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I just wanted to let you guys know that God has done a miracle in the last week in my marriage.  While we were really struggling up until last Tuesday, since then things have amazingly turned around to the point that I moved back home today.  Mainly I’ve been trying to embrace/validate her feelings and “go there” with her.  When I do this it only seems to draw us closer.  After almost 9 years of marriage, we are now sharing sexual intimacy like never before. 
 
I was overcome with tears today as I was moving my stuff back home.  It has been an incredible long hard journey filled with sleepless nights, reading, growing, heart wrenching cries, shouting at God, painful yearning, temptation, prayer and tears. 
 
But I feel like I've passed the test.  I've gone through the Refiner's fire and I've passed the test.  I feel like I’m standing high up on the mountain top shouting in victory!  For despite all the temptations, trials and tribulations I have overcome each one of them.  
 
All thanks to God through His grace He gave me the power to carry it out.  And this program is one of the main tools that turned it around.  It was when I began to diligently work Calle’s program that my marriage started to turn around during the separation.
 
My prayer when I left home in Nov/Dec was that I would return and when I did that I wouldn't be selfish.  Some of those unselfish moments that I now do automatically I look at and think this isn't the same me that I remember.  Amazing!  God has done a mighty work in me and I will never be the same. 
 
Thank all you guys for your support and prayers thru all this.  I know that now the REAL test begins which is to CONTINUE to do the things that got me here, which is to passionately love my wife & family DAILY doing the formula and seek to carry out His will in everything I do.   
 
Thank you Jesus.
 
Love you guys,

Congratulations, Amroberts,

Good things come to those that have the courage to change their ways.

amroberts, Yea!!! <hand-clapping> I am so happy for you! Keep growing. Keep applying. Let your joy show without being clingy.

amroberts - Welcome back to Happy Marriage! Congratulations. You had the courage to make a voyage of self discovery and have turned yourself and your marriage around. May the rest of your married days be blessed the love and joy that you both deserve.

I think since I've never been here before, that is in the world of "happy marriage," the next step is to learn how to stay there. Specifically without having my back against the wall as a motivator. Idiots like me have had to be forced to change, rather than always looking for ways to improve and grow naturally. I don't want to be that man anymore. I want to keep what I have and not backslide anymore which will be a daily task. I am tremendously thankful though that NOW I know WHAT TO DO, that the Formula works, that its simple and if I continue to do it daily, as well as the principles in "Sexual Marriage," "Seducer" and the "Turnaround Guide", that this incredible marriage will continue. Thank you all again, and especially God thru Calle his instrument.