For all you Men that arent sure about these books. This is for real. After 28 years of marriage and 18 months of pure hell with zero sex. I read these books.
In the last three week's. I have went from being in handcuff's to her asking me if I wanted sex. I thought this was the coldest woman on the face of the earth and it was completly over. Thanks to Calle's books thing's are looking up. We have a long way too go. But it's a start that I never thought was possible.
Thank you Calle.
Best Regards,
Meridian
Great job Meridian,
never say never.
I you change approch, people around you are inspired to change approach.
If someone is not ready to appreciate your approch...he will loose the opportunity to enjoy a great man.
A husband that after 28 years of marriage is able to say such things to his wife is actually a great man!
Regards,
Minotauro9
Thanks for the support.
I find it interesting that a man has to wait untill the brink of desaster to take a look at himself.
But, If you don't. You can't expect any change in your relationship.
Again, Thank you Calle
(01-04-2010 10:14 PM)Meridian Wrote: [ -> ]For all you Men that arent sure about these books. This is for real. After 28 years of marriage and 18 months of pure hell with zero sex. I read these books.
In the last three week's. I have went from being in handcuff's to her asking me if I wanted sex. I thought this was the coldest woman on the face of the earth and it was completly over. Thanks to Calle's books thing's are looking up. We have a long way too go. But it's a start that I never thought was possible.
Thank you Calle.
Rick J
Hi meridian,
I am new here that was an encouraging post. How has it been going, any advice for a newbie, what did u do in the first three weeks?
Thanks Daphmi
(09-04-2010 11:04 PM)daphmi Wrote: [ -> ] (01-04-2010 10:14 PM)Meridian Wrote: [ -> ]For all you Men that arent sure about these books. This is for real. After 28 years of marriage and 18 months of pure hell with zero sex. I read these books.
In the last three week's. I have went from being in handcuff's to her asking me if I wanted sex. I thought this was the coldest woman on the face of the earth and it was completly over. Thanks to Calle's books thing's are looking up. We have a long way too go. But it's a start that I never thought was possible.
Thank you Calle.
Rick J
Hi meridian,
I am new here that was an encouraging post. How has it been going, any advice for a newbie, what did u do in the first three weeks?
Thanks Daphmi
Hello Daphmi,
First let me say Welcome to the forum. You have come to the right place.
I have been here about nine months. I will admit that those first several weeks, I saw some inspiring changes. I was so excited to start having sex again. It was a great thing. Things today are much, much better. I have moved beyond sex alone. I am building a marriage built on mutual kindness, respect, appriciation, and all the things that lead to being "Married and Happy". When you can do that, The SEX is just that much more fulfilling. So, that being said. My advice to you is to pour your heart into reading Calles system. Spend time with the men in the forums. The insight, wisdom, and support you will receive from these two things will guide you to the happieness you desire.
This conversation is better suited for the "nymph Wife" or "Sexual Marriage" forums. I'll be looking for your post's there.
I would suggest that when you first approach one of Calle's books, you should do the following:
Read it through from cover to cover, then go back and read it again. The second time through you may notice things that you did not notice the first time.
After a couple of read throughs, get into the forums and start getting value out of the many men who have gone down the road ahead of you. Read posts, ask questions, give advice. Even those of us who have been here for months or years still learn things from reading the posts of newbies. Tell us what your situation is and you may find others who have been in the same place.
Do not try to implement the entire program at one time. There is just way too much in there. Instead, pick a few things that you know you could be better at, and work on them first. The key to being successful in this program is to develop good habits by consistently repeating the behaviors that Calle recommends. Once you become comfortable with a particular area, move on to tackle something else.
Finally, enjoy the process. Too many people come in salivating for more sex and get frustrated if it does not happen right away. It takes time to turn a marriage around. You have to learn to enjoy all of the little successes that happen along the way to a happy sexual marriage. Learn to enjoy the smiles, the hugs, the praise and the good times together. Learn to enjoy the steady build up of good feeling between you and your wife. Its all good.