04-01-2010, 08:42 AM
I am posting this message here so that everyone can see it, even those who have not purchased any of Calle's books.
I was broweing a site that offers free e-books the other day and I came across one called "How to Dominate Women". I was curious to see what this guy had to say and how it would compare to Calle's program so I downloaded it. What a waste of band width. I only got three pages in and decided that this guy was completely on the on wrong track so I stopped reading. After that I skipped ahead to see what the various chapters were and read a few paragraphs here and there.
The author's basic premise seemed to be that since the dawn of time men have been breaking their backs to try and make the world more comfortable for women, and women have always taken it for granted. Apparently men are responsible for every great innovation mankind has ever developed and we didn't actually want or need any of it for ourselves. We did it for women and they said thank you very much and then went back to gossiping and filing their nails. They didn't appreciate what we were doing for them.
The author then goes on to say that enough is enough. Its time for men to stop working for women and take control. The author seems to like using the analogy of a dog on a leash and he repeatedly asks the reader to remember that someone is going to be holding the leash and someone is going to be on the end of it. The point is that men are supposed to be holding the leash.
One section I spot read was about a trick to undermine a woman's confidence. You are supposed to tell her that you will call her at a certain time and then intentionally call an hour later than that. During the one hour that she is waiting for the call she will apparently fall into self doubt and question whether or not you are ever going to call. Then when you do call she will be overcome with relief and you have now positioned yourself as dominant.
There was a time in my not-to-distant past when I probably would have bought into crap like this. I was not happy with my relationship and I felt like I was undervalued and taken for granted by my wife. I will admit that I even allowed myself to imagine how much better my life would be if I could reach inside my wife's head and flip some switch that made her suddenly submissive. Its easy to see why this would be very appealing to a man who is tired of having his requests for affection and sex ignored.
However, its a sham idea. This "How to Dominate Women" book is essentially a big manual for how to manipulate women into doing what you want. The tactics that this author is promoting are disrespectful, and some would qualify as emotional abuse in my opinion. Do you really want to be a relationship where your woman does what you say because she is afraid of the consequences of saying No? Do you really want to be in a relationship where you have to constantly be applying little manipulative tricks to keep your wife in line? For a while you might feel euphoric about the fact that you have this woman under your thumb, but deep down inside you would know that it is all a sham. You would know that if you ever let off the pressure she would realize that you are a just a control freak who treats her badly and she would drop you like a bad habit.
Calle's program is completely different. Calle's program is about changing yourself to become the kind of person that your wife can be drawn to by virtue of the strength and positive energy that you radiate to the world. Calle wants you to love and cherish your wife and meet her emotional needs so that she can feel safe to reciprocate and make a concious effort to meet your needs. She will do this because she wants to, and because you are deserving of it, not because she is afraid of the consequences.
If you are looking at the paragraph above and saying "thats never going to happen in my relationship. We are too disfunctional. We are too far gone" then I ask you to please have hope and faith that this program is worth doing. There are people on these forums who have brought their marriages back from the brink of divorce and some have even managed to lead their wife back from infidelity and managed to get back to a place where they have a loving and mutually respectful relationship again.
I am not a salesman for Calle, but I think this is worth saying to anyone that is looking at this forum and wondering if they should start the program or not. Yes it costs some money, but if you are willing to read the materials with an open mind, and make a strong effort to change yourself to become a better man then it will be the best investment you ever made.
The guy who wrote "How to Dominate Women" wants you to think that the only way to have a happy relationship with a woman is to keep her on a leash. However, in keeping with that analogy, dogs who are always on a leash tend to run away when the leash breaks.
If you really want a loving relationship with your wife, a relationship in which she gives you respect and affection and intimacy freely then ignore anyone who tries to sell you on manipulation techniques and start on Calle's program instead. What Calle will ask you to do is not at all easy, but most of the effort is up front. Most of the pain is in facing your own insecurities and dealing with them so that you can approach your wife openly and honestly and with loving compassion. In the long run it is a whole lot esaier than trying to keep her under your thumb.
