.]]> <![CDATA[Suffering from ED]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1807 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 08:52:40 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1807
I am suffering from ED. Do any of you have any solutions? I am having some issues with taking vagra. Suggestions?

Roger Willing]]>
I am suffering from ED. Do any of you have any solutions? I am having some issues with taking vagra. Suggestions?

Roger Willing]]> <![CDATA[Movie: Crazy, Stupid Love]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1769 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 12:12:07 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1769

Jkalplus1]]>

Jkalplus1]]> <![CDATA[Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1754 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:38:20 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1754
If we have learned anything ... if we have developed ourselves into a bigger, better person ... if our awareness has been expanded ... if we have served, helped, or blessed even one person, then 2011 has been a good year for us.

For those of you who have been developing and improving your attractiveness and manliness for a while, 2011 has probably been one of the best years of your life ... and the prospects for next year are even better.

For those of you who have just begun developing and improving your attractiveness and manliness, 2011 may have felt like the worst year of your life. But all is well ... before you know it, you will have learned, worked, and developed yourself into the circumstances, conditions, and situations that you WANT to be in with a wonderful lady.

But, regardless of what level you are on, take a moment to feel proud of yourself for what you have learned and for the improvements you have made. Yes, you want more ... I understand that ... but pause for right now and just be proud of yourself for the progress you have made over the past weeks and months. And as you do this, I am sure you will see that you have actually accomplished a lot already.

To each one of you, I want you to know that I respect and appreciate you. I am thankful that our paths have come together. It has been a pleasure interacting with you in this forum. My life is blessed because of you ... and I trust that your life has been blessed because of me.

I cannot say it too much, I count it a honor to associate and collaborate with men like you ... men who are high-quality, high-caliber, and high-value ... men who want to be their best and who want to enjoy the very best in life that God has for them. I LIKE hanging out with guys like you! And, I mean that from the depths of my heart.

To you "senior" guys who have been with me for a while, THANK YOU for your contributions. YOU ARE what makes this forum a FANTASTIC place for men. I hope you understand how immensely helpful, beneficial, and appreciated your posts are. Everyone here appreciates you taking the time to share your experience and learning.

For those of you with a wife and children, find ways to BLESS your wife and children during this Holiday season. Set aside all that you want ... and all that you want to be different for just a week or two ... and just devote yourself to being a blessing without any thought of gain or recompense. Just be that cheerful giver.

For those of you who are without a spouse during this Holiday season, my heart and prayer is with you. I KNOW how it feels ... God gave me 5 years of being alone between my first wife and my second wife ... just so I WOULD know how you feel and what it is like. And I can promise you, it WILL NOT always be this way. But for now, avoid thinking about what you are missing or what could be and redirect your mind towards imagining what it will be like when the woman that's for you shows up in your life. Similarly, set aside the thoughts about what you do not have and focus your attention and energy upon that which you do have ... and there IS something that you do have ... perhaps it is your children ... or perhaps it is close family or friends.

Having said this, I do wish there was some way I could bring together those of you who are without a spouse during these holidays so that they could be a little more enjoyable. Unfortunately, I don't know of a practical way to do that.

I'll close with this...

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! I look forward to all the good that 2012 has for us ... and I look forward to sharing 2012 with you.

Warmly,
Calle

PS: I am going to take off through New Year's to do some traveling with my family. And, I will mostly be unavailable during that time. But, when I get back, I will catch up on the threads here in the forum that I haven't responded to yet.]]>
If we have learned anything ... if we have developed ourselves into a bigger, better person ... if our awareness has been expanded ... if we have served, helped, or blessed even one person, then 2011 has been a good year for us.

For those of you who have been developing and improving your attractiveness and manliness for a while, 2011 has probably been one of the best years of your life ... and the prospects for next year are even better.

For those of you who have just begun developing and improving your attractiveness and manliness, 2011 may have felt like the worst year of your life. But all is well ... before you know it, you will have learned, worked, and developed yourself into the circumstances, conditions, and situations that you WANT to be in with a wonderful lady.

