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How To Eliminate The "I'm Too Tired" Excuse…

When you hear your lady say she's too tired to make love, you need to understand that more often than not what she's really saying is:
  • I have given all I've got to everyone else and I have nothing else to give.
  • I need time for me.
  • I want someone to hold me.
  • I want someone to talk to me.
  • I want someone to be my "nurse" for a little while.
  • I need someone to care about "me" for a change.
  • I want someone to make me feel better
Now that you understand what she’s really saying, you have a couple of choices to make. You pick the result you want from the following choices and carry out the instructions:

Result #1: 0% chance of S E X for the next several weeks

Tell her you despise the day you married her and that if there weren't kids involved, you would dump her in a minute. Then, ignore her while making it very clear you are extremely mad at her for not putting out.

Result #2: 10% chance of S E X tonight

Turn on your "best-behavior" and tell her you love her and that you understand how she feels. Ask her if you can get her a cup of hot tea or something. Then ask her if she would like for you to rub her feet.

Do it different tomorrow…

The real point is that you are too late. You didn’t take responsibility for making sure she was turned on and ready by bed time.

That’s right! As a man, you are the one who needs to take responsibility for turning your lady on so that she is ready for you.

Unfortunately, you may well be too late to change anything for tonight. But, the good news is that tomorrow is a new day. Tomorrow, you can cause things to be different.

What are you going to do to turn your wife on? What needs to happen so that you get a different response besides “I’m too tired” from her?

Find the answers and then implement!

Copyright 2007, Article by Calle Zorro. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if a resource box pointing to http://www.marriedandhappy.com/ is included with it.

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10 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah, blame it on the man... you know, the one who works full time and pays all your bills. The one who fixes everything you break, the one who does the chores without complaining. Cooks dinner... yet somehow no matter how we try its all our fault... i dont think so. Too tired is a piss poor excuse for "I care about only how I feel"

August 15, 2008 6:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I couldn't have said it any better myself. "Piss Poor Excuse"!

October 8, 2008 6:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah lame excuse. It takes two! Blame it on the man. Blah! If she won't spread, I'll shake and bake elsewhere. Not my fault.

April 17, 2009 3:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I completely agree. Horrible excuse. I know damn well that if I was tired and SHE was ready to go, I would pull whatever energy I've got left to make it happen!

May 14, 2009 1:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whatever, gentlemen...many women work full time outside the home and also take care of the house and kids, as well as paying the bills each month. I know a lot of men - my husband included - who sleep in until 8:30 or 9:30 a.m., show up after six when the kids are picked up from daycare and dinner's started, and then head back out to work in the evening, and then complain about not getting any. I'm sorry, I wake up at 5:00 to get everything straight and get the kids up and ready for school in the morning, work a full day, come home and watch the kids in the evening - and by the time he drags himself to bed around midnight or so I am already asleep. If you want some action - go where the action might be. Get off your a$$, turn off the TV, and go upstairs at a reasonable hour. It may take her a week or two to get over her shock that you are actually making that effort - but she'll probably appreciate it once it sinks in.

June 10, 2009 4:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is a bullshit advice. The woman needs to step it up once in a while.

July 8, 2009 12:58 AM  
Blogger Calle Zorro said...

Those guys who think this is BS advice...

They want the woman to take the lead and create the happy, sexual marriage...

They are still waiting around for her to do that...

Oh sure, they do things...but they do them to GET something from their woman...

The woman is repulsed by such a man...

They'll continue waiting...

Until their wife gets tired of waiting on them to be a man and take the lead...

And, she'll go find another man who can make it happen for himself and for her...

After she's gone, they'll still be blaming the woman...

They'll still be saying that the woman should have stepped up...

They'll still be in denial...

They'll still be blaming others...

They'll still refuse to take the responsibility of becoming a MAN!

Look at their comments...can you sense their negative energy?

If you were a woman, would you want to be married to such a man?

July 17, 2009 9:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What both sides need to understand is the "For better and for worse, in sickness and in health" part of the typical marriage vows.

It doesn't mean you, when well, will do these things, it means "always" caring and feeding your mate the things that they need to remain a healthy person from all perspectives.

Both sides are responsible, but women need to understand that Sex is an outlet for men, not a casual event. When men have the drive, there is not a simple switch that turns it off. The longer a male abstains, the more easily excited they become.

There is a pretty common phrase, "feed your mate, or someone else will".

Women often are quoted as saying things like "he doesn't care for me like he used to", or "he just ignores what I need". Think about all the responsibilities and things that everyone deals with, and whether you are turning off his desire to serve some of your wants and desires because he's not seeing you put forth the effort either.

Somethings to think about on both sides.

August 21, 2009 1:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have tried all the advice given. Killing myself with work AND housework AND kids. Get her dinner ready and run her bath so she can relax while I get the kids to bed. I suggest we turn off the TV and head up early. I try to cuddle her while we kiss goodnight and she immediately says "No Sex, I'm too tired!"

Sorry but I can't take this anymore - she assures me she isn't getting it elsewhere and I believe her. I just need some intimacy, flying solo just doesn't give enough relief - so what am I supposed to do?

November 4, 2009 5:23 AM  
Blogger Calle Zorro said...

I suggest guys like the previous commentor read the following posts:

http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Blog/2009/12/more-loving-and-sexual-wife.html

http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Blog/2009/11/my-wife-does-not-give-me-love-respect.html

http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Blog/2009/11/i-want-my-wife-to-want-me-as-much-as-i.html

Read more: http://www.marriedandhappy.com/Blog/2008/02/story-for-sexually-frustrated-men.html#ixzz0ZEafEz5B

December 9, 2009 5:04 PM  

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