There should be no leash in a loving relationship.
I was broweing a site that offers free e-books the other day and I came across one called "How to Dominate Women". I was curious to see what this guy had to say and how it would compare to Calle's program so I downloaded it. What a waste of band width. I only got three pages in and decided that this guy was completely on the on wrong track so I stopped reading. After that I skipped ahead to see what the various chapters were and read a few paragraphs here and there.
The author's basic premise seemed to be that since the dawn of time men have been breaking their backs to try and make the world more comfortable for women, and women have always taken it for granted. Apparently men are responsible for every great innovation mankind has ever developed and we didn't actually want or need any of it for ourselves. We did it for women and they said thank you very much and then went back to gossiping and filing their nails. They didn't appreciate what we were doing for them.
The author then goes on to say that enough is enough. Its time for men to stop working for women and take control. The author seems to like using the analogy of a dog on a leash and he repeatedly asks the reader to remember that someone is going to be holding the leash and someone is going to be on the end of it. The point is that men are supposed to be holding the leash.
One section I spot read was about a trick to undermine a woman's confidence. You are supposed to tell her that you will call her at a certain time and then intentionally call an hour later than that. During the one hour that she is waiting for the call she will apparently fall into self doubt and question whether or not you are ever going to call. Then when you do call she will be overcome with relief and you have now positioned yourself as dominant.
There was a time in my not-to-distant past when I probably would have bought into crap like this. I was not happy with my relationship and I felt like I was undervalued and taken for granted by my wife. I will admit that I even allowed myself to imagine how much better my life would be if I could reach inside my wife's head and flip some switch that made her suddenly submissive. Its easy to see why this would be very appealing to a man who is tired of having his requests for affection and sex ignored.
However, its a sham idea. This "How to Dominate Women" book is essentially a big manual for how to manipulate women into doing what you want. The tactics that this author is promoting are disrespectful, and some would qualify as emotional abuse in my opinion. Do you really want to be a relationship where your woman does what you say because she is afraid of the consequences of saying No? Do you really want to be in a relationship where you have to constantly be applying little manipulative tricks to keep your wife in line? For a while you might feel euphoric about the fact that you have this woman under your thumb, but deep down inside you would know that it is all a sham. You would know that if you ever let off the pressure she would realize that you are a just a control freak who treats her badly and she would drop you like a bad habit.
Calle's program is completely different. Calle's program is about changing yourself to become the kind of person that your wife can be drawn to by virtue of the strength and positive energy that you radiate to the world. Calle wants you to love and cherish your wife and meet her emotional needs so that she can feel safe to reciprocate and make a concious effort to meet your needs. She will do this because she wants to, and because you are deserving of it, not because she is afraid of the consequences.
If you are looking at the paragraph above and saying "thats never going to happen in my relationship. We are too disfunctional. We are too far gone" then I ask you to please have hope and faith that this program is worth doing. There are people on these forums who have brought their marriages back from the brink of divorce and some have even managed to lead their wife back from infidelity and managed to get back to a place where they have a loving and mutually respectful relationship again.
I am not a salesman for Calle, but I think this is worth saying to anyone that is looking at this forum and wondering if they should start the program or not. Yes it costs some money, but if you are willing to read the materials with an open mind, and make a strong effort to change yourself to become a better man then it will be the best investment you ever made.
The guy who wrote "How to Dominate Women" wants you to think that the only way to have a happy relationship with a woman is to keep her on a leash. However, in keeping with that analogy, dogs who are always on a leash tend to run away when the leash breaks.
If you really want a loving relationship with your wife, a relationship in which she gives you respect and affection and intimacy freely then ignore anyone who tries to sell you on manipulation techniques and start on Calle's program instead. What Calle will ask you to do is not at all easy, but most of the effort is up front. Most of the pain is in facing your own insecurities and dealing with them so that you can approach your wife openly and honestly and with loving compassion. In the long run it is a whole lot esaier than trying to keep her under your thumb.
There should be no leash in a loving relationship.