But, regardless of what level you are on, take a moment to feel proud of yourself for what you have learned and for the improvements you have made. Yes, you want more ... I understand that ... but pause for right now and just be proud of yourself for the progress you have made over the past weeks and months. And as you do this, I am sure you will see that you have actually accomplished a lot already.

To each one of you, I want you to know that I respect and appreciate you. I am thankful that our paths have come together. It has been a pleasure interacting with you in this forum. My life is blessed because of you ... and I trust that your life has been blessed because of me.

I cannot say it too much, I count it a honor to associate and collaborate with men like you ... men who are high-quality, high-caliber, and high-value ... men who want to be their best and who want to enjoy the very best in life that God has for them. I LIKE hanging out with guys like you! And, I mean that from the depths of my heart.

To you "senior" guys who have been with me for a while, THANK YOU for your contributions. YOU ARE what makes this forum a FANTASTIC place for men. I hope you understand how immensely helpful, beneficial, and appreciated your posts are. Everyone here appreciates you taking the time to share your experience and learning.

For those of you with a wife and children, find ways to BLESS your wife and children during this Holiday season. Set aside all that you want ... and all that you want to be different for just a week or two ... and just devote yourself to being a blessing without any thought of gain or recompense. Just be that cheerful giver.

For those of you who are without a spouse during this Holiday season, my heart and prayer is with you. I KNOW how it feels ... God gave me 5 years of being alone between my first wife and my second wife ... just so I WOULD know how you feel and what it is like. And I can promise you, it WILL NOT always be this way. But for now, avoid thinking about what you are missing or what could be and redirect your mind towards imagining what it will be like when the woman that's for you shows up in your life. Similarly, set aside the thoughts about what you do not have and focus your attention and energy upon that which you do have ... and there IS something that you do have ... perhaps it is your children ... or perhaps it is close family or friends.

Having said this, I do wish there was some way I could bring together those of you who are without a spouse during these holidays so that they could be a little more enjoyable. Unfortunately, I don't know of a practical way to do that.

I'll close with this...

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! I look forward to all the good that 2012 has for us ... and I look forward to sharing 2012 with you.

Warmly,
Calle

PS: I am going to take off through New Year's to do some traveling with my family. And, I will mostly be unavailable during that time. But, when I get back, I will catch up on the threads here in the forum that I haven't responded to yet.]]> <![CDATA[I'm not getting results...]]> http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1716 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 18:51:17 -0700 http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Forum/showthread.php?tid=1716
Frequently, during the first few months of coming into this program...a man is essentially still operating in the same way as before...he is still operating in HIS OLD way...except he has made things a little better by improving some things that he is comfortable with...which again, is usually more or less all the stuff he was ALREADY doing right to some extent.

Make a note of this...

Dissatisfying results in a marriage relationship almost always stem from the things a husband is doing wrong...and from all the important things he's not doing because he's not comfortable with them...in relation to his wife.

Now, I understand that this doesn't feel very good because it puts a lot of "blame" on the husband...but the fact remains...take any woman in the world...no matter how non-affectionate, non-sexual, or non-whatever she is with her partner...put her in close proximity with a different man who has purposely made it his business to know how to interact with and handle a woman...and you will IMMEDIATELY see this woman start behaving in an affectionate, sexual, or whatever way...you will immediately see her become alive, animated, flirty, etc.

The point being...THIS kind of man does NOT have "holes" in his mode of operation...he does not have areas where he is "uncomfortable" doing certain things that a woman needs from him in order to be activated, animated, and turned-on by him. In HIS mode of operation, he has made it his business to be completely comfortable doing whatever he needs to do to get good results with a woman.

Back to my original point...some men will call me up...and say they are "doing everything I teach but not getting results"...and as we begin talking...it always becomes clear there is a "hole" in their way of operating...there is an area they are not comfortable in...and I start pointing them to those places in the books where I talk about whatever their "hole" is...and even though they had read those parts, they didn't "see" them because they were still in the mode of confirming and justifying their self.

The thing is...until a guy gets fed up with getting bad results...he is likely to more or less stay in confirming and justifying himself mode...he is likely to stay in the mode of doing ONLY what he is comfortable doing.

