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Hey gyes been allong time sense I posted anything. Just wanted to say things are going allot better with wife. Had another question. How help my wife with a weight problem? I am 6'3 and 200 pounds I always had issue with putting weight on untill currently. My wife has the regular problem with putting to much weight on. Not being mean she would say the same thing.

Hello elite,

I am glad things are working out for you.

I have a little experience with the weight issue in my older daughter. There is a simple formula really: a relationship between the food getting in and the energy spent. One cannot deal with this issue by food only, and it is extremely difficult to do so. Diets have the tendency of the body reacting against them. They work well the first time, but the weight comes back faster than before, because the body says:"let me store this energy before that nasty food deprivation time comes back".

So, the more a person does diets, the more the body reacts by gaining weight afterwards.

That has happened with my kid. She gained weight, went to a nutritionist, did some diet, lost weight. When she was back to her normal meals, the weight came back really fast.

So, my advise to her was: eat all you want, but dont spend your time sitting and lying in the couch. Do exercise, practice some sport. The energy you are ingesting has to be used somewhere, or it will accumulate.

That is what she has being doing, practicing basketball and volleyball. And while eating scary amounts of food, she is getting fit.

(06-04-2011 03:22 AM)Ram Wrote: [ -> ]The energy you are ingesting has to be used somewhere, or it will accumulate.

I think this is the best way of putting it that I have ever seen. Ram, I am going to appropriate that one from you my friend.

And, I totally agree. NOBODY is excused or excepted from the need to put the right kinds of energy into their body and the need to exercise.

The energy we put into our body in the form of food MUST be USED or it will turn against our body and harm it...it WILL turn into sickness...and it does this in many different ways.

For many people, the sickness manifested from the unused energy they put into their body is life-shortening, enjoyment-squelching, pain-causing, attraction-killing body-fat.

But others may not show body-fat but they WILL manifest the unused energy sickness in some other form such as allergies, asthma, various other types of infections, migraines, severe acne, and so on.

Some are fortunate enough that they are able to manifest the unused energy sickness in BOTH kinds of ways...body-fat AND sickness. (Yea for them!!!)

Of course, nobody wants to hear this kind of advice...so doctors never dispense it...because if they did, they would soon be out of business and would not be able to pay for their lavish lifestyles...so they make up big medical names and tell people they have <plug in common medical term> and need a prescription for <plug in commonly prescribed drug>.

And of course, most people who are overweight or who have these other manifested sicknesses would say that I am an idiot who doesn't know what he is talking about...but if they would EVER start seriously EXERCISING, they would be amazed at how much their "problems" start going away...and if they would continue exercising, they would find that their problems would completely go away.

The caveat here is that there are some forms of energy (think commonly available sugar, grease, processed-flour laden "foods") that are so harmful and toxic to our body's system that even extreme exercise cannot circumvent their harm.

So attractiveness and health ALWAYS boil down to the two simple variables of:

A) What are you putting into your body?

B) How are you USING what you put into your body?

As with all of life, a person has a choice:

1. Choose to eat wrong (put harmful forms of energy into their body)...and choose to NOT exercise...and enjoy the sicknesses that will infallibly manifest in their body...and enjoy the corresponding expense, loss-of-life-enjoyment, and people-repelling that comes with their manifested sicknesses.

2. Choose to eat right, exercise right, and enjoy the kind of life that God intended for them to enjoy...which includes being their healthiest, most attractive self.

And, assuming that you want both yourself and your spouse to be healthy and attractive, you have a negotiation to make...

"Wife, I am glad you are my wife...I am glad that we are married and together...and I want us to be able to enjoy our time together on this earth as long as possible...I am NOT interested in leaving you any sooner than I have to...and I am NOT interested in you leaving me any sooner than you have to...and a part of that means we need to be healthy and fit or we will suffer LOTS of consequences both on a personal level and in our marriage. So, that means we BOTH have to eat right and we BOTH have to exercise in a way that works for us personally and together. So, let's brainstorm and talk about HOW we want to cover these two items in a way that works for both of us..."

Hey thanks gyes. It funny you posted that Calle, Sunday I had a very similiar talk with my wife. She said it was a little hard to hear, but that was the most sexiest thing I ever said to her. Just wanted to say thanks for all the help. Life is good. Just have to man up and handle it!