But, once he gets fed up with bad results and determines that he is no longer interested in justifying himself...that he is no longer going to restrict himself to only that which is comfortable to him...because that is not working for him...that he is only interested in doing whatever it is that works no matter how uncomfortable or awkward it feels to him...THAT is when he will begin to get things REALLY changing for the better.

And, here is the thing fellows...you can pretty much count on the fact that in a woman's mind, her "responsibility" is to make herself pretty and physically attractive...in her mind, her only responsibility is to make her self up so that she catches your interest and attention...and then pretty much everything else is YOUR "responsibility"...to "make" it happen...to BE THE MAN WHO CAN LEAD you and her to the happy, passionate place that you both want to enjoy.

So, the sooner we ACCEPT this responsibility and become the MAN who can make it happen for us and our wife, the sooner we can get to the outcomes we want.

And, we better not be lolly-gagging around lest our wife have a chance encounter with one of those guys who has made it his business to KNOW how to "fan her spark into a flame".

So, in relation to your wife...

What are those areas in my books that you are turning a blind eye to because they feel uncomfortable to you?

For some guys, the question is...which of my books are you avoiding because you are afraid of what they might say that you know you won't be comfortable with?

Your answer to these questions is probably the same area where your greatest payoff is going to come from.]]>
Frequently, during the first few months of coming into this program...a man is essentially still operating in the same way as before...he is still operating in HIS OLD way...except he has made things a little better by improving some things that he is comfortable with...which again, is usually more or less all the stuff he was ALREADY doing right to some extent.

Make a note of this...

Dissatisfying results in a marriage relationship almost always stem from the things a husband is doing wrong...and from all the important things he's not doing because he's not comfortable with them...in relation to his wife.

Now, I understand that this doesn't feel very good because it puts a lot of "blame" on the husband...but the fact remains...take any woman in the world...no matter how non-affectionate, non-sexual, or non-whatever she is with her partner...put her in close proximity with a different man who has purposely made it his business to know how to interact with and handle a woman...and you will IMMEDIATELY see this woman start behaving in an affectionate, sexual, or whatever way...you will immediately see her become alive, animated, flirty, etc.

The point being...THIS kind of man does NOT have "holes" in his mode of operation...he does not have areas where he is "uncomfortable" doing certain things that a woman needs from him in order to be activated, animated, and turned-on by him. In HIS mode of operation, he has made it his business to be completely comfortable doing whatever he needs to do to get good results with a woman.

Back to my original point...some men will call me up...and say they are "doing everything I teach but not getting results"...and as we begin talking...it always becomes clear there is a "hole" in their way of operating...there is an area they are not comfortable in...and I start pointing them to those places in the books where I talk about whatever their "hole" is...and even though they had read those parts, they didn't "see" them because they were still in the mode of confirming and justifying their self.

The thing is...until a guy gets fed up with getting bad results...he is likely to more or less stay in confirming and justifying himself mode...he is likely to stay in the mode of doing ONLY what he is comfortable doing.

But, once he gets fed up with bad results and determines that he is no longer interested in justifying himself...that he is no longer going to restrict himself to only that which is comfortable to him...because that is not working for him...that he is only interested in doing whatever it is that works no matter how uncomfortable or awkward it feels to him...THAT is when he will begin to get things REALLY changing for the better.

And, here is the thing fellows...you can pretty much count on the fact that in a woman's mind, her "responsibility" is to make herself pretty and physically attractive...in her mind, her only responsibility is to make her self up so that she catches your interest and attention...and then pretty much everything else is YOUR "responsibility"...to "make" it happen...to BE THE MAN WHO CAN LEAD you and her to the happy, passionate place that you both want to enjoy.

So, the sooner we ACCEPT this responsibility and become the MAN who can make it happen for us and our wife, the sooner we can get to the outcomes we want.

And, we better not be lolly-gagging around lest our wife have a chance encounter with one of those guys who has made it his business to KNOW how to "fan her spark into a flame".

So, in relation to your wife...

What are those areas in my books that you are turning a blind eye to because they feel uncomfortable to you?

For some guys, the question is...which of my books are you avoiding because you are afraid of what they might say that you know you won't be comfortable with?

Your answer to these questions is probably the same area where your greatest payoff is going to come from.]]>